Laws of early divorce

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asked 3 years ago

What do you think is the right thing to do (for yeshiva and religious men):
Is it better to open the subject of the laws of Nida to young men as well, so that they learn Tractate Nida as they learn the Bible (but this is dangerous because they may have forbidden thoughts and reflections, but the benefit is that when they get married they will have a basis to understand and properly observe the laws of Nida in a more serious way than a boring weekly class a few months before the wedding allows)
Or continue as we do today (putting the guy in front of the female world just a few months before the wedding)?

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מיכי Staff answered 3 years ago

This is a question for educators and psychologists. I don’t think I have any added value on it. Personally, I appreciate that when studying this, the boys do not imagine a woman in front of them, but deal with it as abstract phenomena (as R. Chaim did with the pans he took out of the kitchen), like a master in his trade. You can see that when studying very strange or even morally disturbing issues, the students usually do not bat an eyelid. Some demand this as a reproach (it does not interest them), but I do not think that is necessarily the case. They deal with it as a body of knowledge and treat it accordingly. See my comments (Torim 467, 89) on the blood pipeline at the Technion.

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איתן replied 3 years ago

Can I have the story about R’ Chaim? 🙂

מיכי Staff replied 3 years ago

This is not a story. In the world, it is said that Rabbi Chaim took the frying pans out of the kitchen. For him, a frying pan is a theoretical tool that has such and such properties. He had no idea what a frying pan looked like in the kitchen.