Unrequited love
Peace and blessings
I am from the ultra-Orthodox sector.
I was in a relationship with a girl, we met, we got engaged, and we were in a relationship for three months, and there was already an engagement and everything.
And suddenly, without warning or any sign, she decided to cancel everything.
Besides the mental and emotional difficulty with everything that’s happening.
It’s hard for me that there is no normal response from people in the sector.
I’m very sorry about what happened. It does happen from time to time, and you shouldn’t take it personally. Sometimes you have cold feet and sometimes you feel like it’s not the right thing to do, justified or not.
But I don’t understand what the question is. Is the entire sector supposed to address the case that happened to you? Or address the cancellation of an engagement in general? There is certainly some reference to that, even a somewhat hysterical one. There are Haredi recommendations to get married and then get divorced so as not to violate the engagement agreement. Illogical.
No, I mean that there should be an open and honest dialogue, there should be no need to suppress and ignore anything, especially something that sometimes happens, and that is what I mean, that there is a need for the sector to provide a response and not ignore. Even when there is a halakhic discourse, (and there is quite a bit on the issue of leaving a match) to the point of preferring to get married and get divorced (which is wrong… although I understand that, but it does not belong today to make a couple miserable in a divorce).
I also mean that the sector looks at those who left it or left as type B’ and C’ – and in my opinion there should be proportions to this, the one who leaves, but the one who is left…
There is also such a section – That people look at you as someone who is not serious and a failure, like someone who went bankrupt, and that is not true at all. It is legitimate for a young woman to get cold feet, and in general, sometimes the problem is her...
I completely agree. But I don't see a question here, I do see a criticism.
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