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A Letter to the Despairing “Fedlaho’shit” (Column 390)

With God’s help

Disclaimer: This post was translated from Hebrew using AI (ChatGPT 5 Thinking), so there may be inaccuracies or nuances lost. If something seems unclear, please refer to the Hebrew original or contact us for clarification.

Operation Guardian of the Walls almost made me forget that about two weeks ago there was a post by someone named Devorah (apparently a nickname?) who founded the Facebook page of the “Fedlaho’shiyot” (an acronym for “Religious Feminists Without a Sense of Humor”), announcing the page’s imminent closure. For many members of the group (this is the last time I will double-gender my language—chauvinist that I am—just so you’ll understand that there are also some male members), this is a very significant event. I gather that this page influenced and was formative for many women who belong to that reference group. It gave them a platform and a sense of belonging and sharing, a place to vent tensions, lay out reflections, and share insights, while neutralizing male hegemony and dominance. Apparently the page has changed the religious outlook—and the outlook in general—of quite a few of its participants (men too), by their own testimony.

Here I wish to relate mainly to the above post, not to the group as a whole (which I don’t know. I’m off Facebook and don’t understand it much). Nor do I intend to address one of the main issues in the debate that arose after the post was published, namely the moral right of the founder of such a page to close it (especially when it already has about 17,000 members—about half a Knesset seat!!!). That is certainly an interesting question, but it is not our topic. For me, this post expressed difficult feelings, justified at least in part, and as I understand it they are shared by quite a few men and women, especially those among us who are straight-shooters. Therefore it certainly deserves serious and substantive attention, and that is what I’ll try to do here. Lastly, I’ll note that there were also various, less categorical statements following the publication of this post. Some other admins did not want the closure, and there were those who wanted it for other reasons. There were also critiques and rebukes about the post’s fanaticism and its unwillingness to compromise with “lite” feminism. In my view it’s an honest post that bravely and candidly expresses the writer’s personal feelings, and she has every right to express that sharply as she understands it. Anyone who feels differently—that is also their right, and so I disagree with those critiques. But I won’t address any of that here.

A bit about the group

Still, we can’t proceed without at least a little background on the group. The group was established inspired by a previous page of feminists not necessarily religious, and the names of these pages are based on (echo?) the stereotype that many have about feminists—that they are serious and heavy and lack a sense of humor (whiny?).

At the top of the page appears the “About,” which teaches a bit about its background, and here it is:

About

Okay, this is the place to vent everything 🙂 because who better than we religious feminists to know what it is to lack a sense of humor!

Founded in the spirit of Tal Gutman, founder of the group:

[http://www.facebook.com/groups/440928549253281/](http://www.facebook.com/groups/440928549253281/)

This is a place for women to share and relate events from their lives within the religious framework. A place where they can laugh about everything, without apologizing, without excuses, without being accused of immodesty, and without having to explain why they have no sense of humor.

***Important note: This is not a discussion group about feminism. Any kind of mansplaining will be deleted immediately (for those unfamiliar with the term—Google). Mansplainers, troublemakers, chauvinism, verbal violence or offensive wording toward group members, as well as defenses of male privilege—will be deleted immediately ***

We’re here to laugh and share and to find strength together in a pleasant space. This is our home, the place where we want to feel safe, to seek advice, to get angry, to laugh. In our home we do not intend to be on the defensive—neither about our religiosity nor about our feminism. We do not need educational or halakhic advice about how to live the already-complex life of a religious feminist. We are not seeking halakhic approvals from anyone, and in this group no one will tell anyone what is modest and what is not, how to pray, how to keep mitzvot, what is within the halakhic framework and what is outside it.

Not everyone here prays with Women of the Wall, but in this group Women of the Wall do not need to apologize; not everyone here feels that the LGBTQ struggle is relevant to them, but in this group the LGBTQ community—and especially the religious one—will be protected from attacks; not everyone here is engaged in Mizrahi feminism, but denial of Mizrahi oppression will not be accepted; there is apparently an Orthodox majority here, but this is not an Orthodox group. It is a *religious* group, and all forms of religiosity are welcome—Reform, Conservative, and the entire religious spectrum—embraced with love. Conversely—slandering religion and undermining or general derision of Jewish faith and basic principles of Judaism—these too damage the safe space this group seeks to be, and have no place here.

This is also the home of survivors of sexual assault of any kind. Here we believe survivors and complainants. There is no place here for victim-blaming and no place for doubting complainants. Responses that do not create a safe space of trust in survivors will be deleted. Those who wish to read more are invited to this thread – [https://m.facebook.com/groups/352850698102983?view=permalink&id=921134094607971](https://m.facebook.com/groups/352850698102983?view=permalink&id=921134094607971)

This is not a group for discussions of all the ills of the religious society in Israel or political and social debates. It is a group for general feminist discussions that do not pertain to religion. Posts that are off topic may be deleted.

For new members—before you open posts and comment, it is recommended to read a few threads and discussions to get a sense of the style and vibe and to get to know the virtual community.

Feminist men—you are certainly welcome here, but on one condition: do not dominate the discourse. You have enough places to express yourselves. The goal of the group is to amplify women’s voices that are being silenced in various ways. When a member opens a discussion and it turns into a discussion among men in which it’s impossible to get a word in—that is neither feminist nor appropriate, especially when you divert a feminist discussion in another direction. Same goes for opening multiple posts. Please exercise restraint.

Anyone who wants to ponder the nature of feminism and is not sure they understand the group rules is invited here:

[https://www.facebook.com/groups/299815500102856/](https://www.facebook.com/groups/299815500102856/)

For discussions about feminism and halakhic Judaism only:

[https://www.facebook.com/groups/111728475664913/](https://www.facebook.com/groups/111728475664913/)

The group admins

Deborah Aroshas

Avital Lifschitz

Rachel Lion

Ayala Falk

Na’ama Tal Cohen-Landau

You can gather that there is a rather strict guiding hand here, and I’m not sure this page deserves a tolerance-and-openness award. But naturally, as a resident of Mars I have not experienced the point of view of those living on Venus, and in particular not of feminist Venusians. After hearing these points more than once from various opinionated women, I tend to believe that indeed male discourse is too domineering for them and does not allow them to express themselves,[1] and therefore this policy is apparently necessary so that they can converse there freely (I have remarked more than once on the number of women who participate in discussions on my Martian website).

The post in question

Here is the body of her words (without the thanks at the end) in full:

Dear Fedlaho’shiyot,

After a long period of thought, and close to a decade of activity, I have decided to close the Fedlaho’shiya. The group will be archived on 30.5.2021.

I will detail here the reason for the closure. These words come from the heart and reflect my personal experience, which I find important to share since I was the founder and standard-bearer of this space for many years. It is important to stress that these are my words and do not reflect the opinions of my fellow group admins.

It is not easy for me to write this, but these words have been crying out within me for far too long. So I take a deep breath and dive in.

This group was born of my great pain, and at the time it provided immense comfort—misery loves company.

I was 24 when I opened the group, a student, full of faith and zeal to create social change in an outdated system. I thought: here we are—an era in which women receive a voice and power democratically thanks to social media; now all that remains is to point en masse to the facts, and the religious establishment will understand and internalize that the time has come to stop treating us as inferior beings who need permission to breathe, to speak, to sing, to exist in public space.

For years I believed that it was possible to change “from within” (though by definition we are all “outside” anyway). That it was possible to hold the rope at both ends. That “they” take ownership of Judaism, but it is not *really* theirs, and at bottom there is room in religion for everyone.

In the early years of this community’s existence, it felt like the right thing: look! Women joined together, broke the silence, stood up for their rights. Every time a woman said that this group gave her strength, and backing, to demand something, to change something in her life, I was filled with joy and faith in the future. And it is important for me to say that we experienced here moments of grace, sharing, and inspiration that were significant for me, too, in my personal journey.

And yet, today I understand that I was mistaken.

True, we identified the smoke screen—the religion’s basic gaslighting of women (“It’s not really ‘Blessed…who did not make me a woman’! It’s because you are more exalted”). We learned to identify and delve into places that were created not for us but against us. Agunot. Ownership. Sexual assault, rape, the exploitation of women by religious authority. Exclusion of women from decision-making centers, stripping women of power and control over their bodies, silencing women’s voices, mansplaining, the phenomenon of men who discuss women’s sexuality endlessly, with a hair-splitting meticulousness that induces revulsion.

We told ourselves that once we identified and pointed to it—we had succeeded in defeating the system.

But we missed the point:

The very existence of this space here is itself yet another smoke screen layered over reality: a reality of inherent, fundamental, essential inequality between man and woman in the Jewish religion. This group is like a temporary sedative, a numbing blur, a veil. The thought that we can be ourselves within an explicitly misogynistic system, that we can preserve our self-respect—is an illusion at best, self-deception at worst, and collusion in deceiving others at worst of all.

It cannot be denied: there is a thread connecting the Fedlaho’shit from the Beqaa, the seventeen-year-old girl whose head is shaved before being handed over to her husband, and the secular woman who looks on all this in enchantment and says that she may not be there, but it is important to respect tradition.

The existence of the group under the title “I am a religious feminist” serves in the long term not the women within religion—but the continued existence of the smoke screens.

With our own hands we took some of the greatest expressions of misogyny, laundered them with effort in the great river, and spread them wide, declaring: “Ko-sher!” But it is enough to dare to look directly at this laundry to see how dirty and tattered it is. As Mary Daly said, “If God is male, then the male is God.” In the end, when you bow your head to a system built by men-only for the interests of men-only, you necessarily bow to male superiority.

By accepting that this is the foundational system that deserves unqualified respect, and that any challenge to it must be undertaken in awe—you are honoring the system’s very foundation, preserving yourself the bricks of this heavy wall, holding them in your hands lest they collapse into what you imagine would be your end.

I look back and understand the profound sadness in this posture of waiting for the crumbs that the rabbis will deign to give us, to “allow women” X, to “permit women” Y. I thought we were innovating, challenging, but again and again we continued to define ourselves in light of their definitions. As much as we tried, we did not succeed in preventing the destructive phenomenon of women apologizing, wasting their time and efforts on explanations, and hoping for male approval for their very existence.

I was full of objections when women from outside religion tried “to show me the light.” Their being outside, as I then saw it, prevented them from understanding that “it’s complicated.” That it’s merely a minor historical mistake, that it’s all symbolic, not real, remnants of a different historical period, and anyway now we are in an age of change, and any minute now everything will completely change. (Look, women are writing halakhic books!) They seemed to me condescending, blind. They quoted things that sounded simplistic, embarrassing, ignorant, getting confused about sources, “mistaken” in their assertions (what is a “mistake,” I asked one of you here recently, in the context of the religion’s view of you as a woman?)

But the truth is that it is not complicated at all:

If you want to be a woman who is equal, free, with sovereignty and agency over her body, her womb, her sexuality, her health, her love, her joy—then a religious framework is not the place for that. The oppression of women in Judaism is not a minor element that can be removed cosmetically or ignored as if it were never there. It is at the base. Without it, everything falls.

Imagine with me for a moment.

What happens if tomorrow morning a critical mass of women say: no more. What then? True, there is a price to pay. No doubt there is much to lose. But the price of collaboration, under the guise of a “struggle” (a struggle that swears allegiance in advance, defining itself as part of the oppressive system itself), the price of giving up basic dignity as an equal human being, the price of passing that value on to our daughters and sons—is even greater.

A question:

A relationship that constructs you as secondary, in constant alienation from your being in the space, plants in you perpetual doubt whether you are “allowed” to be, to be heard, and along the way also controls your intimate space, your sexuality, your body. A relationship that drills into you insults (and forces you also to drill them) about your being feeble-minded, equal only to a small child or a fool. A relationship that strips from you the capacity to judge and decide matters concerning your fate. That same relationship also constructs itself as “divine truth”; between the epithets it is careful once a week to wax poetic about your virtues, and teaches you to justify all its doings, to explain to yourself and to others with a smile that you choose all of this wholeheartedly and lovingly, that it is actually for your good, on the contrary! It empowers you! And that anyone who dares reflect back to you the situation is by definition an ignoramus.

What would we call such a relationship?

—————

I believe there is another way. I believe that generation after generation, from mother to daughter, we will learn to stop asking permission to exist in the space. We will live out of self-worth. We will stop apologizing for our very being, stop looking away, stop settling for crumbs, stop denying, stop compromising. We will stop being afraid.

I believe we are learning how to organize together out of strength, in order to help, to stand together, to embrace, to listen, to believe, to support one another. To strengthen. To progress. To build. To create here a better world for our daughters and our sons.

I feel this is the revolution of our time.

This is worth writing about; this is worth aspiring to; around this it is worth establishing communities!

Looking back, the points that gave me the greatest grace in this process of sobering up were women “from within” who whispered to me in secret about their small rebellions (“niddah chuppah,” seven clean days, and more, and more), strengthening me in choosing against what I felt was impossible for me to contain. That it could not be that these are the living words of God. Some of them don’t even know how much freedom and joy they brought into my life.

I want us to stop whispering. You do not need permission. You know. You are equal, as you are. All of you. Your body is wonderful, your sexuality is good, your menstrual cycle is a model of divine nature. Your voice is blessed. Your presence is important. Your testimony is reliable. You are intelligent and wise, and your opinion is precious. You do not need to swallow the insult for any value in the world. You do not need to be silent. You do not need to enter through the side door, or sit behind a curtain. You do not need to push all this aside as if it does not matter, and you do not need to invent far-fetched justifications for it. You do not need to wait for the rabbi to approve. You do not have to honor one who scorns your dignity. The process of correcting an historical injustice is not supposed to “take time” and “not alarm.” You are not hurting anyone when you demand your freedom: take it; it is yours by right.

Initial reflections

These are, to my mind, very powerful words, clearly coming from a pained heart and said with great candor. I must say that my own heart ached quite a bit as I read them, and it was clear to me they required thought and response. Despite my being a Martian, I can fully understand these words. If I belonged to a group that has been discriminated against and excluded for many generations and is led exclusively by the discriminating group, I would probably feel similar feelings. Even if the Sages are ministering angels, still the feeling of a group that ends up disadvantaged when all the rules are set by the other group is likely to be harsh.

I have said more than once to my students at the Graduate Beit Midrash for Doctoral Students at Bar-Ilan, where I teach, that if I were a woman (to the extent such a description has meaning—if I were a woman I would not be me), I very much doubt that I would be faithful to halakha today, unless they also managed to suppress my critical sense. If I had grown up in a society that did not allow me to learn and understand for myself what I do and what I am required to do, and I had no possibility to influence and to make decisions, I probably would not do it. I am a great believer in a person’s right and duty to decide their fate and set their path and worldview. Especially in our time, when women earn doctorates, lecture and conduct research at universities, serve in government and on supreme courts, and yet are asked to accept statements from men—who are not all very sharp pencils—without reasoning and without having any possibility to critique and examine matters and form an opinion on their own, a case of “we shall do” without “we shall hear.” This is absurd regardless of the trust I have in the sages who set these rules. Even if they are outstandingly wise and moral men of the highest order, they are setting rules for a huge population (50% of the public) that has nothing to say on the matter and whose mindset they do not truly understand. And they do so in ways far from objective, unequivocal, and self-evident, leaving even more room for the halakhic decisor’s personal influence on the halakhic outcome. How can an autonomous, intelligent woman have confidence in such a decision-making process?! I, as a man, am not prepared to accept the sages’ decisions without criticism, and they are supposed to understand me quite well (after all, they too are from Mars).

However, the description I offered in the last paragraph concerns women’s learning, and that hurdle we have more or less crossed today (not entirely, of course). Devorah, by contrast, speaks about the outcomes of learning, namely religious life. There the solution is much harder. Seemingly, it’s a road with no exit. One who is faithful to the halakhic tradition and is not Reform or heretical cannot rebel against it and cannot change it. Either way: either you are faithful to the system as it is, and then you doom yourself to remain excluded and on the margins (sorry: better than all the men, and therefore “all your glory is inward”), or you want to change and then you are Reform. You understand that the inevitable conclusion is that being a religious feminist is an oxymoron. Devorah expresses this in very strong and painful words:

If you want to be a woman who is equal, free, with sovereignty and agency over her body, her womb, her sexuality, her health, her love, her joy—then a religious framework is not the place for that. The oppression of women in Judaism is not a minor element that can be removed cosmetically or ignored as if it never was. It is at the base. Without it, everything falls.

I must say that these feelings have also stirred in me as a man (not necessarily about women’s status, but about other parts of the tradition that seemed to me utterly illogical), except that I, as a man, had the privilege to learn and to be a partner in shaping my own religiosity. I received (or took) tools that allow me to do that. A woman, by contrast, does not even have the legitimacy to acquire the tools, let alone to use them. She is forbidden to learn Torah (as if teaching her is teaching frivolity), certainly not to serve as a judge or a rabbi, not even to render halakhic rulings, or to deliver words of Torah. And after pushing her to the margins—and even if she buys into the nonsense that is sold to her (“all the honor of the king’s daughter is inward,” etc., etc.)—she remains discriminated against in the rabbinical courts regarding personal status and in religious life in general. She is supposed to obey men who decide for her without her understanding what it is based on, and in many cases her feeling is that they do not truly understand what they are talking about. They run conferences (cf. the “Puah Institute”) at which male speakers full of knowledge and importance exchange impressions about the nature of woman, her feelings, the halakhot that pertain to her—often without asking or hearing her. But who is she to rebel against the commands of the Creator of Heaven and Earth?!

I ask myself what feelings this creates in a woman (that Venusian, the one I do not understand)? I can somewhat imagine it, but not truly feel it myself. It is no accident that this situation infuriates me, and among other things that is what led me to write my trilogy in which I examine many of the assumptions that create it. But, as noted, I have the tools, and even so a man needs no small measure of courage and boldness to say things and express atypical views, or to challenge accepted foundations, openly. I ask myself what a God-fearing woman is supposed to do who feels such distress, but has no tools to examine the situation and certainly not to propose changes. Her husband, the community rabbi, and all the Torah scholars she knows and esteems explain to her that I am a heretic who understands nothing and that she must swallow her distress and be silent. They explain to her that one who says or writes things like mine is Reform, and whoever goes down these roads arrives directly at boiling excrement in Gehenna under the management of Amnon Yitzhak. She needs to cook for her husband and care for her children and be a righteous woman, and only thanks to righteous women like her were Israel redeemed from Egypt and did (the men) receive the Torah and (the men) inherit the land.

Would you not expect that many women would reach Devorah’s conclusions? And I speak specifically about those for whom these matters are important. There are many for whom this exclusion is not a big problem, because after all they are silenced while they sit and chat behind the partition and words of Torah are being said in the synagogue (“Silence in the women’s section!!!”), but what do they care?! They are only occasionally in synagogue for the folklore. They find content for life at university, at work, or in reading literature and consuming culture. So let the fools in the synagogue keep running their shtiebel. Who cares?!

But a Haredi woman does not have that outlet, and a modern religious feminist woman also does not have such an option. If religious life is indeed important to her, she is not willing to give up involvement in it. So what do you expect her to do? I must say that the small amount of abandonment by women is a wonder to me. Either religious life is not important to them, or they have lost their human image and a proper measure of critical sense, or they nevertheless find content and meaning elsewhere (as above) and shuffle along the edges of the shtiebel to preserve folklore that may even be dear to their heart to some degree. And after all this, they tell me that critical feminists do not have fear of Heaven like those righteous women who accept authority and remain silent. Wonders!

All the description presented thus far is, of course, extreme. Women in modern religious society are no longer in the situation I described. But still the exclusion and discrimination and lack of status and tools exist—certainly when viewed against their status in general society today. Anyone who deludes themselves that the matter no longer exists is mistaken and misleading. But these things are true not only with respect to women’s status; substantial components of halakha as a whole are largely anachronistic, and my trilogy seeks to take a step toward change.

I will divide my response into two parts: the first pertains to principles and the second to drawing conclusions and practical conduct.

A. A few fundamental remarks on the matter

Here I can only touch briefly and sketch the general directions, but almost all of this has already been detailed elsewhere. The most basic distinction to make here is between halakha as it is now and halakha as it ought to be. The writer deals with Judaism as it is at present, that is, the religious (Orthodox) society within which we live—Judaism as fact. About that she writes that the attitude toward women is not a marginal issue amenable to change within this framework. Yet there is still room to claim that this is not the Judaism/halakha as it ought to be. Yael Fish noted this nicely in her words about the post. Devorah describes an existing situation but does not relate to sources and what emerges from them, nor does she examine whether what happens in practice fits or is mandated by the sources. She certainly does not address the status of the sources and our ability to change from what is written in them. I suppose this stems, among other things, from the fact that she has no real access to halakhic sources and to an understanding of the methodology and ways of interpretation and decision, and of the proper relation to the different sources—exactly as I described above regarding women in general.

Alongside this distinction, it is important to make another one, almost the opposite, which I briefly noted in the previous column. As in any normative and religious system, so too in halakha there are differences between what emerges from the sources of halakha and halakhic praxis. Even if the sources of halakha indicate some (descriptively) chauvinistic directive, in many cases reality is stronger than they are. It is certainly possible that in a society operating within different cultural and value norms, halakhic behavior in practice will be different. There are countless examples of this in the history of halakha and of course also in our day.[2]

A third distinction we must make, which I have discussed in the past, is between halakha in its purely religious sense and social and cultural norms that have been embedded within it. I gave the example of “honor killings” in the Muslim world. As far as I have understood from Muslim religious scholars, there is no basis for this in the sources of Islamic law. It is an Arab custom (from the deserts of Arabia) that has been culturally embedded within Arab society and, at least in some places, has become part of their Islam. In Jewish halakha, too, some attitude toward women is embedded that is not all, if at all, founded on halakhic sources. Some of these are cultural practices, and some entered the Talmud and post-Talmudic sources, and therefore are perceived by many as part of Sinai-given halakha. Not so. They certainly have no sanctity. Take for example Maimonides’ well-known statement that a woman’s going out to work is grounds for divorce, or various laws concerning relations between husband and wife and between father and daughter. I argue that even things that the Sages saw as halakha are not necessarily such. It is easier to think about this in a hypothetical experiment: if there were today a Sanhedrin that could interpret the Torah and change existing halakhot, is there any necessity that all these halakhot would remain as they are? I have no doubt that not. As the Sages did in their time, so too the Sanhedrin would be supposed to do in ours. True, we do not have a Sanhedrin today, but in the third book of my trilogy (the sixth part deals with the theory of halakhic change) I discussed structured methodological possibilities for substantial changes in halakha even without a Sanhedrin (such as the “freezing mechanism,” etc.).

In general, it is important to understand that what we call today “halakha” is not the word of God from Sinai in its purity. It is an entire corpus, the vast majority of which is interpretation given to those halakhot (or verses) given to us at Sinai, and I assume that a significant part of it is not very connected to what the Holy One intended at the outset. This does not mean there is no obligation to keep it (I have written more than once that the obligation to halakha does not depend on its authenticity), but the sanctity and the impossibility of touching and changing is nevertheless different between the word of God and the determinations of the Sages, even if they have formal authority. The interpretations of scholars over the generations are certainly not free of cultural influences of the environment in which they operated, just as we can see in our own generation (compare the status of women in a Lithuanian Haredi society, Hasidic, Religious-Zionist, Conservative, and even by countries of origin: Caucasian, American, Moroccan, Hungarian, etc.). The sense that such statements are “Reform” stems from imprecision in defining the concepts. Here I only point to the directions, and whoever wishes to delve deeper is invited to read the sixth part of the third book in the trilogy, where I defined the concepts and explained this well.

B. Practical conduct, or: how to solve problems

Now I wish to comment on drawing conclusions and practical conduct. In the previous section I noted the possibilities to effect change and to act and change. The conclusion is that the current situation is not a decree of fate, and it is not true that whoever deviates from it is not Orthodox (more precisely: is not committed to halakha. The word “Orthodox” belongs to the world of sociology. There is no sanctity in it). In general, I think my trilogy—and especially the third book, which deals with halakha—is not a bad platform for carrying out significant changes within full commitment to halakha.

But to bring about this change, the women who want it must invest the necessary effort, enter the halakhic world, learn and deepen, and then propose well-founded and reasoned suggestions for change. It is not enough to complain about the situation and express distress without offering concrete solutions. The way of the world is that when a person or group is in distress and wants and needs help, they must invest effort themselves and only then can they expect assistance. The Palestinians, Mizrahim, black people in the US, and other groups in problematic situations (weak or weakened) cannot make do with complaints about the situation. They need to invest effort and work and lead the effort to improve it. Only when they initiate and lead will there be a chance that others will join them.

A woman who does not want her husband or rabbi to tell her unreasoned things to which she will have to answer “amen” and obey cannot simply refuse to obey or make do with complaints that the situation is unbearable. She must get into the thick of it, examine the situation, see whether there are avenues of solution, then propose something reasoned and only thereafter expect support. As long as you expect others to do the work for you, it will not happen, and to some degree justly so. Those who suffer have the greatest motivation to seek and propose solutions. Others will not do the work for them, especially when the core feminist complaints are about dependence on men.

In this sense, abandonment and despair are the easy solutions. If indeed it is a believing woman, and if she truly thinks that Torah was given at Sinai and that there is an obligation to keep it and obey God, then abandonment is not an option for her. If you do nothing, will that be in accordance with God’s will? She can argue that it is implausible to her that the existing conceptions are an expression of His will, but a serious approach obligates her to seek an alternative. She must think how she can and should fulfill His will. Abandonment points to a lack of commitment and suggests that even the observance up to now stemmed from it seeming to suit her needs rather than from substantive commitment to God’s will. If in your view certain people do not do God’s will, that does not exempt you from doing so. On the contrary—if they do not keep it, arise and you keep it.

True, this is a difficult project, and not every woman can meet it. Especially since even today the tools and knowledge are not given to her as they are to men. But I expect that among a group of intelligent women at least a small part will nonetheless advance toward solutions and strive to carry out this project. For now, the number of learned women at a good level is tiny, and even among them I usually have not heard overly revolutionary proposals. They operate entirely within the existing framework (within which there is certainly much to do), but I am not familiar with foundational work, like in the trilogy, that is done by women. It is very likely that this stems from lack of proficiency and from a desire to gain legitimacy in the (male) halakhic world, and that is natural. But that path cannot truly lead to change.

In the meantime I have not heard of women who have gone through the trilogy; at least I have not received comments or questions about it. As I showed there, our tradition requires a thorough house-cleaning and there are ways to do this. Distress is an excellent motivation to move in such a direction. Many speak of a “women’s Torah” that differs in its character from the Torah developed by men. I do not know if there is such a thing, but in any event the burden of proof is on the women. By all means—pick up the gauntlet and create it. Truth has power, and when such proposals exist there will be those who take them up. And if there will be a core of those who excommunicate—no one needs to be alarmed. There are always fanatical sects and there are always opponents of any innovation (cf. Maimonides, Shulchan Aruch, and more). The dogs bark and the caravan moves on.

The sincere distress so beautifully expressed in Devorah’s post sometimes serves as a basis for despair and giving up, or abandonment, but it can and should be a lever for renewal and revitalization that we all need like air to breathe.

[1] Many have claimed to me that this is also the reason it is very hard to elicit a Torah article, let alone a scholarly one, from a woman. They explained to me that a woman is usually shy and uncomfortable speaking in public, certainly on a Torah platform that is by its nature male in character. I always thought that in academic venues this problem does not exist, certainly not to the same extent; but again, I am a Martian and do not understand.

[2] There is the well-known joke that no religious person is a thief, since one who steals is not religious. But we all know there are certainly religious thieves, because practice sometimes trumps halakha. Admittedly here it is a negative trumping, but there are also positive ones (which I noted in the previous column).


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  1. Deborah writes under her real name (she is a good friend of my brother who co-managed the page)

    1. Thanks. For some reason I saw someone wondering about the name. But it's not a matter of principle.

  2. In the Makor Rishon supplement “Shabbat”, she responded to Deborah with all her sarcasm: https://www.makorrishon.co.il/news/351359/

    1. I read her words. Basically, she writes exactly what I write (that if you are committed and believe, then abandonment is not an option), but does not address the essence, but only the very act of commitment. The question of why and to whom are committed (who is the binding source, etc.), and the methodology of halakhic change are not addressed, and probably also in her case it is due to the lack of accessibility and information that I described. Beyond that, there is mainly the usual call for evolution and not revolution, which to be honest I am a little tired of. If I am right, then I want a response now and not in two generations. And if I am wrong, then don't do it in two generations either. I can certainly understand that there are women who are not prepared to wait for future generations. They are living now. Beyond that, without a feasibility study, who said that it will come in future generations? Deborah felt that there was no chance of that. Therefore, it is important to get into the essence and content and show that it is possible and appropriate, and certainly does not require the abandonment of the halakhic framework.
      One fundamental comment. I do not accept the Marxist-postmodernist thesis (see the series from column 178 onwards) that she puts in Deborah's mouth. I do not know Deborah and do not know what she thinks about it, but there is no need to claim that her demands assume that the sages (like the entire universe and his wife, including the Marxists themselves, and especially them) acted out of plots aimed at accumulating power and creating male hegemony and oppressing women. This could, and probably did, happen naturally and without plots. This is a group made up entirely of men, so naturally the discourse is male and the conclusions are male and there is not much consideration for the opinions and nature of women. You don't need Marx for that. Go out and see what is happening in the Haredi world today. I do not believe that in any Haredi group this is a power-hungry plot to oppress women. They truly and sincerely believe in it, and there is no woman around to try to balance it. This was also the case with the sages. I argued in a column that even if they were righteous and had incredibly pure intentions, it is almost impossible for injustice not to come out of their hands when this is the composition of the decision-making bodies.

      1. You have touched on a very central question in this type of discourse. The claim about “conspiracies aimed at accumulating power and creating male hegemony and oppressing women” is a fundamental claim even without any specific evil or malicious attitude towards those in power. It may even be a Darwinian claim: when there is power, there is power, and this power is unjust, that is, it causes injustice, against its will. A special effort is needed to balance and neutralize it. An effort that is usually not made, even if only due to lack of awareness (as in the past, today it is not made either out of malice and simple heartlessness, or/and out of the argument of the slippery and frightening slope to Allah.

      2. Since it is difficult to produce female scholars at the level of innovative halachic rulings, perhaps we will send male scholars to Kamba and turn them into women, and then their rulings will be accepted by feminists, and not rejected in disgust as ’segbara’ 🙂

        With greetings, Shaterna Tzilla, head of the halachic program at the semi-annual ‘Shemen HaMor’ Midrasha

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          …And it is difficult to produce scholarly women…

          There
          … Maybe we will send some men…

  3. Why, in your opinion, have women not taken up the gauntlet to this day?

    1. I don't know. First of all, because it's really hard. And maybe they have less academic ability (and it's still clear that there are those who have abilities. This is a huge public). I suppose that over time it will come, but in the meantime there are those who don't have the patience to wait, and I can understand that.

      1. Maybe. Or they don't really care about it. Because of women who won the Nobel Prize in Physics or the Nobel Prize in Chemistry.

      2. It's not that it's difficult, but rather that it's considered impossible.
        The current situation was created by our sages over hundreds of generations.
        Today, it's protected by the Rabbinical Guild (of all schools) with the Holy Spirit hovering over it, seemingly siding with the Guild.
        When we add to this the public lynching that will be done to those "rebellious" women, how can it even be imagined that there will be progress in this direction.
        The woman/women who will bring about such a change will, in my opinion, be equal to Moses' act in bringing Israel out of Egypt, including the parting of the Red Sea.
        Which leads to the solution of abandonment, which is actually a very successful remedy for the distortion that those women are going through.
        Mass abandonment may be a wake-up call for the Guild to realize that it is bringing its own destruction upon itself by being cold and completely honest.
        What the abandoners (or abandoners like me) owe to themselves is a binding ruling of their own, by which they will live the rest of their lives while maintaining the integrity of the self.

        I was happy to see that Michael Avraham declares that the halakha today is not as it should be and I was not surprised that the Torah scholars would call him a heretic.

        I wonder from time to time where we fell from the understanding that Judaism is an eternal reform and not the stagnation/fixation that exists in our days, including all the unnecessary cultural appendages that have been attached along the way.

        One thing is clear: our sages who ruled on the laws had their own minds, the reality in which they lived and acted, and the Torah that we received.
        From these three, they molded a law that has served us well throughout the generations.
        Reality has clearly changed.
        How is it not clear that there is a need for at least an in-depth discussion about what is right to keep, what is right to throw away, and what is right to change.
        At the end of the day, it is the law that should serve us when we come to live as believing Jews, not us the law, which in part at least is clearly outdated.

        Mass abandonment is almost the order of the day. Since, as it is written, the men will not make a change.
        In my understanding, we have long since reached a situation where rabbis who have thoughts about the need for halachic changes will not dare to express it publicly.
        And the last one, no less sad than the topic under discussion.

    2. Because they will immediately be labeled as reformists and the whole saga will very quickly become a chapter in the Western Wall.
      The problem is twofold: not only is the very attempt at change subversive, a woman's engagement with these issues is even more illegitimate; an attempt at change driven by women will not catch on, there is no chance.

      1. Who won't it catch on with? I think the starting point for your response is that the change is "supposed" to catch on first with Orthodox men. But one could also think that the change will catch on first with women and men who have become Reform and have given up on everything, and will begin to listen and be interested, even from secular men and women. When there is a large community of women and men in which there is a high level of learning among women and specialized rulings, interest will also begin on the side that is considered Orthodox.

        1. I see no reason why someone who has "given up on everything" would return to investing. If someone has abandoned, they probably don't see themselves as committed to the Torah, and if so, why would they bother looking for subtle distinctions between what can be changed and what cannot be changed?

      2. Miriam, I disagree with you in a way. I agree with your description but not with the subtextual submissions.
        What does “it won’t catch on” mean? If the women decide that it will catch on for them, then it will catch on. And whoever doesn’t want it won’t. Even a statement like yours actually presupposes submission. In my opinion, when there are women scholars who present a consistent, well-founded, and logical view in favor of their feminist ideology, then at least they themselves will have the confidence to go with it. They won’t need anyone’s approval. A lot of it is a matter of your own self-confidence. And again, I’m talking about justified self-confidence, not about an Amartist who offers baseless suggestions with complete confidence.

    3. On the 27th of Tammuz, 5th of September

      The problem is understandable, in order to reach greatness in the wisdom of the Talmud, one must invest time and mental strength, and exert oneself with enormous effort to understand the depth of the opinions of the sages and the first and last.

      Anyone who presumes that these are people with primitive and misogynistic perceptions, etc., will not invest his time and energy in delving deeper into the words and opinions of sages whom he does not respect. And will very quickly withdraw his hand from trying to understand them.

      With blessings, Azriel Tzemach Halevi Kalisher

  4. You wrote beautifully. For example, I studied in a national Haredi yeshiva that did not like the halakhic path I presented regarding keeping the covenant. Because I stood my ground on this matter and other matters of study, they made it difficult for me to stay in the yeshiva, and I moved to another yeshiva. Later, I wrote a lot about it, I made an effort, and this approach was stopped by rabbis, and it caused an educational change in the religious community.

    I also believe in the return of prophecy, since my studies at the national Haredi yeshiva I have studied as a teacher of the confused, since my high school studies I have studied different religions, studied the voice of prophecy, studied Hasidism, studied philosophy, studied Jewish meditation, and at one point I even declared that I was finding a path to prophecy, and was walking with it. I acted like this in my life, I did very precise and serious things, and yet, because the prophecy is directed at Jerusalem and the desire for the Temple, I came to perform actions out of an action in the Holy Spirit, which led the police and the Shin Bet to arrest me and send me to a psychiatric hospital. I left there, and continued to write philosophy and thought on the world of the soul and prophecy and on the revelation of God in the world in various religions, and today I guide people in Jewish philosophy, general philosophy, interfaith matters, in the world of the soul, on halakhic understanding regarding religions, and on the laws of the Temple. I could have said “a fool not bound by the mitzvot” and cried about being excluded because my yeshiva head was not willing to see me without mediation after I was hospitalized, but I still took the reins in my hands.

    To truly rule on critical matters, you need courage and go against the whole world, and for everyone to say you are not qualified and half the world to say you have left the Jewish people altogether, because that is exactly what it means to express a different opinion and stand by it. The wisdom is to truly explain yourself when people come to you with questions. And they always do. Slowly. At first, no one is interested in you. But slowly, people see that you are speaking to the point.

    I understand the difficulty. And it is important to understand the difficulty, the heroism is to say – I don't care if they say I am not qualified to rule. I will write laws, based on the fact that I will learn the halakhic language myself, I will surrender, I will surrender my soul in the tent of Torah until I understand what is written, like Rabbi Akiva who began studying at the age of 40, because he understood that stones eroded water. It is more difficult to study Gemara if you are a woman than in my situation, who already came from yeshiva studies, but it is not impossible. As someone who has treated people in the psychiatric system, I know that learning people's language is possible when you listen to them. Even in silence. A woman can understand the language of the Gemara, listen to Torah lessons, ask questions, not give up, until she sees that men have nothing to answer her questions – and then she will realize that she is smarter than them and will rule for herself. Then they will come to get advice from her.

    Good luck to everyone.

    1. The lady who excitedly calls me to take my freedom because it is “mine by right” bursts into an open door. We know very well that it is certainly possible to break the balance between power and partnership and equality – the balance between them is delicate and fragile. After all, this has already been done in modern and postmodern society – both in the East and the West. Welcome to an American or European volume full of individuals and solitary individuals. This volume is populated by Amazonian women – free, ambitious, those who demanded their freedom and received it – and remained lonely. Having a family in which the woman plays roles of both the mother and the father, a family in which the woman has finally achieved ultimate control and the desired power and therefore the children (if there are any) do not know how to pronounce the word “father” .
      This revolution of loneliness took place in the 20th century on both sides of the Iron Curtain. In the free, liberal world, it took place during the pursuit of equal rights for women. Whereas in the socialist world, it took place out of the gross exploitation of women in a situation of the (literally) absence of men at all. I was born there, in the USSR, in a single-parent family from the start, and from my childhood I knew a sad women's folk song:
      Here the war is over,
      I am left to the woods.
      I am also a horse, I am also a cow,
      I am also a woman, and I am also a man.

      These were the rights of women in the USSR,
      full equality. Women were equal not only to men but also to workhorses, oxen, etc. Initially, this situation was created following the devastation of the socialist revolution, in which men fell mainly, and then in World War II, in which tens of millions of men also fell. Later, it turned out that in the reality of the totalitarian state, women survive, while men give up and fall victim to depression and alcoholism. According to statistics, the shortage of men in the CIS countries is due to the short life expectancy of men. The lowest average age of death for men in the world is not in Africa, but in Russia and Belarus, 57-60. It is not for nothing that in one of the Soviet newspapers of the 1970s an article appeared under the headline "Save the men!" that went viral: "Where men give up and fall, women hold on."
      The historical experiment in which my family participated against their will proved that men are a weaker sex and must be protected. In a power struggle between the sexes, there are no winners, so we need to protect the weak. After all, in the end, we are all interested in coexistence.

      1. [Continued] I want to be clear: Given the grim historical experience of the 20th century, of my mother and grandmother, I have decided that I am not interested in being a workhorse, or a man, or a genderless creature, or a bisexual creature, and so on. I want to be exactly what God created me to be in His wisdom - a woman, a partner, a mother. Therefore, with eyes wide open, I have chosen to live within the halakhic system that determines the roles, duties, and rights of both men and women.
        True, halakhic practice is flattering to men. And that is very good, because they need it. I accept it not from a place of submission, but from a place of strength and confidence. When my husband returns from synagogue on Shabbat Eve and makes Kiddush - I feel wonderful about it, I have no internal resistance, I have no desire to prove to him (or anyone else) that I am “wise and clever” and so on. I have enough roles on my mind – therefore I don't have the mental leisure to fight for additional roles. In our relationship, I really don't feel the need to loudly demand freedom and liberty – because I have it, and from that side I don't feel threatened. Therefore, I don't need mantras such as “Your voice is blessed. Your presence is important”. I also know that I am important… What is important to me right now – is to let my husband feel that his presence is important. It is important to me to leave him space for himself, and it is also important to me that it be a place of honor. Therefore, it is important to me to maintain the halakhic system without revolutions and without wars – because in the world after the revolutions and wars, I have already, thank you very much, enough.

        1. Helena, everything is excellent. I'll tell you what I told Anna. If the situation doesn't bother you, that's excellent. The question is why not consider women whose situation does bother them. After all, it's not about forcing equality, but about enabling it.

          1. Sorry, but I'm not sure that's the case. My impression of feminist texts,
            including the text by a religious feminist that you cited above, is exactly the opposite. Radical feminism demands far-reaching changes in public spaces, and also in language that is the common property. Halacha, like language, is the common property, as you noted. Therefore, the initiatives of religious feminism - at least, in its current form - seem to me to be something total and totalitarian. To be honest, the very principled declaration of the lack of a sense of humor says a lot and testifies to totalitarianism out loud. This melody sounds familiar to me, unfortunately. It is about false freedom, about forced liberation, under the guise of beautiful words, such as: “The process of correcting a historical injustice should not “take time” and “not alarm.” You are not harming anyone when you demand your freedom: Take it, it is yours by right. I heard these slogans in my youth several times a day and this time too it is all a lie. I personally am not ready for them to release me and my family against my will. They have tried to do this before and this "liberation" was slavery.

            1. A clear example of forced liberation is the legal persecution against events held in segregated settings, even when they only concern the religious or ultra-Orthodox public. For example, we are currently fighting against segregation for a few hours a week at the springs of the Nature and Parks Authority. Observant people are not allowed to “maintain their natural way of life,” only animals are allowed to do so 🙂

              Best wishes, Zvi

              1. Absolutely. I would also add to this the obsessive pursuit of separate studies for women and men.

            2. I didn't understand this argument. I don't know what you read and it's not important to the discussion. I'm discussing my own positions, not those of others.
              I argue that a woman who wants to study Torah should be allowed to do so, and if she is worthy, then also to serve as a rabbi, to ascend to the Torah, and so on. Anyone who doesn't want to, shouldn't do it. What do you argue against this (if anything)? On whom is this forcing the ”freedom” that they don't want?

              1. To Ramadaan, Shalom Rav,

                Regarding ordination to the rabbinate, they have already tried to oblige the Rabbinate through the High Court to ordain women to the rabbinate. If they could, they would petition the High Court to prohibit gender segregation in synagogues. Fortunately for us, most of the religious public, including the High Court judges, agree to gender segregation in the synagogues, but here too the freedom press is working to re-educate us. After nine years of ‘shaming’ the pedlars – are trying with the threat of leaving the religion. Threats are really ‘freedom’ 🙂

                With greetings, a non-Hellenic barbarian

                By the way, who allowed them to exclude women from humor?

              2. Yes, absolutely. Here I certainly agree with you. But here too – correct me if I'm wrong – there is no problem that requires loud slogans. Is there an unequivocal halakhic prohibition on women studying Torah? Are there no frameworks in which women can study and teach Torah? Is anyone prohibiting women from publishing articles or books on the subject? It seems to me that the feminist revolt that undermines the boundaries of halakhic law (as can also be seen from the text you cited above) is focused elsewhere – and it is not the purely intellectual realm. It is about blurring the boundaries between man and woman in principle – as in the tragic poem I quoted in my post above.

              3. You might be surprised to hear that until recently (a few years ago) the ’Techumin’ did not agree to publish a halakhic article under a woman's name. I know firsthand a woman who was offered to publish under her husband's name. ”H As of now, the situation has changed, but this only demonstrates how non-trivial things are.

        2. Women are exempt from most prayers. According to very great rabbis, it is sufficient for a woman to recite a very short text (I agree according to Magen Avraham, Berkoth Hashachar according to Maimonides, or according to the strictest, the morning prayer alone) for only a few seconds in the morning. This frees a woman from all prayer obligations during the day, and women are exempt from the obligation to attend synagogue. On the other hand, men are required to pray 3 intentional prayers a day and 4 on Shabbat and holy days, along with many readings, repetitions of Shabbat, and reading from the Torah. That is why women define their Shabbat as they wish, which men cannot do.
          Women are exempt from Torah study. Men are required. Men are pressured to study and join intensive educational institutions where they will study for many hours for years. As a sedernik who left the yeshiva for university to discover that young women were already at the end of their master's degrees, I realized how easy and pleasant it is to be a religious woman and how difficult it is to be a religious man.
          In religious Zionism, men are required to serve in the military and women are exempt. Even those who think that in our wars against the Arabs there is a mandatory war, a mitzvah, exempt women from enlisting.
          Why are they oppressed and men are privileged? What in everyday religious life oppresses women?
          And the privilege of privileges: women are allowed to masturbate and men are not! Women are allowed to fantasize about sexual fantasies as long as they do not plan to sin and men are not allowed! This gives them a huge advantage in married life over their partners, for whom everything is forbidden. No matter how sexually frustrated a man is, and no matter how harmful it is to him and his environment, there are no permits.
          There are so many concessions for women. It would be impossible to describe how many things are permitted for women that men are forbidden (such as hearing the sound of the shofar, sleeping in a sukkah, the four sexes, war, counting the Omer, positive commandments that are time-honored, tefillin, tzitzit,). How many obligations do men have that are not imposed on women, how much time do men devote to observing the Halacha compared to how little time do women have to devote to observing the Halacha.
          When you examine a society and see that it is divided into two groups. One group is obligated to a huge amount of obligations and the second group is exempt and exempt and exempt, it is clear who is oppressed and who is privileged.
          I was a member of the Padalchus group for years and I did not receive any satisfactory explanation for why religious women are oppressed and men are privileged. Their entire argument is based on pure conceptualism. You can live a full and happy life without going to the Torah even once (ahh.. I forgot that they also allowed that when there is no problem of public respect. And usually there is not.). It is very difficult for men to live in continuous sexual frustration. The problem with the blessing “You did not make me a wife” It is completely conceptual, just like the blessing “Asher Natan Leshkoy” that we still say every morning even though most of us live in the city and only see a rooster in pictures or on a plate. If a woman wants to study Torah, she can, there are frameworks for that. And she can also leave these frameworks and never open a gemara again in life and everything is fine.
          Except for particularly difficult cases of women’s aginot. A solution will be found for them too, it’s a matter of time. (And along the way, it would help if a solution were found for aginot men who pay high monthly alimony to a woman they haven’t been married to for decades.) And it would have been possible to find solutions for them in 2013 if the liberals had used their great power in the coalition to defeat the Haredi parties that were then in opposition.
          Let’s face the facts: Generally, on a daily basis, religious women are privileged and therefore exempt from everything, and men are the oppressed. The sooner we understand this, the more we can direct the law to address the real, concrete problems of our day.

            1. Any halachic restriction that causes people grief and halachic tools can be found to solve it or an existing distress that halachic can solve. I would expand and say that any restriction that exists in our generation that is not part of the Torah in its original form, i.e. that is unlikely to have been intended by the Torah.
              For example: Aginut is a halachic problem that places a real barrier on certain women that can be solved at least partially by annulling a marriage, forcing an actual divorce, or any other solution that a judge/judge can think of. As far as we understand the Torah, it is unlikely that it intended ”that a man take a wife…” to bind people in a marriage that does not actually exist for years.
              In contrast, a complete prohibition on any expression of sexuality, even at the cost of mental illness, is a restriction that causes people distress or constant entanglement in sins that the Torah apparently did not intend to impose on us, as is clear from what we know about sexuality in the Bible and in previous generations, and therefore it is necessary to find relief for those who suffer from this (I include in this group singles, widows, divorcees, people in sexless marriages, gays, etc.).
              On the other hand, complaints about completely conceptual and non-concrete concepts, such as a complaint about women not attending Torah classes and not actively participating in synagogue or about the blessing "Shelah Asheni Isha" that does not represent real distress but rather conceptual, do not require halachic consideration. The blessing "Shelah Asheni Isha" does not express any more chauvinistic content than the blessing “Asher Natan Leshchev” refers to the Shechchev that is not recited in the morning in an urban space. The blessings have no content attached to them, but are a text that must be recited when you stand before God in the morning.
              Equally, equality or the lack thereof in the synagogue is a completely conceptual concept. Aliyah to the Torah is not a privilege like any other ceremony in a synagogue. Men must come to the synagogue regardless of whether they want to. If you arrive at a synagogue during prayer/Torah reading/Chatzara Sh”tz and find the audience, including the T”chim in it, busy reading Shabbat leaflets or books or newspapers instead of concentrating on the religious ceremony, then it is clear that they do not treat the event as a privilege but as an obligation that must be waited for to end. Hence, attempts to include additional people in the prayer who are not part of the ceremony and are not obligated to it are not a privilege. Integrating women in the synagogue is not a privilege for them. On the contrary. They are exempt from obligation.
              Another example from the laws of Shabbat. If today's Shabbat laws had applied during the time of the Tabernacle and the Temple, the number of sacrifices would have been astronomical. One must pay attention and be careful about so many small things. It is unlikely that the law was then as it is today. Therefore, we must find relief before the Temple is rebuilt and we will have to sacrifice a huge number of animals.
              The problems discussed in the group of pedophiles from my memory were mainly conceptual and ideological (unfounded arguments presented to them about the status of women, chauvinistic interpretations of sources, etc.). These problems are not concrete because every ideological or educational source in Judaism is reinterpreted many times, has often undergone deconstructions, so when we encounter something like this, it is easy to reject it and there is no need to present it as part of Judaism.
              Another example from military service: The understanding that a man who is required to do military service, which is an unpleasant period to which you are obligated by law and halakha (and do not choose), enjoys a privilege, and a religious woman who is exempt from this service and still goes, by her choice, is essentially removing the chains of patriarchy from her back is an expression of the absurdity of focusing on conceptuality. A woman is exempt from the strict system, and her time is in her hands, or the right to choose, for the liberal system. A man has a duty. The pedantic preoccupation with such matters does not express mental or realistic distress, but only conceptual.
              Therefore, priority must be given to the real distress of people. People who want to do something and are forbidden from doing it. Or are burdened with an unbearable burden, who are required to do many things that are difficult for them. Their difficulty comes before the privileged with ideas.
              Sorry, I'm rambling a bit

              1. On the 12th of Sivan, 2nd of September, 2019

                To Moses, greetings,

                Regarding refusal of a divorce,

                Modernity is a bit complicated. Halacha has a sanction of 'force him until he dies', which modern scholars do not allow to be maintained. Accommodation in a state pension is less deterrent 🙂 And the truth is that there is no need to beat him until he dies, Shin Bet investigators have quite effective methods 🙂

                More complex are the many cases in which there is no clear injustice that requires, according to Halacha, a forced divorce. In short, Halacha does not recognize the ultimate right of any spouse to dissolve the marriage at any time they wish without proving significant wrongdoing on the part of their spouse. The halachic arbiters of their generations have made sure that it would not be easy for him to do so, and for this reason the Ketubah and the Haram Darbanu Gershom (or the oath) were established, which prevent unilateral divorce.

                Radical feminism also intensifies the problem of attachment. A woman who receives advice from organizations of this type receives reinforcement for the feeling that she is sometimes far from reality, that her husband is an "oppressor" and she is a "victim", and hence that the "oppressor" should be expelled and separated from his children, but without giving up on providing for him financially in a way that does not leave him with a reasonable possibility of a living.

                A little less radical feminism can enhance the possibility of reaching mediation, which, even if it does not prevent the dissolution of the marriage – will at least bring about a fair arrangement that will allow both spouses to live adequately while continuing a proper relationship with the children.

                There are quite a few cases in which a husband who feels that he is going to be cut off from his children and stripped of his skin financially – ‘ stands on his hind legs’ and exploits his ability to buy time to protect himself from being ‘thrown into the gutter’.

                The courts and tribunals have already addressed the problem, and have created an effective mediation system alongside them that strives to reach agreed divorce arrangements that will benefit all parties – the father, the mother, and the children.

                The more we enhance the possibilities for mediation – the more refusal will become rare.

                With blessings, Yaron Fishel Ordner

                Another thing that improves the situation is the Supreme Court's decision to include the principle of equality, and to also require the mother to participate in child support. The rabbinical courts have not yet adopted the innovation and require men to pay high child support even when the mother is well-off.

                Regarding the sins -

                Yes, there is discrimination here against females, since the sin of an individual is a female, but it should be noted that not every prohibition on the Sabbath is from the Torah. Many of the things are only prohibitions of the rabbis that do not require a sin offering.

                The construction of the Temple will require the books of halakhah to further refine the distinction between the Torah and the rabbis, and I believe that the number of sins will not be so great.

                With blessings, Yifa'r

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                … to protect against…

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                … that will benefit all parties…

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                … to apply the principle of equality…

              3. Halacha recognizes the right of each spouse to dissolve the relationship without the need to prove the other's guilt – only in the Noahide lineage.

                In theory, a man can divorce his wife whenever he wants, according to the opinion of Beit Hillel (even if the kadisha is cooked) and Rabbi Akiva (even if he finds another woman who is more beautiful), but this is only retrospective. Initially, it is the husband's moral duty not to divorce his wife, but rather the suspicion of ’indecency’ as the saying goes.

                The prophet Malachi strongly condemns the exiles who abandoned their wives, thereby causing ‘to cover the altar of God with tears, and he lashes out at those who abandon them: ‘Is she not your companion and the wife of your covenant, and you have betrayed her’, and the Gemara distinguishes between ‘first marriage’ Where ‘he who hates the one who sends’ and ‘he who has married’ where ‘if he hates – he sends’.

                But in any case, there is a sage ruling that a written document must be written to the wife, giving her high financial compensation in the event of a divorce ‘so that it will not be easy for him to divorce her’, and to this basic protection, the Ashkenazi rishonim added ‘haram derbenu gersham’ that a man may not divorce his wife by force (and in the countries of the East it was customary to swear a severe oath at the time of marriage, and a severe oath after divorce).

                This means: the Halacha does not like the unilateral dissolution of marriage.

                With blessings, Yafa'r

                It seems to the reader that the Torah changed the liberal policy regarding the children of Israel towards a unilateral dissolution, because the Jewish family is a nest in which children grow up and are educated in the faith of the Torah and its commandments.

                This heavy educational task – refines a stable framework of father and mother, who are not about to abandon their children at any moment,

                For the education of children – both the father ‘who teaches Torah’ and the mother ‘who persuades him’ in words’ are essential, and therefore their respect and education for each other was emphasized (as Rabbi Yehuda the Chief said about the verse ‘Honor your father and your mother’)

          1. Moshe, the discussion is not factual at all. You have a basic logical error. Just because women are exempt does not mean they are privileged. The discussion is not about exemption, but only about prohibitions. When you forbid women from doing things that are permitted to men, it is discrimination. If you exempt women from praying, it is okay, but if you forbid them from praying (in a minyan or in any other way) it is not okay. See my article on what is a ‘Kola’:
            https://mikyab.net/%D7%9B%D7%AA%D7%91%D7%99%D7%9D/%D7%9E%D7%90%D7%9E%D7%A8%D7%99%D7%9D/%D7%A2%D7%9C-%D7%A7%D7%95%D7%9C%D7%90-%D7%95%D7%97%D7%95%D7%9E%D7%A8%D7%90
            Beyond that, and this is also discussed in my above articles, you look at Halacha as a burden and therefore being exempt is an advantage. But for someone who looks at Halacha as a spiritual mission and virtue, being exempt is a disadvantage. And since some women see it that way, then their perspective is the determining factor, not yours. Limiting her according to your own perceptions is no excuse for anything.

            1. To Ramada,

              Amazingly, the one who took the time to answer, and explained a lot that ’work is a high necessity’, and that it is not appropriate to keep the commandments, not even for the purpose of a religious experience. ‘Did you forget your religion on this day’ ? 🙂

              With blessings, Ya'far

              And in general in the synagogue, your suggestions regarding reducing the prayers, shortening them and making them as short and concise as possible will be implemented – there will be no motivation left for any woman to participate in them. The men will finish the Shabbat prayers in an hour and a quarter, and wait another hour at home until their wives finish their passionate prayer, and come to Zion, the Redeemer.

              With greetings, Shaterna Tzila, née Roth
              Head of the semi-annual Halacha program at Midreshet ‘Shemen HaMor’

              1. לא לנהוג 'חסידות' בפרהסיא ולא בצורה 'דאתי לידי קולא' says:

                And even if it were to be shown that behind the aspiration for equality there was a genuine desire to excel and to commit to the commandments that women are exempt from, the “quality of chassidism” would have requirements.

                Chassidism that is done in an ostentatious manner is “showiness” and not chassidism, according to “Miriam, daughter of Eli the Onion,” who was punished in a grave manner (according to the Jerusalemite) for “fading a tzaima and announcing her fast.”

                And chassidism is not good when it involves breaking the boundaries of modesty that have been practiced for generations, due to which they have maintained complete separation between women and men in the synagogue. So even if it were permissible from the standpoint of the law, it is possible for a woman to ascend to the Torah. After all, there is at least the ruling of the Maharam of Rothenburg that prevented women from participating in the circumcision ceremony because their festive attire could arouse passions, which is doubly true on every Shabbat, and even more so in our generation when many women are not dressed modestly.

                And men listening to a cantor singing in a woman's voice was defined in the Gamma as a "fire in youth." So why should I be strict about the elegance of prayer for a woman, which would constitute an obstacle to the boundaries of fornication for many of her listeners?

                And for the sake of women's desire to be elegant and to flaunt their Hasidism, they set up a Facebook page full of mockery and blatant and venomous incitement, not only against Rabbis, but also against women who do not identify with them. Hasidism and elegance "par excellence" 🙂

                If you want to have fun singing in prayer – who prevents them from gathering in one of their living rooms, and singing in service and praise not in front of men?

                Best regards, Sh”t

              2. And today, on every Simchat Torah, they insist on dancing while holding the Torah scroll, hugging it and swinging it, and passing it from one woman to the arms of her companion,
                and they do not insist on holding the Torah scroll and reading from the weekly Torah portion. (Not all of them..)

              3. I will just reserve myself and say that sometimes the external elements have a positive effect, they may bring people closer to religion and create a positive atmosphere. You just need to correctly understand the entire complex that stands behind these egalitarian demands.

              4. In the sabbath, the Ark was carried

                Indeed, women's circumambulations on Simchat Torah are a good example of an action that can be done modestly, with the help of women, and bring one closer to the Torah.

                Rabbi Yaakov Ariel suggested that women's circumambulations should behave as they did in the past in some communities, where the book is placed on a stage and they dance around it (his reason is probably due to the custom mentioned in the Ramat that women do not touch the sabbath during their nidah, and also because not all women have the strength to carry a heavy sabbath).

                Of course, here too, one should pay attention to the words of Chazal: ‘Kemn tefshai inshi dkeimi makmami sefra da'Oriyata and not kayimi makmami dagbara rabbaࢩ (= How foolish are people who stand before a saint and do not stand before a great man).

                Honoring the Torah also requires respecting the sages who know the Torah, its interpreters and authorized teachers, the ones who transmit the rumor from generation to generation.

                With blessings, Sh”t

  5. Thank you for this post. I think you were too polite when you didn't state more clearly and concisely that in the third part of your trilogy you offer a nice toolbox for changes in halakhah. That is, it's nice that you place responsibility on the learned woman, but there is a situation where she doesn't have to reinvent the wheel, at most examine how to use it.
    As for ”shyness” – This is of course a complete mistake. We are not talking about essentialism, an organic female trait, but about a social construct. Yes, this rude word taken straight from the social sciences (I won't mention the honorable name by which they are called here on the site) and so on. As someone who has edited and edits Torah files and halakhic articles written by women, I am qualified to testify to both parts of the equation – about the difficulty in convincing intelligent women to write a Torah article, as well as the quality and seriousness of these articles, when they are ultimately written.

    1. Absolutely not. I didn't invent the wheel either. A study of methodological issues is also a study of my trilogy. Like a giant on a dwarf.
      As for shyness, this is of course not a mistake and not a complete one. You are only claiming that it is not an essential nature but the construction. In my words, I did not refer to the reasons, I only stated the fact (which I also heard from you, by the way). In the margins of my words, I will only say that I do not see a need to reject essentialism outright, but that essentialist claims require evidence. But it is certainly possible that there is an essential difference in nature. The claims that are automatically made against all essentialism are also essentialist (i.e. dogmatic). In the meantime, the burden of proof is on the women, who must prove that their abilities have not fallen into amplification. So far, this has not been proven, and I can only hope that it will improve and that there is no essential issue here.
      I hardly know of any scholarly articles by women of a high level. I don't know of any article by a woman that scholarly resolves a difficulty in the Rambam or in the Sugiya. There may be one or two of them, but not many more. When I wrote it, they came out against me in a fit of rage (and even immediately threw me out of moderation, without explicitly saying that this was the reason, but it was clear to all of us). But in my rooms, several heads of seminaries and women's groups who deal with the field admitted with full confidence that I was right and only said that it is forbidden to bring it out because it is oppressive and takes the spirit out of the Pharisees, and evolution and not revolution, etc. I argued to them that sunlight is the best disinfectant, and concealment will not help the matter that I also wish to criticize. That is why I wrote what I wrote, to shake up all those who sit comfortably and peacefully happy about the achievements of female learning. It is indeed impressive and indeed difficult to progress quickly, and I very much hope that it will come in the end, but denying the facts is of no use here. By the way, I myself have been involved for quite a while now in promoting female scholarship, and I am intimately familiar with the situation and the difficulties and how much there really are no high-level female scholars today. I cannot be sold on platitudes in this field, and I am not suspected of a lack of empathy. I simply prefer to be sober.

      1. Just a note: Anyone who believes that women are fundamentally, intrinsically shy, and has not had the opportunity to see women with diverse personalities in their environment, is asked to look at the character of Kreindel Tscharny, for example, in Agnon's "A Simple Story," as well as other characters of strong, clearly non-shy women in a variety of cinematic and literary works.

        1. Hayutha, it's a bit strange that you're referring to fictional characters. Isn't this evidence to the contrary? Beyond that, it's clear that this is a statistical claim, and therefore exceptional examples don't prove anything. Among the approximately five billion women in the world, you can find anything you want.

          1. Well, this is a basic discussion that belongs to the humanities that you love so much. Is literature an imitation of life or something detached from it? On this issue, I accept Aristotle's position in the Poetics, please:

            It is also clear that the poet's role is to narrate not the facts (things that happened) but the kind of things that may happen, that is, the possible events according to probability or necessity. For the historian and the poet [=writer] differ from each other not in what they narrate, but in this they differ: the one narrates the facts, while the other narrates the kind of things that are made to happen. Therefore *poetry is more philosophical and more honorable than history*, because poetry narrates mainly general matters, while history narrates private matters. :
            (The sentence between the asterisks is the main argument for my choice of literary example).

            1. Science of Herta (Ta) in Miram. You claim that literature describes life? So why get your bread from literature and not from the source itself (from life)?
              When there are no examples from life, the best advice is to create fictional characters, then develop a thesis/theory that literature is the essence and essence of life, and everything is in order. Any thesis can be proven this way. The wet dream of every science of Herta.

              1. Instead of being impressed by Aristotle who respects philosophers, and following in his footsteps, you choose to simply disparage? After all, I preferred the principled argument – There are such figures. We all know them, and to bring a strong example that Agnon created but did not fabricate from his heart or invent anything, only reflected, as a talented writer, a real figure, because – **Poetry is more philosophical and more honorable than history**, because it deals with ’events that are possible according to necessity’ and therefore is stronger than the historical-chance. After all, if I bring an example from my neighborhood, it will not interest or tell anyone anything.

              2. On the 13th of Sivan, 2021

                To her life, – Shalom Rav,

                It is certainly possible to create ‘mutations’ of strong women from Mars’ and gentle men from Venus’, but in the end, both qualities – strength and humility – are needed to bring about balance, as Rabbi Barachiah (Yoma) said about the scholars who were called ‘people’ because they are like women (interpretation: humble and exhausted) and do heroic deeds like men.

                To this end, man also needs in his children the figure of the father ‘who taught Torah’ And instills in his soul authority and fear, and also the image of the mother ‘who enticed him with words’, and instills in his soul the desire to be good and loving.

                The two contrasting qualities are essential, and therefore Rabbi Yehuda the Chief says (in the Mekhilta on ‘Honor your father and mother’) that the son tends to respect his mother ‘who enticed him with words’ more and to fear his father ‘who taught Torah’ more, and therefore they are strengthened by both respect and fear.

                In each person, both the man and the woman, there should be a certain mix of humility and firmness, but it is desirable that each one develops and emphasizes one side, so that mutual complementarity is created. Therefore, it is very appropriate that men specialize more in law and halacha and women excel in the Bible and legend that attract the heart to faith and love for God and His creation.

                In short: diversity leads to mutual complementarity, and together the perfection of the ‘image of God’ is created.

                With best wishes, Yaron Fish”l Ordner

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                … humble and weary…

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                … which the son tends to respect…

              4. בין 'אמת' ל'אמונה' - הבינה הצופה אל העתיד says:

                Another distinction between man and woman is made by the Rabbi (in Netivot Olam) that man tends to "truth" while woman tends to "faith."

                Truth clearly sees the present, while "faith" looks to the future, to what lies in power and has not yet come to fruition.

                Therefore, man is more suited to the role of judgment, for "the judge has only what his eyes see," while woman is more suited to the work of education and mercy, which come from the power of anticipating a good future and striving for it.

                Similarly, Rabbi Nachman of Breslov asks, "How is the "testimony of the Lord faithful?" Isn't the Torah a feminine term, and a woman is not qualified to testify?" And Rabbi Nachman replies that, however, the testimony of the Torah is faithful because of the ancients' regulation that the Rema brought to accept the testimony of a woman in a place where "there are no people present."

                According to Rabbi Nachman, the Torah is present with man even in the greatest moments of crisis, when "there are no people present with him," and then it testifies not to the broken present but to the corrected future, and its faithful testimony inspires faith and hope in man.

                With blessings, may the Rabbi

                And as the Rabbi says in the Discourse on the Commandments, the weakness of women is in their longing for the Torah, for that which has not yet been fulfilled.

                And as the Rabbi explains in the Ein Ein The Holy One's response to the angels' claim, "Why is a woman born among us?", to which the Holy One responds, "To receive the Torah in the hereafter," and it is precisely Moses' being "born of a woman" that allows him to open up and receive the Torah.

        2. Hi Hayutha, Kreindel Tcharni is the heroine of the story “And the Heel Was the Plain”. A strong woman? Between her two husbands she starved to death. Maybe you meant Cirel Horowitz’ from ”A Simple Story”? It's worth looking at her character a little more. Not really a role model..

          1. Indeed, I was wrong. I meant, of course, Zirel, the dominant woman from a simple story. Not a role model, but a model for negating the essential claim that a woman must be shy and weak.

            1. Zirel is a disgusting woman. In my opinion, she actually does the opposite service to the strong female character. Especially there in the story opposite the introverted and noble Bluma. But, of course, Bluma is also quite frustrating.

              1. This is the tip of the iceberg of an interesting issue discussed in the world of film and cultural criticism. The phenomenon of the two women, the ’good’ and the ’bad’ is a constant phenomenon. The independent and daring woman, say in a classic Western, had to be ‘bad’ (a prostitute or a criminal) and opposite her was the angelic, righteous woman – Mother Teresa incarnate, usually blonde while her ’bad’ rival had black hair. Thus, such a simplistic image that has many examples. It is a very Christian, dichotomous perception of the devil-angel, from which it actually follows that a good woman is a passive, accepting and loving woman who does not stand up for herself.
                When I was a child, there was a famous telenovela (I don't remember its name, unfortunately). There were two women – One, Crystal, a gentle and kind blonde, and the other (I forgot the name again) – black-haired, strong and mean-spirited. Everyone loved the first and hated the second, the series of course led to this. Later I became acquainted with feminist criticism and social construction, etc. ’, and I was able to look at it a little differently, except that it is of course more complex: evil still remains evil, and moral behavior is moral behavior. Zirel is truly disgusting and evil and heartless. In short – there is something here that needs to be sharpened and not missed at both poles.

              2. I remembered: the series was called 'Dynasty,' the 'bad' woman was called Alexis. In recent years, it has been remade, but I'm talking about the original series that aired in the 1970s, I think.

              3. Yes, of course, but Agnon is far from being a prisoner of these stereotypes.
                In general and in this story as well.

              4. Not sure at all. These stereotypes are based on a deep cultural perception and heritage. Certainly in Europe.

      2. I agree that there aren't many scholarly articles by women on the settlement of a question or Rambam, but "I don't know at all"?

        1. Hello Chaya. 🙂
          I mean a complex scholarly process. Indeed, I don't know. I suppose there is, but it's pretty clear that these are isolated individuals.
          What do you think about doing something about it? 🙂

          1. Peace and blessings 🙂
            The truth is that I thought I had done something about it. A few years ago I published an article in ”Dirsha” (you are on the editorial team…) and I have reviewed it again now, starting with part 5. I resolve a question in Rambam and several other questions that arose as a result.
            In addition, as a graduate of the doctoral program, I gave a class on the issue of darshim tachil and if it is a lemkir/lemsoret that appears simultaneously in Tractate Sukkah and Sanhedrin. There I proposed a new approach to understanding the issue. Although it was not officially published as an article, you attended the class and I also sent you a summary of it in writing.
            So here are two examples, one of resolving a question in Rambam and the other of presenting a scholarly approach in the Gemara. The reason I am providing evidence from myself is that I am not at all knowledgeable in the field and do not follow publications. Although I take into account that what I have renewed is not sufficiently scholarly and complex, after all I have never attended a class of a moderate rabbi at the Hebron/Mir/Ponybaz yeshiva, so I have no idea what is meant by a ”really serious article, at a scholarly level” as Moshe asks a few comments below me…

            Straight from the pile of doctorates:
            https://asif.co.il/wpfb-file/4_3-pdf-5/

            1. I remember well. That's why I asked you if you would like to do something. I have no doubt that there are women who are capable of doing such things, including you, and I wish it didn't happen, at least not in the past. What you described are the first buds, but not yet the peaks that need to be reached. You have to continue to toil and create over time to reach the highest levels.

              1. And for the simple moves – a good comment, a difficulty or a solution, a point of parallelism or a dissenting opinion, etc. – are closer to the truth than complex moves. And a good summary of a Sugya, which presents the basic questions and the answers of the first and last to their methods, even without innovation – is the gateway to greatness in Torah. And

                According to the instruction of the Rebbe of Kotzk to his son-in-law, the Avni Nezar ‘ to present and explain the methods simply and clearly, how each interprets the Gemara according to his own method’ when working in a clear and orderly method – here and there there are also variations and innovations, but the main thing is order and clarity.

                Best regards, Yifau”r

  6. Do you think there is any other way to get married besides buying a wife?

    1. Absolutely. More accurately: There is no way to marry by buying a woman. Halacha does not recognize such a way. See my article published in Akademi here: https://mikyab.net/%D7%9B%D7%AA%D7%91%D7%99%D7%9D/%D7%9E%D7%90%D7%9E%D7%A8%D7%99%D7%9D/%D7%94%D7%90%D7%9D-%D7%A7%D7%99%D7%93%D7%95%D7%A9%D7 %99%D7%9F-%D7%94%D7%9D-%D7%94%D7%97%D7%9C%D7%AA-%D7%91%D7%A2%D7%9C%D7% 95%D7%AA-%D7%91%D7%A2%D7%A7%D7%91%D7%95%D7%AA-%D7%9E%D7%90%D7%9E%D7%A8

      1. Thanks. Interesting article. No matter how the property is interpreted, there is certainly an inherent asymmetry (even if you strive to minimize it). This explains why absolute feminists cannot live with the halakha (because then everything is a social construct and there is no fundamental difference between men and women)

        Apparently you have to choose between Torah Lite and Feminism Lite

        1. Indeed, I wrote that there is a lack of symmetry. I did not promise anyone a garden of roses. But a commitment to the word of God requires us to accept things even if we do not like them. We can try and change as much as possible, but in the end, what is binding is binding.
          And there are indeed changes that can be made in the area of symmetry as well. The sages' teaching that a man should take a wife and not that a man should take a wife is also their teaching, and it is certainly possible to change it and create a completely symmetrical law. The question is what part of the law is the product of cultural and periodic influences of the sages and what part of it is the original intention of the Torah. However, such a change usually requires a Sanhedrin, or at least a broad consensus. I would not do it alone. But in principle, it is a possible change, and therefore it is possible that full feminism can coexist with a full commitment to the law. Probably not in our time when there is no body that can reinterpret and reinterpret the Torah.

  7. Very interesting. Thank you.

    A few points:

    1. It is likely that there are not many women scholars because of the combination of the amount of time and investment required on the one hand, and the (lack of) legitimacy of this investment that religious society (not to mention the ultra-Orthodox) directs towards women.

    The ancient Midrash suggests that:
    In the world, a thousand people enter the Bible – a hundred of them come out. A hundred for the Mishnah – ten of them come out. Ten for the Talmud – one of them comes out (interpretation of ‘gifts of the priesthood’: for teaching). This is what is written: ‘One man out of a thousand I have found’ (Ecclesiastes 7:28).

    And surprisingly, the current context also explains well the woman in all these I have not found. A foundation is needed. It is beginning to take shape. But it takes time.

    2. And since there are not enough women from here, and since we are still one society – Men and women who build families and communities – It would be good if the talented men who used existing platforms to acquire knowledge and abilities would extend assistance to women. Both in creating legitimacy and connecting them with those who understand and can influence, and in actually proposing ideas and possible changes in the halakha itself. Not just waiting for women to do it. They are not a burden. We are all in this together.

    3. And it is important to remember that it will be more difficult for women to implement such changes even after they have learned and changed. They will be suspected of being involved. I mean, that is indeed true. But it also greatly detracts from the legitimacy of the decisions and the results. You can go out and see the suspicious attitude towards someone who "simply" chooses to learn or R. L. to take part in public prayer and not just as a spectator from the sidelines (let's put aside the discussion about the essence of prayer and its place). And this will be even more so in decisions that are more controversial.

    To create more legitimacy for decisions and changes, it is useful for those who are not involved (at least seemingly, as stated in the previous point) to be the ones to help implement the changes. Women are forced to come together more than the borders in order not to lose the little legitimacy they have.

    1. 1. I completely agree. I hope and believe that you are also right in your predictions for the future, but time will tell.
      2. I think I am the last person who can be accused of waiting for women. I am waiting for them to make themselves available.
      3. Indeed. I wrote this in my words. See also 2.

  8. Reflections:
    A. And they said to them, “Rabbi, for the whole assembly is holy, and among you is a man of God; and you shall know that you are married, upon the assembly of the Lord.”
    B. It should be clarified that the writer implied that halakhic obligations are not supposed to play a role in the conduct of the family. I could “buy” my wife in the same way as my own and manage a completely equal family unit with her (and everyone also knows of cases in which a purchased wife manages her husband). There is no instruction in the halakhic obligations on how to manage a family. I do not believe that even among the Aharon/Satmar rabbis and among Rabbi Tau, the wife washes her husband's feet as decreed in the Gamma and Rambam.
    C. It is true that there are divorce problems, but I think that they can usually be solved.
    D. There are problems with attachment, and not all of them can be solved. But I also have a problem with the confiscation of a seventh of my life's work and many other restrictions. As if a religious man has ownership of his body, sexuality, etc. And also with the fact that I am not called to bless the congregation every morning at the 18th prayer. This is religion. Those who are not interested in restrictions will be honored and say honestly, as perhaps the owner of the post does. By saying that the oppression of women is at the foundation. Without it, everything falls apart., which is of course a strange conclusion. She invents a religion (to be fair – she didn’t invent this variant, it exists, but as far as I know the world – on the margins) and rebels against it.
    E. To Mrs. Hayutha – please pick up the gauntlet and provide me with a link to a truly serious article, on a scholarly level (not with a long and boring citation of sources and choosing between them according to inclination and moral considerations). I’m not asking for something on the level of the innovations of R. Sh. Shkop, R. Chaim or Hazo. I’m satisfied with something on the order of magnitude of a mediocre R. M. in a Hebron/Mir/Ponybaz yeshiva (where they throw in standars) and the like. It’s likely that you’ll find something in the pile of doctorates.

    1. Your words seem similar to the situation in which whites in the US respond to blacks who claim deprivation and discrimination: What do you want? We can't fly either? Not everyone is the president of the US here either. These are nonsense, of course.
      At your request from Chitah, I have no choice but to join. See my response to her above.

      1. Regarding the situation of blacks in the US, the rabbi is invited to watch.
        And if only one Jew wins, Dayani 🙂

        https://youtu.be/piwaBO6U43U

      2. The principle is that the law is restrictive, and in her words I see a principled refusal to accept this.

  9. As Moses wrote,
    The elephant in the room is the unequal situation in the Torah that cannot be changed.
    The Torah dictated certain behavior for women just as it dictated certain behavior for men, for priests, for bastards, and for other different behaviors.
    This is what it is, and if you give up on it, it means giving up on religion. There is nothing you can do. Either you believe or you don't.

    1. David, it seems you didn't read what I said. Read again. The Torah determines almost nothing, neither in this area nor in any other area. In the end, everything is an interpretation by humans, and therefore it also changes. The presentation as if all the halakha we have was given to Moses at Sinai is a conservative demagogic joke that tries to be a substitute for substantive answers. At Sinai, they also wrote an eye for an eye. They also wrote there the law of the rebellious son and the teacher and the remote city. They wrote a lot of things there. And these are things that were written in the Torah's commentary, not interpretations by sages, and look what they came up with.

  10. Fascinating topic!
    The direction of the (theoretical) solution that Shimichi proposes is also correct. Just inconsistent.

    The problem is not in the distortion of Judaism that has been created throughout history due to psychological forces in the human soul or in culture (it always has been and will be); the problem does not primarily stem from the gap between “halakha” as it is and “halakha” As it should be (since these “two” laws are anchored in the same single body of knowledge - the Torah); and in the end the problem will not be solved on the basis of the (correct) distinction between theory and practice (a rational person - a woman or a man, it doesn't matter) will ultimately look for an abstract principle that unites the two, and if he comes to the conclusion that there is none, then from his point of view the problem remains intact.

    There is no other way to say it: the problem is in the Torah itself. This is also what is implied by Deborah's words.

    The only way I see open to a rational woman like Deborah, who believes in God and probably also believes that the Torah was given to us from Sinai, is to remove the Torah from its place in Judaism. Indeed, this means that Judaism must be emptied of its main content.

    I have proposed here in the past more than once and twice the “Christian” model of religion - which is also based on It is, of course, about faith in God and the belief that the Torah was given by Him at Sinai. This is a more successful model both theoretically (it is more rational) and practically (it speaks to the hearts of men and women better).

    This proposal is not consistent with the theology of Michai himself, who, despite all his good intentions (although there are those who doubt this assertion…) did not, in my opinion, succeed in transcending this point (the reasons, as I have been saying for years, lie in his philosophical and methodological confusion and, more specifically, in his flawed understanding of the relationship between “synthetic” and ”analytic”).

    However, a very practical and prosaic comment should be made: the problems that concern Deborah and Michai (and me, the little one) do not really interest the Jewish public as a whole throughout history. It is certainly possible that the descendants of Deborah's descendants will continue to live for hundreds and perhaps thousands of years to come. The same problematic Judaism that Deborah describes today, while repressing its problems that were raised here. It is not impossible that the (real!) prosperity of Judaism - which rests on the Torah - is anchored throughout its history precisely in this sophisticated capacity for repression. An exemplary Jewish paradox.

    1. PS
      Regarding the practical solutions/methods of action, I actually agree with most of what Michi said. You should also drink something on the way to the tavern.

    2. Admits the facts and confesses guilt: I have indeed not been able to rise above the point that sees the Torah as the binding word. Nor have I tried. Christianity is a pretty poor option for me. If my "ascension" is supposed to go there, it's better to find someone else for this project.

      1. 1. I was not talking about (historical) Christianity, but about the model that stands in its background (“Christianity”). I have argued the difference between the two several times in the past. In any case, the principle of interpretive grace stands in the favor of all religions, not just Judaism. Your response fails to understand this point.

        2. I would not call Judaism “poor” as you called Christianity. At most, I would say that Judaism is less rational or tainted with idolatry. You will probably immediately justify yourself and tell me that you “really” think so… Londonization (do Yaron London) of the beloved discourse. You. Too much sentimentality?

        1. The Christian model can only be considered feminist when the male hegemony, expressed in the ’Father and Son and Holy Spirit’, is replaced by the ’Mother and Daughter and Holy Spirit’, but it is difficult for me to see which contemporary woman would agree to be crucified in order to reach the status of ‘Daughter’ 🙂

          With greetings, PedeiMush”e [Religious fundamentalist with too much sense of humor]

          1. But in Hebrew there is a problem with “spirit”, which as librarians all over the world know is grammatically bisexual. And how do you change gender under these conditions?

            1. I don't think that in Christianity the general process between a man and a woman is fundamentally different. The mere fact that Christianity does not focus on the law as the basis of life, and that is beautiful (and causes other problems), does not mean that in terms of relations between the sexes, a woman is equal to a man.

              Christianity is a combination of Judaism with Plato and the Stoics philosophically, and it does not have guidelines for meditative interpretation of the Bible but for philosophical sermons, as Plato did for the Iliad and the Odyssey. It is true that it is aimed at a meditative place like the Socratic aphorism, and this is the motif of water in Christianity, symbolizing constant change, but Christian theory preserves biblical patriarchy, even if in a more theoretical and philosophical guise. This is the thought about the “spirit” In Christianity, and it is expressed in the (sometimes obsessive) search for philosophical theories, which, as has been said, ultimately also aim at the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, when the contemplation of the Spirit is philosophical (as Hegel did in his book “The Phenomenology of Spirit”) and in fact everything remains at a philosophical-perichaelian level, and I would add in the spirit of Freud – obsessive compulsive, just like the spirality of the Spirit in Hegel's thought – not something pleasant in terms of the female experience, I think.

              I don't think this is what will solve the problem.

              See here the results of Paul's own thought –

              “20 And in all things give thanks to God in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 21 Let every man be subject to his neighbor out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, 23 because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, – the Savior of the body. 24 And as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 so that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the washing of the Spirit, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, not having spot or wrinkle or any other defect, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, 30 and we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” 32 This is a great mystery, and I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 But let each of you love his wife as himself; and the wife must respect her husband.” (Eph. 5:1)

              Indeed, the woman is respected, and there is indeed a reference to the motif of purifying water, adding a holistic-meditative feeling, but there is no departure from patriarchy here.

              1. Ophir, I was not dealing with official Christianity in all its many versions, but with the model behind it. Judging by your response, it seems that you did not understand the difference between the two.
                But even Paul's "official" chauvinism can be softened to a large extent if we remember that the overall course he offers us gives us good tools to transcend the legal formalism offered to us by Judaism. Even if Paul himself does not see this.
                Historically, the modern principle of autonomy (including the autonomy of women) is certainly based on this as well.

              2. I agree that it is possible and advisable to be a Jewish man who observes the Torah and accepts the words of Paul, and this does advance the issue. I would be happy to correspond with you on the matter because it interests me greatly. This is my email – galeser@gmail.com

              3. On the 14th of Sivan,

                To Ophir, greetings,

                If Paul preached to love his wife as his own body, but to treat her from above as Christ to his congregation,

                The Sages (Yevamot Sebal) demanded not only that he love his wife as his own body, but also that she be more respectful of him than his own body.

                The man who follows the path of the Sages does not see himself as the Messiah with regard to his wife, but rather is instructed to bow his head and listen to his wife's advice in the words of Deelma and Debita, as the Sages instructed: "You shall be a man of great strength, and you Manoah deserves praise, for he said, “And Manoah went after his wife, after the advice of his wife.”

                And the difference is understandable. For Christians, the bond between a man and his wife is a “necessary evil.” The ideal is to be a hermit. And who is greater to them than that man, when his mother came and interrupted him while he was sitting with his disciples: “What do you want, a wife?” Why are you confusing my mind when I am sitting with the holy company, immersed in the sacred waters of spiritual ascension 🙂

                Not so the Israeli man, who is guided by the sages (Yevamot there) that man and woman together create the “image of God,” that the Shekhinah is present between them by the letter The letter Y is the letter I, and the letter A is the letter I, which together form the name of the Lord.

                The Israeli man who aspires to build a Jewish home where Torah life prevails, is guided by the sages who say that he who is without a wife is without Torah, without a wall, without a blessing and without peace (Yevamot Shem), and therefore he respects his wife more than his body, out of his feeling that she is mine and yours is hers.

                The wife of an Israeli man is not "water", but "your companion and the wife of your covenant", as the prophet Malachi said. Therefore, he is more respectful of his body.

                Best regards, Yaron Fishel Ordner

              4. In paragraph 4, line 3
                … While he was sitting with his disciples, he said to her: ‘What is the matter with you, woman’, …

  11. Regarding the claim that women are naturally more timid, which sounds like there is some innate shyness here – this is not true at all. And it is important to emphasize this here when the discussion is about rulings and halakha, which are legal matters. Women from the dawn of history have accepted the authority of the law, which was enacted by men. The man who was physically stronger than the woman, and whose body allowed him to rape more women, was always the head of the family, and consequently also the head of the tribe, who had the legislative authority. Therefore, legal language is fundamentally masculine language.

    Boys and girls are born equally brave. But while the male is educated, in the light of a society, in which he can influence the legal system, the woman is not. As a result, the male's childish survival needs lead him to develop legal thinking, while the female develops a different type of thinking, which does not put the legal field at the forefront of her mind. The entire system of considerations begins differently. A girl who wants to influence decisions in her family understands that she needs to rely on highly developed emotional abilities, an understanding of the human soul, and so on, and therefore develops her emotional abilities out of her survival needs.

    While male children can be very brave from a Torah perspective, and have essays of heroism written about them, how they were the best in the room, how they were intelligent, sensitive, and brilliant scholars, brave girls will not find their way into national heroic stories, even though they hold society together with their bravery and emotional courage. They can turn to their brother when he is hurt and change his world, they can reconcile two parents, they can take care of someone or something, without whom he would be a public figure who would bring great harm to society from unresolved emotional conflicts, but for all this heroism and courage, no one will listen, because this is the nature of a closed-door discussion and the obligation that stems from respect, for someone whose soul you touch emotionally – to maintain his privacy.

    I am not here to sanctify the image of women just as I am not here to sanctify the image of men. Just as men can harm society through their legal abilities, when in their hearts they are full of internal conflicts, which are thrown out through their writing and legal work, and through the leadership they receive because of it, so women can be control-sick, through the power they gain by controlling the heart of someone who needs their help, the heart of a partner who understands less about what is going on in his own heart, and by sanctifying extreme cooperative ideologies like communism as a tool for covering up facts and ethical, critical, and philosophical considerations.

    At the same time, and considering all this – there is no basis for the idea that a woman is less courageous than a man by the very fact of her birth, and there is much support for recognizing female courage, only that it is done more behind the scenes.

    The most important implication of this understanding is that for women to enter the world of jurisprudence, the most important tool for them is silent listening, through which only a new language can be learned. When I say “listening” I don't mean “obedience”. When I say “quiet listening” I don't mean “be pretty, shut up, and don't talk.”. Not at all. I'm saying that in order to learn the Jewish legal tradition, which is a language, which is not your cognitive “mother tongue”, it is important that you listen to speakers of the language who already speak it. From this listening, and the ambition that you already have to bring about change, you will slowly be able to speak the language, you will be able to ask, to make it difficult, to argue, and to prove. Then you will not only be a speaker of the language yourself, but you will also be able to teach other women.

    It is clear to me that there are women who are secular lawyers today, and I believe that it is easier for them to learn halakha, and no woman starts from scratch with her legal understanding. I am referring here to an aspect experienced by men as "shyness," and perhaps permeating female discourse. Women are not shyer than men from the day they are born, the question is what language they begin to speak, and this question is critical to the manner of entering the world of Halacha.

  12. Thanks for the post and as always necessary

    A few comments:

    1. For some reason the rabbi places him with the world of men in the Mars of the Earth, I think the rabbi is generally in Zedek or Nephton and so on. In our world of Mars, which is located within the walls of the Beit Midrash and is deeply immersed in Halacha to the point of being a slave, very few people roll up their sleeves and are ready to make (demand) change and update the 'hardship'. So the expectation from women, most of whom still occupy the role of observers and candy throwers on Shabbat Chatan, to come to change, is one step too fast (Michael in one), before they come down to help men to bear and give (which is already more common today) and with time the courage will come (maybe), meaning that the refreshing of tradition is not (barely) found at all in Mars, so it cannot be a legacy for Venus.

    2. For some reason, the feeling that the halakha does not count women is more widespread, and indeed this is the atmosphere in the Mishnah of the Sages, both moral and halakhic, but I think it is enough to glance here and there in the Mishnah of the Rabbis and realize that men from all over the solar system feel the same feeling, that they are not counted. It is true that the situation of women in halakha is much worse, they are ostracized in every discourse and critical research materials are hidden from them, but this feeling is also shared in varying degrees by many men who feel that the Sages (as the Rabbis always write) ruled according to the norms of their time and there are things in which if the Sanhedrin were in office in 2021, the ruling would be different, that is, this is not a distinctly feminist issue, in a system that has been struggling for ages and ages, everyone suffers, some more and some less. And the trilogy will testify to this like a thousand witnesses.

    3. I personally think that the situation is not that dire, certainly not in a historical perspective. The situation today has improved dramatically. What we see is in complete contrast to how the rabbis would have wanted a woman to look in their time. Today, women are the almost perfect antithesis of all their words. They come and go, making their rulings, raising their voices loudly, and in many cases, as Thatcher said, "Once a woman becomes equal to a man, she surpasses him." So we can look at this whole issue as something that has already gotten on the right track and is now making its way, albeit at a limited speed, but it is definitely on its way to its destination. (It reminds me of Aria Deri's comment about there being no Mizrahi Jews among the recipients of the Israel Prize, and a shrill voice says that in order to win the lottery, you have to collect a ticket first.) Ultimately, as the rabbi said, it is a shame to abandon the train while traveling. Patience will pay off for all of us.

    Hello, hello.

  13. I am sharing with you an initiative related to this matter. My wife is a declared pedlar who decided to take the law into her own hands (and I joined her initially with a strong voice of protest and then with a weak voice of protest). Three years ago, she/we established a minyan called a family minyan and not an equal one for two reasons: the hardships she experienced because the family does not pray together, and because the woman has a problem (not halakhic) in transferring the children to the father in the synagogue without a foreign intermediary. The main hardship she had was her desire to be a partner in prayer from a young age and the desire to allow our daughter what she did not have: the opportunity to sing pleasant hymns, to say Neshat Kol Chai in the Nigun Beit Abba, etc. Those who gathered to establish the minyan determined that there would be no difference between men and women in everything related to holiness and the minyan. From counting women for the minyan to a woman cantor at every prayer, including the (still hypothetical) possibility of a woman blowing the shofar (an example of a mitzvah from the Torah). Quite a few families gathered for the minyan, some of whom belong in part or in large part to the Padalchus wing. There are older families in the neighborhood who would join, but they are already rooted in another Orthodox minyan, and when a family is rooted in a certain place, it is more difficult for them to move due to habit. It is like a book that you are used to buying, except that in prayer, the issue is also the children and their friendships, etc. The beauty of the minyan that gathered for it is that several families whose partners are lesbians or whose partners are gay. What is missing from the minyan in my opinion? There is still a lack of female leadership in the field of Torah reading, which remains almost exclusively in the hands of the men in the minyan. In my opinion, this is what can open a tradition of mothers towards daughters who see their mothers reading the Torah and imitating them. It seems to me that the inconvenience involved in reading the Torah and the version of Dinkutha that the men of the minyan have are leading to the fact that after three years this situation has not progressed in the minyan. There is another problem in the minyan that is not just a problem. The minyan is essentially a community, and when the members of the small community are connected to each other, the prayer is also a place for talk, sometimes at the expense of the minyan, and unfashionable delays in the start time of the prayer. There are initiatives in the minyan that are not in my opinion, such as bringing a woman who is a daughter of a priest or a daughter of a Levite (after she gets married) to the Torah, and there is even a woman who comes up for the blessing of the priests. Here it seems to me - as someone who tries to walk within the boundaries of the halakhah - that they went too far. On Shabbat, at the end of the prayer, someone who was orphaned about a week ago spoke. She thanked the members of the community for the fact that on Shabbat she does not have to join another man to say Kaddish and have him answer her in the same way, and other things that are only possible in Orthodox settings. As a worshiper in this synagogue, I feel that there is a proper balance between the feminist position of most worshipers and the religious position, that is, the synagogue is a place of prayer and not just a community for the Sabbath. In terms of the reality in our neighborhood, the Orthodox synagogue is bursting with many worshipers, a significant portion of whom, in my opinion, identify with the synagogue, but people usually choose the common conservative path and not the path that involves new concerns that are not from the Torah and concerns about a feminist abyss that will jump out at them. As the Orthodox synagogue rabbi (a dictator from a good Jewish home) said: Women - if you give them something, they immediately want and take more. I would invite his wife to pray with us, but I am afraid that she will want more things.

    1. I understand that this is just an update and not a question.
      Your strength in the Torah. The problems you describe (lateness, chatter) are understandable (in vain) in almost every minyan. Regarding the reading of the Torah, if the women don't want to then what's the problem? They shouldn't read. Usually most men don't want to either, even though it's easier for them (they learned the Dinkutha version). There's no need for a man to join in a woman's Kaddish. Where did they get this nonsense from? Almost every halachic point you raised can be questioned, but as a general rule, such a minyan is definitely a step in the right direction and almost every step taken in these directions can be justified. And in general, the sensitivity of synagogue matters is in no way proportional to their importance and halachic weight (much like mourning customs, by contrast).

      1. On the 13th of Sivan, 5621

        And to Ramada, Shalom Rav,

        She who gives the relatively limited ‘dignity and halachic weight’ of synagogue life is one of the reasons why most religious women have no frustration at their inability to be cantors or read Torah in public.

        A woman can have a career in all fields, in medicine, science and technology, in economics and public activity, in education and also in high-level Torah study in the Bible, Jewish thought and even in Talmud and Halacha – What will a ‘second career’ of a cantor give her and what will it add to her? Does the fact that all men will delight in the curls of her voice – contribute anything to her social status?

        Therefore, most religious women happily leave the burden of having to attend the minyan three times a day (and on Shabbat and holy days: four), and use Shabbat for rest, for investment in children and family, and for studying and studying the Torah and in prayers. She comes to the synagogue to pray and not to wage pointless battles.

        Someone who is still surrounded by frustrations from her childhood about her inability to say ‘Sing songs’ – really, maybe it would be better for her to vent her frustration by creating a minyan to her liking, than to spend her time mocking, defiance, and lashing out on venomous websites, which lead their writers and participants to despise and hate Judaism. Therefore, perhaps we should congratulate the closure of the venomous Facebook page.

        Best regards, Yaron Fish”l Ordner

        1. The acute need to integrate women into synagogue life is precisely among Reform and Conservatives and their ilk, for whom almost all of their religious life is summed up in the weekly visit to the synagogue, along with the weekly visit to the church of their Christian neighbors. There is very little room for religion at home.

          In contrast, among Jews who observe the 13 commandments and their laws, the Jewish home is the focus of religious life no less than the synagogue. It is at home that the commandments of kashrut and purification are observed, and it is at home that the children's education in Torah and good deeds begins. The home is the place that radiates peace and fellowship, charity and kindness that illuminate the outside. In the Jewish home, the woman serves as the "High Priestess," by virtue of whom the Jewish home becomes a holy place, and in which it is fulfilled: "And I have dwelt among them."

          Man and woman share in shaping the public domain and the private domain, but man has a strong emphasis on the commitment to the Jewish design of the ‘public domain’ while woman has a more distinct role in shaping the Jewish home. And the ’Ministry of Interior’ is no less important than the ’Ministry of Foreign Affairs’ 🙂

          With greetings, Yaffo”r

      2. Regarding “and it is possible to justify almost any step taken in these directions” – is there any step among the steps I described (the immigration of a priest’s daughter married to a priest’s blessing, etc.) that you do not think can be justified? If not, what do you think is the watershed from a halakhic perspective?

        1. You have to think about it individually. I don't see anything right now that a priori can't be justified. Even the arrival of a daughter of a Cohen should be discussed. But anything like that requires opening the issue with all the tools of change from the trilogy.

      3. You wrote that almost every halachic point I raised should be peppered. Which of the points do you think will remain a halachic taboo?

    2. Do you come to the synagogue to worship the Name? Or so that He/She will worship you?

      Just asking, open to any explanation, the segbara, the sensiya (and also the snack), etc.

  14. Another common scoundrel.

    1. For those who care about inequality, what difference does it make if it's inequality between women and men or inequality between beautiful and ugly, rich and poor, weak and strong?
    2. “You know. You are equal, just as you are. All of you. Your body is wonderful, your sexuality is good, your female cycle is a model of divine nature.” In Judaism, sexuality is also tolerated in men. Does it turn itself into a sexual object and that's the whole point and everything else is just a cover for it?
    3. “You know. You are equal, just as you are. All of you..” Not all of them are equally equal, some are more beautiful and some are less.

    1. 1. I don't understand, are you claiming that someone who cares about inequality between men and women – doesn't care about equality between beautiful and ugly and rich and poor and strong and weak? If so – where does this assumption come from?
      2. I don't feel that my sexuality is given comfort as a Jewish man who observes Torah and mitzvot. On the contrary, it is respected. Why should I feel that?
      3. Why do you make the claim that beauty teaches about inequality?

      1. 1. There is a great deal of inequality within the group of men themselves and within the group of women themselves and between people. There are many factors according to which inequality exists, some more prominent, some less so. Focusing on just one indicator shows that it is an interest that she does not explicitly reveal and not a cry for injustice as she wants to portray in the eyes of the innocent.

        2. Of course, sexuality is given leniency and restriction in religion. You are only allowed to have relations with your wife. And in terms of the body, we have not seen anywhere in Judaism that the male body is given any superior treatment, so what does she want from the treatment of her body in this context.

        3. Beauty does not indicate inequality. Beauty is another cause of inequality, men and women invest a lot in it to portray themselves as beautiful in the eyes of others, and in fact to promote the inequality that it causes. And many women suffer from this. And it seems that she sanctifies the matter of the body and thus perpetuates the entire issue of inequality.

        In short, equality cannot be based on material factors, as they contain inherent inequality. Therefore, it is nonsense.

        1. A. Maybe each one focuses on something different? There are religious women who deal with equality between men and women in halakhah. There are religious women who focus on economic issues, and there are religious women who focus on body image. Not everything is simple, and there are things that are more difficult to talk about in public. I don't understand where the problem is. Most people can't deal with all the issues together intensively. That's reserved for Alevi philosophers.

          B. Regarding having relationships outside of marriage – First of all, it's not halakhically correct that it's forbidden. Second, it actually respects my sexuality that I don't have relationships with a woman outside of marriage from a moral perspective, because that way I respect the woman I'm with, and whoever doesn't respect others, despises himself. And more – Look at the entire Bible, how many prophets express themselves metaphorically about the honor of ”divine masculinity”, if it is, God forbid, despised. This itself teaches an attitude towards male sexuality.

          C. Maybe men and women invest in beauty also to respect their partners? Maybe to respect their workplace? Maybe they are in positions that help people and should respect those they help? Maybe they are diplomatic positions on a mission to protect people, and take care of their beauty to respect the group from which they were sent? Is this just seduction? Or are there other dimensions to beauty?

          D. Inequality cannot be based on material factors, but only by respect and empathy for every person and every material factor.

          1. People have problems, that's always true. There's a huge difference between someone who focuses on a particular problem and someone who misleads others by saying they're focusing on a particular problem when they're actually busy with another problem. And the naive truly and sincerely think that things are honest.

            The fact that you're talking about respect and sexuality together only proves that sexuality is suppressed by another factor, respect, which is related to the instinct of pride in general.

            We invest in beauty because there is an inherent inequality in human nature that the beautiful love and like more.

            Respect every person…. Beyond the fact that it's against nature, automatically treating every person the same way proves that it's not about respect but about arrogance.

            1. A. “And the Lord said to Samuel, Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, for I have rejected him, for man does not see what man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” (1 Samuel, 1:17, 7) I see behavior. I do not see ulterior motives.

              B. It is clear to me that we are not dealing with all the issues, and that is a shame. When was the last time I dealt with the suffering of the enslaved Chinese? I am truly sorry. I wish I could. I believe that it is most right for a person to first help people with things that you understand, and they are usually the things that are closest to you. First, help yourself, because if I do not help myself, – who will? Then my family, then my surroundings. It is easier for me to help the State of Israel and improve its situation than for China. It is easier for me to help people who have gone through emotional trauma like I did, than people who have gone through other types of emotional trauma, because I understand their hearts. I think it is completely justified that religious girls who experience injustice in the halakhic system will first help women they know who are experiencing the same type of oppression. Do you think that one should first reach out to someone who is not related to the distress you experienced?

              C. It is clear that sexuality is suppressed. But I do not feel that it is related to the Torah and mitzvot. The fact that there is a chauvinistic education, practiced by men, and this primarily harms men. They tell a boy, “Be a man, overcome your instincts, overcome your emotions, your lust, you are stronger than your natural tendencies,” and all of this is complete nonsense. A person is not stronger than his instincts. The wisdom is to understand that there is a compromise. The Gemara in Tractate Sukkah brings the verse, “Be a man, overcome your instincts, overcome your emotions, your lust, you are stronger than your natural tendencies.” "If your enemy is hungry, feed him bread, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you have heaped coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you." From my point of view, and not only "starve him seven times, satisfy him with hunger." The righteous Joseph, who kept the covenant, ejaculated between his fingers so as not to sin with Potiphar's wife. The book of Hasidim says to release the urge between yourself so as not to sin with a concubine or a man's wife. The law is that the prohibition is only "for idleness" and there is no prohibition for the purpose of preventing transgression, and this is how the Wisdom of Solomon writes in Even HaEzer 23, Rabbi Kook rules according to the Wisdom of Solomon. All the vanities and fantasies that a man can be an angel are pagan tendencies, and we know which rabbi is called "the angel." We know which book teaches strange fantasies about “repentance” in that you momentarily said “I will not sin again” (because you have broken the urge and currently have no desire) and you returned to sinning. Vain fantasies, repentance is a lifelong process, and any imagination that enters it completely disrupts it. We know what obsessions it encourages. This is machismo, and this is the most machismo-istic public in Israel. This is not Torah and commandments.

              D. Investing in beauty, also for the purpose you mentioned, can be part of a life of promoting social justice, as I mentioned in the previous response.

              E. Obviously not automatically. Respect is not automatic. What is required is “justice, pursue justice” in life in general. Along the way you meet people, they have faces, they have eyes, each one is unique. Only if you look people in the eye, every person, man or woman or boy or girl, by the way, even animals, can you respect them.

              1. I refer to an article I wrote on the subject, and Rabbi Ilai Ofran agreed with me and subsequently published his words that began the change in the religious community on this matter of keeping the covenant

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              2. I remember how I made a fuss at the Mechina Eli, when I was thinking about where to go after the army, and asked Rabbi Yigal Levinstein how to deal with the urge regarding keeping the covenant. He answered me – there is nothing to talk too much about – like a soldier. We are like soldiers. We overcome.

                Later in the week there was a discussion at the Mechina, and there they claimed that the greatest mitzvah of the generation is regarding the Land of Israel. I asked – I read the book “Taherat Hakodesh” by Rabbi Aharon Rata and it sounds different, and that the greatest mitzvah of the generation is keeping the covenant, so he replied that this is where the controversy lies.

                In fact, the national religious public as a whole has given up on the Haredi approach that fears sexuality with the help of the romanticism and machismo idealism of conquering the land. This is how generations of boys grew up who cannot relate to sexuality, and are willing, in the name of all sorts of values of Bnei Akiva and the State of Israel and the Land of Israel, to relate to their own desires in all sorts of strange ways, from a macho and militant approach that was justified in the name of Zionist survivalism. But the Torah truth is elsewhere.

              3. “Like a young man with a virgin, your sons will harass you, and like a bridegroom with a bride, your God will harass you.” This harassment is a real act of fornication. It is not Halakha and not what the Torah requires.

  15. Shalom Rabbi.
    Congratulations on a post that is well-reasoned and well-received. But what caught my eye, and disturbed my peace, is your confession – What would your loyalty to halacha be if you were a woman.. And this is how you wrote

    “I have often told the students at the doctoral seminary at Bar Ilan where I teach, that if I were a woman (to the extent that such a description has any meaning. If I were a woman, I would not be me) it is very doubtful whether I would be loyal to halacha today, unless they had succeeded in suppressing my critical thinking as well”

    And I asked, why does your loyalty to halacha depend on whether you are a man or a woman? If there is such a terrible injustice that contradicts every human perception that we know today in the reality of our lives. What are the implications of your personal gender?

    1. I think that Rabbi Avraham consistently presents a method whose loyalty is not only to Halacha but also to other values. Likewise, Rabbi Avraham is a person who writes philosophical and rational writing, and he cannot know what would happen in a fateful situation. “Do not believe in yourself until the day you die”, and also regarding the answer it is said “Until he testifies about him who knows mysteries”. No one knows how he will react in a hypothetical situation. And likewise, from a Torah perspective it is said – “A person will always see himself as half justified and half guilty”. I think this confession is worthy of respect both in terms of honesty and in terms of a personal Torah example.

      Rabbi Avraham's ability to transcend the narrow view of the moment, and to say – I am a person who observes Torah and mitzvot, and at the same time I recognize other values, and I give them encouragement in this post, it is honorable from a Gothic and moral perspective. It may sound “un-Kantian” to say – Everyone should respect women's dignity, and I am part of a Torah system that may not respect women. But the categorical imperative does not speak to the question of which group you are allowed to belong to or not, but rather what your actions are as an individual, and in this respect Rabbi Avraham proved that he did his part in writing the trilogy. Rabbi Avraham's path is a continuation of the Kantian tradition in Kant's essay “What is Enlightenment?”. There, Kant argues that revolutions that truly advance humanity are not made in big booms, and by overturning the entire existing order, but in a much more informed manner. Kant argues in the essay “What is Enlightenment?” That a priest who wants to go against the church to which he belongs can continue to belong to the church and function in it according to its rules, and at the same time, in his personal publications outside the church, express his opinions freely – and this is the way to bring about a truly constructive revolution. I believe that Rabbi Avraham does not hide his opinions even within the Beit Midrash, and he has proven this, but it is worth thinking about Kant's thought on the matter, since Rabbi Avraham openly declares that Kantian morality is the morality in which he believes.

      The question of how it is possible to still speak in the Beit Midrash against the Beit Midrash in which you teach is more interesting, and this is, in my humble opinion, a question in which morality, criticism, and true judgment are tested, and in the moral-Torah context is an issue in itself, which I assume Rabbi Avraham has a lot to say about it. This is a question that I am interested in hearing from Rabbi Avraham personally.

      1. There is nothing sacred in the law, it was written by humans.
        There are the principles that the Torah gives, and from the story of the daughters of Zelophehad all the laws concerning inequality can be extracted.
        But this can only happen when the foolish slaves (contrary to what many think, we have not yet left Egypt) stop listening to those in power who dress up like Santa Claus and ancient wizards.

      2. I think the last point I raised concerns Jewish criticism of the Kantian conceptualization that entered Nazi thought, and seemingly nullified the understanding that it was appropriate to rebel in publications against the Fuhrer. It is clear that the Fuhrer does not represent morality and is a German madness, rooted in German romanticism, which merged with fascist tendencies and claimed to represent the Heideggerian “morality of being” through the “enlightened dictator”, who would change all orders of races and bodies.

        But here it is interesting to examine the question of how Kantian morality can live in the Beit Midrash, which is supposedly based on controversy and not on categorical action, although on the other hand, the very declaration of affiliation with it seemingly indicates an internal conflict between a commitment to categorical-moral action versus a commitment to a Midrashic institution, which itself is opposed to categorical morality. It seems to me that the compromise found in the Beit Midrash at Bar Ilan University is the beginning of a response, even though it is not yet clear, because it is ostensibly still a commitment to the Beit Midrash and I do not think that it is a research institute in its basic definition.

    2. It depends on it, but if I hadn't studied I wouldn't have confidence that it was indeed true and binding. Just like if I hadn't studied I couldn't use mathematics. That doesn't mean that mathematics is not correct.

  16. And another innocent, informative question, as stupid as it is possible to be in this context: Even if the halakha itself can be greatly flexible from a "feminist" perspective, are there still rigid boundaries that cannot be bent? Who is wise and intelligent and can give an ignorant and ignorant person like me two or three such concrete examples of the "total" rigidity of the halakha vis-à-vis the status of women?

    1. I don't know how to give such criteria. Every change should be examined on its own merits, and if it is convincing, it can be made. Why do I need to determine in advance what can be changed and what can't? And have I thought of everything? It's like determining in advance for a legislator what he can enact. When he wants, he can think and decide whether and what to enact.

  17. Thank you very much, I loved the article and the thread that followed it. I don't understand anything fundamental, what the belief that the 'Torah was given by God at Sinai' means for modern rational people who know the findings of modern science and are familiar with various strange and unreasonable myths from all other religions, and are familiar with biblical criticism. Why do we adhere to the Halacha out of faith in the 'Torah from Sinai' and not treat the Torah as a human creation of the Jewish people (and not precisely of 'God') that is worthy of changes just like the transition from patriarchy to feminism or the transition from monarchy and slavery to liberal democracy, etc., simply because human consciousness develops and changes and our moral norms change throughout history. So why is the 'dogmatic' belief This one in particular must not change, but rather any change in Jewish tradition must be subject to it?

    1. There is a logical error here. One can conclude that the halakha is entirely a human creation (in a certain sense I agree with this. See below), but then you are not bound by the halakha and do not observe it. You can of course worship me or my neighbor, but these are not mitzvot and this is not the work of God.
      I do agree that the halakha is entirely an interpretation that people give to the Torah we have received. But there is an interpretive core around which all this is done. Otherwise it has no meaning.

  18. A very important critical comment on the article and the responses is, in my opinion, that women should not be scholars at all. The word “scholarship” is indeed a sagbra. In order to be adjudicators of halakha, women can be scholars and wise scholars, but there is no need for “scholarship” or “scholarship.” These bombastic words are part of the distancing, exclusionary, and chauvinistic ethos. There is no need to burden a woman who wants to adjudicate halakha with demands to enter the yeshivah ethos. This is the main problem with the whole story. The burden expressed in these words is what confuses the mind.

    1. Here you must disagree with Rabbi Michael

      https://mikyab.net/posts/2987

      and his predecessor

      1. I don't really disagree with him. I believe that women can receive a ruling on their own initiative, after they listen to male discourse attentively enough (I gave a point of reference - when a woman asks men questions that they don't know how to answer, she will know that she is competent in that matter). This also includes listening to scholarly discourse, although they don't have to be scholars themselves to be judges in matters of halakhah and to rule on halakhah for the public to follow them.

    2. I want to reinforce this point, even though I know that I disagree with it…

      Without undermining the importance of scholarship, it seems to me that in order to bring about real change, it is better to first arrive free of it.

      I remember the feeling of frustration when I realized that on my way to a poor master's degree in mathematics I would have to study an endless sea of

      layers that had been developed before me, which leaves very little real chance of innovating something that would interest anyone.

      And in our eyes, the change required here is analogous to the change in Euclid's geometry, something very basic. Certainly not one that depends on

      the acquisition of all the tools that were developed later.

      The change begins with the dialogue with the biblical text, the Tanach and the Amoraic, and on this basis the change must be achieved.

      We will leave the juggling of scholarship to the next stage.

      It is true that we cannot remain only at this level and there is a need to control these levels as well, but we must first confront the

      basic terms, otherwise everything becomes a collection of patchwork patches, without addressing the root causes of what needs to be fixed.

      For example, is it possible to go back and take a different look at the study – A woman is unfit to testify?

      Those who study these things feel that the assumptions that were taken are no longer appropriate now, the relationships between women and their partners/the economic status of women and their work/their education relative to society

      When we delve deeper into the subject, we see that on a practical level, we accept women's testimony in many areas, what's more, the testimony of the Torah

      is no longer really relevant to today's legal proceedings (including Torah law)

      Absurdly, the place where we preserve the woman's inability to testify is precisely in symbolic, ceremonial places.

      In this form of treatment, the 'band-aids' do indeed take care of the practical change, but the lack of attention to the basic essence leaves distortion and inequality on the social level.

      After we are convinced that something fundamental has changed here, there is room to examine the ripples that such a change affects the development of halakhic and scholarly studies on various subjects.

      I remember a debate between Prof. Yeshayahu Leibowitz and Prof. Tamar Ross regarding the status of women in Judaism.

      Prof. Leibowitz argued that the modern woman is a new creature that never existed before and therefore Halacha is not relevant to her, while
      Prof. Ross tried to defend the possibility of finding flexibility within Halacha to accommodate the changes of the modern woman.

      The truth probably lies between the two. The modern woman is a phenomenon that the sages did not recognize, and the challenge of our generation is to examine whether the world of halakhah is relevant to this phenomenon.

      1. As I said from the story of the daughters of Zelophehad, all the laws can be uprooted without any special intellectual effort, as long as there is no corruption.
        But for that, we need uprooters, not adjudicators.

        1. That's exactly why I said we shouldn't stay at this level. And there is work to be done to avoid uprooting.
          But first we need to understand where we are going.

          If you understand that a new creature is born here, there is no uprooting here since nothing has ever been said about this creature – this is Leibowitz's fatal statement’, the question is whether there is a possibility of a softer statement, which allows for a projection
          from similar halachic objects (a woman of the past) to a renewed innovation.

          You can see major changes being made regarding the treatment of the deaf, for example, the changes stem from the fact that it is clear to all of us that the deaf of today are fundamentally different from the deaf that the Sages saw in their eyes and hence the changes are derived.

          And of course, any change is ultimately supported by judicial decisions, I did not try to challenge that.

          1. The story of the daughters of Zelophehad is based on uprooting, the idea of discrimination being uprooted.
            Halacha does not contain such uprooting factors at all.
            I do not see anything new and special in the modern woman or the modern man, natures have not changed. Education and enlightenment and knowledge have changed.
            One could go so far as to say that when Chazal said woman they meant that woman at that time who did not study theoretical studies and was like a foolish or small deaf person, but this is a distortion because most men at that time were also like that.

            1. I disagree,

              The economic issue is critical in terms of halakhic status.

              And this is what I think creates fundamental differences.

              There is no meaning in hearing a woman's testimony when she cannot really say anything contrary to her husband – Is this a rule that exists today?

              Is the economic issue between spouses in the haredi society where in many families the woman is the main breadwinner (even though under the huppah they promised her that they would support her as is the custom of Jewish men – what can be done, customs change) in the same place?

              Rabbi Chaim Navon likes to quote his rabbi about the non-change of natures regarding the saying ‘the best is the best..’ – Does anyone think that this is really still a common saying in society? Is this an assumption that can be continued and relied on, that a woman prefers to live with anyone, just not to be alone?

              I agree that things have changed for men as well, but here there has been a fundamental change in an issue that Halakha considers a critical issue.

              1. If you try to come from within the Halacha, it cannot succeed, the Halacha is conservative and rejects changes without any effort.
                Here are religious men walking around with winter clothes from cold Northern Europe in forty-three degree heat in Eilat without raising a bud of doubt about the necessity of the matter. Do you really think that some girl's whining about the treatment of her body and sexuality will move anyone there?

          2. You're repeating exactly what I wrote. So I didn't understand whether there was an argument between us or not. I said that there was no argument between Ross and Leibovitz (and maybe that's what we were arguing about), and the same is true between us.

            1. By the way, regarding the attitude towards the deaf, you should ask Rabbi Benny Lau, who sent me his correspondence with various poskim in the past regarding this matter, and you can see the terrible grief in their responses. Really chilling. Indeed, there are a few poskim who ultimately did go along with it (I think he only had one, as I think R’ Asher Weiss), and what I argue is what should be done also in relation to women and other halakhic contexts. These are the halakhic-scholarly mechanisms that should be done.

        2. On the 16th of Sivan, 5621;f

          Here”a – Greetings,

          The daughters of Zelophehad are the example of proper conduct. They did not open a Facebook page to mock and defy Moses, nor did they threaten a mass exodus from the religion if Moses did not give in to their demands. They asked Moses, who asked God, and was answered with a gurgle.

          The daughters of Zelophehad did not come in the name of God’equality’ as a supreme value. They have no problem with the usual arrangement in which sons inherit their father's inheritance, while women receive their economic security by ‘and Manoah found a wife, a house of a wife’. Their problem is with the value of ‘establishing the name of the deceased on his estate’, since their father has no son – then if his daughters do not inherit it, the ‘name of the deceased on his estate’ will not be preserved.

          As a daughter, ‘financial security’ in the event that the husband's support ceases, whether due to his death or divorce – the ’dowry’ was a custom even before the giving of the Torah, which was supposed to be preserved in the father's family as financial security for the daughter in the event of separation, and therefore Laban's daughters resent their father ‘because we sold and also ate our money’. Instead of preserving the dowry as security for his daughters – Laban squandered it.

          To prevent the deprivation of daughters by such “sons,” the Sages amended the Ketubah, in which the groom must make a commitment so that his wife will have financial security for her. The Sages also instructed the father to give his daughter a “dowry” of property in the form of a melog and iron sheep, for the same purpose: preserving the woman’s financial security. Even if the father dies before the daughter’s marriage, the Sages determined that each daughter will receive a tenth of the father’s property as a dowry.

          Although the laws of inheritance are an “unchangeable” “constitution of law,” the Sages outlined the way for the father to make a gift that will take effect just before the father’s death, and thus the father can “de facto” To also give his daughters or others a share of his estate, while being careful that this is not called an ‘inheritance’ but a ‘gift’

          Since a gift from life has a problem with its validity regarding assets that did not exist at the time of the gift – the institution of the ‘half-brother's bill’ arose in Ashkenazi hundreds of years ago, by means of which the father forces his sons to share the estate with their sisters, by giving an admission that he is obligated to his daughters for a large sum of money if their brothers do not share in the estate.

          In Morocco, they went the way of expanding the dowry, and stipulated that unmarried daughters would receive a share in the father's estate equal to the share of their brothers. The Chief Rabbi Yitzhak Nissim ordered the Jews of Iran (during his visit to them in the 1960s) to stipulate in the ketubah that daughters would receive half of a male son's share in the estate.

          In short: although the Torah established the rules of inheritance as a ’constitution of law’, the Torah established the institution of the dower/ketubah to ensure the economic security of daughters. And the sages reinforced this trend through the ’dowry’, ‘property division’ and ’gift from life’, and the sages of the generations found additional ways to strengthen the economic security of the daughter by receiving a share of the father's estate.

          The sages did not wait for the ’sterile’ Let them take care of the well-being of the daughters of Israel. They themselves took care of doing this.

          1. Paragraph 1, line 3
            … and answered in the affirmative.

            Paragraph 3, line 1
            … To give the daughter financial security…

            Paragraph 8, line 1
            … As’the constitution’ the order of succession…

            1. Why would our father be removed from his family because he has no son?
              This is simply another form of claiming inequality.
              The inequality stems from a certain factor. And it is not right that that factor causes inequality.
              And this is only an introduction, and according to this we can learn from God and expand the matter according to the requirement.

              Note that the requirement came from the daughters, and not from Moses or from God.
              In other words, if this case of Zelophehad had not occurred, then the daughters would not have demanded and the question would not have come before Moses and God would not have ruled on the matter. And this is despite the fact that what God ruled was right anyway. And from this we can learn to expand God’s grace, justice, and righteousness according to the requirement.

              And this alone can uproot all the laws that do not change according to the requirements. But for that to happen, the people of Israel need to stop working for it, and that's not going to happen anytime soon.

            2. It is not written in the law of judgment, it is written in the law of judgment as the LORD commanded Moses
              And how did the LORD command Moses? It began with the words Thus the daughters of Zelophehad speak, and according to this the judgment should be. This is the constitution. And not according to the established view.

              If God were established, He would have told Moses that there is a law and it should not be challenged. God said the opposite, the law is not interesting, what is important is Thus the daughters of Zelophehad speak.

          2. לקיחת התרבים ע"י רחל - גביית המוהר המגיע לה (השלמה לפיסקה 3) says:

            The resentment of Rachel and Leah, their father, who appropriated the dowry due to them, may justify the taking of her father's teraphim. After all, Jacob had given Laban a full year's work for her. The wages of those seven sheep were the dowry that should have been reserved for Rachel. The seizure of the teraphim was, therefore, his collection of a portion of the debt.

            With blessings, Sha'ar

            And here is the answer to Moses, which also explains the details of the law that were not requested by the daughters of Zelophehad, namely, that if there are no daughters, they are given to the father's brother, and if he has no brothers, to the closest relative in his family. In other words, the guiding principle is that the inheritance should remain in the family. For this reason, the marriage of Zelophehad's daughters was limited to members of the same tribe, which they did not request.

            1. The rest of the details already existed: Give us a possession among our father's brothers

              And again you continue with the practice of fixation, when God explicitly says: Thus the daughters of Zelophehad speak
              Then it turns out that the Torah was not spoken by Moses or God, but by the daughters of Zelophehad, when the foundation is: Thus the daughters of Zelophehad speak, that is, the law that had been practiced until then by Moses and God was not correct. A new demand was created, and God responded.

            2. 'עישור נכסי' חלף הירושה - לבנות וללויים says:

              On the 16th of Sivan, 1552

              It is interesting that what the Sages established for a daughter as a substitute for inheritance - to receive a tenth of the father's property instead of a share in the inheritance - is parallel to what the Torah entitled the Levites to receive a "tithe" instead of an inheritance.

              The Torah's reasoning for converting an inheritance into a tithe is (as Maimonides says in the Book of Mormon) so that the Levites would be free to work in the Temple and teach the Torah.

              It can be said in the same way that women were not given an inheritance so that they would not have to be busy working the land (which involves considerable physical effort) so that they would be free for the sacred work of maintaining the Jewish home and raising and educating the children, and therefore it is the husband's duty to bother with the household's sustenance, and even the father-in-law helps by giving his daughter a "property balance", so that she would be free to care for her home and children.

              With blessings, Sh”t Halevi

              Today, we are mistaken in thinking that making a "career" outside is a person's main calling. The Torah does not rule out a woman's initiative and doing her best outside, but the center of gravity of the aspirations - both of the man and the woman - is nurturing the children and their smiles.

              After all, the money and fame that came to him from his 'career', no one will take 'after a hundred and twenty'. The true and eternal wealth of the father and mother is a gift from the 'inheritance of God', their sons and daughters who will continue the glorious chain for generations to come.

              1. No one has any right to decide for another person what his destiny is or is not. This is how a person's life is turned into a shadow:
                For who knows what is good for a person in life than to count the days of his life, which he spends as a shadow?

              2. In paragraph 4, lines 2-4
                … But the center of gravity of the aspirations – of both the man and the woman – should be: nurturing and educating the children.

                But…
                The version ‘ nurturing the children and their smiles’ is also not a mistake, because education should be from joy and calm, and therefore it is important that the religious woman also has a sense of humor 🙂

                With the blessing of ‘Ruga Lech’, Simcha Fish”l Halevi Plankton

              3. Here”a –

                This designation was suggested by the first Adam who called his wife ‘Eve’ because she was the mother of all living, and did not call her ‘Karin’ because she was the mother of all career 🙂

                Even Abraham was praised by his Creator, not because he was heavy with silver and gold and cattle, but because ”I knew him so that he would command his sons after him and keep the way of the Lord to do righteousness and justice..’

                With blessings, Shaif

              4. What we saw in Abraham, who was chosen by God because of his ability to educate his sons and not because of the outside world, is also expressed halachically in the Gemara in the Ketubot, where a blacksmith cannot change his profession to a camel herder, even though he will earn more money in this occupation, but because he will earn less in the profession that pays for the house, his wife is allowed to delay his professional advancement. Home comes before career.

                With blessings, Shaif

      2. I have already written more than once that the meaning of scholarship is on two levels: 1. The essential. There is no complex halakhic movement without scholarship. You are mistaken if you identify it with intellectual chatter and exercises. 2. The practical-political. Without a scholarly level, there is no chance that anyone will take such a group seriously. The mistake of many women who think of offering a fundamentally different alternative and not operating within the existing framework is a mistake on both of these levels.
        The alternative you propose is to give up the accepted framework (halakhic scholarship) and return to the Bible. This is really the only option beyond what I am proposing (working within the existing framework), but it is worth paying attention to what it says. If you want to return to the Bible and extract insights from it, I am already telling you that there is no problem. I will extract from the Bible whatever you ask for. Tell me what halakhic you are asking for and I will base it for you from the Bible. This way you will have a new religion by order, and this is of course the most convenient. But it will not be Judaism in the accepted sense. For example, you can join Christian or Reform movements. They certainly took their teachings (also) from the Bible. It is not serious. A slogan in vain.
        As for the argument about a change in the nature of women, this is itself a halakhic-scholarly consideration (which needs to be processed and defined. This determination in itself is not enough), and I have argued about it more than once. This is truly one of the essential elements in the theory of halakhic change that is described in my trilogy. And there I explained how this type of consideration is used in halakhic law, as opposed to Reform arguments that seem very similar (by the way, this is itself a scholarly analysis. Scholarly law is not just two laws of Rabbi Chaim). From this you will be able to understand that the debate between Ross and Leibowitz is simply a lack of understanding. They say the same thing in different words.
        Changes on the practical level are of course made all the time (such as accepting women's testimony), but there are fundamental differences that remain intact and require treatment. And the practical steps are not a root solution for those who are troubled by inequality. Just like you wrote, it's a Band-Aid.
        Therefore, I see no alternative to what you wrote. It's either ‘Christianity’ or walking some shade of the path I outlined.

  19. The question is what does it involve to establish such a Sanhedrin? And who determines who is a scholar worthy enough to discuss it? And do you think that the sage has no advantage over the rabbis of the last generation?
    In any case, it would be refreshing to see a change in relation to the law according to the period and it seems that not only is it the woman's role to correct the wrong, she has much more say in the matter
    Because she is the one discriminated against

    1. That's true. And that's part of what is said that a court must be greater in wisdom than its fellow in order to change its ruling. In order to change, additional wisdom is important. Wisdom is not knowledge, that's the difference between knowledge and wisdom. Only different life experiences can add wisdom.

  20. 1) So the rabbi is ultimately right, the secularists? Jewish halakha is unequal and excludes women and ties their hands? Let's say when these claims are thrown at me, then I (as a complete Amaratist) should say that unfortunately it is true and there is no ability or willingness on the part of the rabbis to change it, and therefore I am subject to halakha?
    I ask mainly because in discussions with friends when the issue of the status of women comes up and why there are no women judges and why women are disqualified from testifying and why a man is forbidden to hear a woman sing, then until now I would also use ”All honor, a daughter of a king, etc.’, everyone has their role in the world”

    2) Do you know of a well-known halakha arbiter who has a positive attitude (or attitude at all) towards the third book in the trilogy?

    1. On the 14th of Sivan, 5621;f

      To Elasti, Shalom Rav,

      For a thorough and comprehensive explanation of the status of women in Judaism and Halacha, and the discussions and developments between recent generations, I recommend the following books:

      * Rabbi Yaakov Ariel, Halacha Today - Its Legacy, Study, Teaching and Application, pp. 155-244 (published by the Torah and Land Institute)

      *Rabbi Yaakov Navon, Gesher Bnot Yaakov: The Status of Women in Halacha - Between Past and Future (published by Yedioth Ahronoth)

      *Dr. Avi Weinroth, Feminism and Judaism (published by Yedioth Ahronoth).

      The chapter on the ‘Woman in the Rabbinical Court’ from Dr. Weinrot–s book can be viewed on the ‘Daat’ website (Herzog College)

      With best wishes, Sh”z Levinger, Librarian ‘Yad Rabbi Nissim’

      1. The title of Prof. Avi Weinrot's article on the Da'at website is: "Women in the Judicial Process" (the same website also contains the introduction and chapters A-C of his book "Feminism and Judaism."

        With best wishes, Shtzel

        1. L’Lomedes’ – Shalom Rabbi,

          Indeed, the author of the book ‘Gesher Bnot Yaakov’ is Rabbi Chaim Navon. There is also Rabbi Yaakov Navon, as I believe he was a rabbi at Yeshiva Shiloh, who also wrote important books of halachah, and in order to avoid the old name of the book ‘Gesher Bnot Yaakov’, I dragged ‘Yaakov’ to the author's name.

          With best wishes, Sh”t

    2. 1. It is not that the secularists are right. It is a fact, and a religious person who argues about it argues with facts. The question of whether this is really the binding halakha or whether this is just the existing situation but can be changed, I briefly discussed in a column.
      But this does not contradict the claim that even if there is discrimination and exclusion, it is not necessarily something wrong. If there really is such a halakhic necessity, it can be said that this discrimination comes to serve various spiritual purposes and the necessity will not be condemned. Just as war obliges us to kill. This does not mean that killing is positive, it means that sometimes there is no choice.
      It is very easy for someone who is not committed to halakha to criticize it. People criticize rulings such as the obligation of a priest's wife who was raped to separate from her husband. But a secular person who criticizes this is not wise. From his perspective, this equation has only one side: the harm to the couple. But from the perspective of the religious person, there is also a second side: the sanctity of the priesthood. Therefore, the religious person is in conflict and the secular person's criticism is irrelevant to him. When there is a conflict between two values, it is only for those who are committed to both. Those who are committed to only one of them are of course not in conflict. But if we suppose that I, who am in conflict, have decided in favor of value A, can the critic say that I am not sensitive to value B? That is nonsense. Of course I am sensitive to it, but value A requires me to reject it.
      2. I do not know of anyone who has read it and commented on it.

      1. Nonsense?
        Preference for value A is an attribution of too little importance to value B. If the argument is only factual (for example, in the factual question of whether God commanded value A) and not value (is there really value A as an independent value) then there is room to say that the criticism is nonsense. But if the argument is value-based, then an essential part of the matter is establishing the value hierarchy, and whoever is “wrong” in this is exactly the same as directly ignoring a particular value. You have obviously expanded on this, but how do I know where?
        [All of this is according to your opinion that there is some noble matter in the name of judgment and it is done according to the judgment of the one being judged. ]

      2. On the 14th of Sivan, 5621;f

        Ramdat –a – Shalom Rav,

        Does the halacha ‘exclude women and tie their hands’? There are quite a few things in which the halacha has given an advantage to the woman.

        For example: The absolute duty of the man to support his wife, the woman can say: ‘I do not feed and I do not do’ while the man cannot say: P ‘Earn your sustenance with the works of your hands’. And the husband's duty to support his wife at a higher standard of living, whether in his family or in hers, ‘goes up with him and does not go down’.

        According to the current practice in the courts, the father's obligation to support his children exists even if their mother has a high income, in contrast to the ruling that was renewed in the courts, according to which the mother also has an obligation to participate in child support.

        Daughters take precedence over sons in terms of maintenance from the father's assets, as stated in the mishna: ‘The daughters shall be fed and the sons shall return the fathimah. Even with regard to charity, both for maintenance and for covering and for the ransom of captives – the Maimonides and the Shulchan Arius ruled that the woman takes precedence over the man, because of her honor, so that she will not have to return the fathimah.

        Because of the woman's obligation to maintain the house and raise the children, women were relieved of the positive commandments that time required, but they are permitted to fulfill them ‘as someone who does not command and does not do. The Sages did not even require praying in public, which is a great advantage that makes life easier. We have hardly heard of any feminist who bothers to pray in public three times a day.

        A great victory for women is the exemption from the commandment of studying Torah, which involves the hardships and hardships of traveling and a heavy burden placed on men, and yet “a woman who has studied Torah has a reward,” but the sages commanded that a man should not teach his daughter Torah, either out of fear of forbidden connections between women and men in joint study (as Rashi believed) or out of fear that partial study without commitment would lead a woman to errors (as Maimonides and the Maimonides explained).

        And even in this, the sages of the ages taught, that there are many parts of the Torah that are permitted and commanded to be taught to women. Already in the Rishonim, it is mentioned that it is commanded to teach women the practical laws, and this is also evident from the words of the Maimonides (in the Foundations of the Torah) that the explanations of the commandments are something that can be understood by "a man and a woman, a broad-hearted and a narrow-hearted".

        Also with regard to in-depth study of the Talmud, there were quite a few cases of women who were scholars, and were appreciated by the great sages who recognized their seriousness, such as the mother of the author of "Ha-Prisha" and the mother of Rabbi Akiva Eiger, and more. Some of them were listed by Rabbi Chida in Shem Gadolim, entry "Rabbanit".

        And in recent generations, when girls began to receive general education in schools, many of the sages of Israel recognized the importance of providing girls with a fundamental knowledge of the Bible and the foundations of faith. The Ashkenazi sages, led by Rabbi Hirsch and Rabbi Hildesheimer, were the first to realize this, and later the sages of Eastern Europe, led by the Chofetz Chaim, also recognized this, and encouraged Sarah Schneier, who founded the “Beit Yaakov.”

        A few years later, Rabbis Soloveitchik and Rabbi Schneerson encouraged in-depth study for women in the Bible, Jewish thought, and even the Talmud. Even in the Land of Israel, the College for Girls of Rabbi Yehuda Kuperman was established, among whose important lecturers was Professor Nechama Leibowitz, who trained generations of girls who studied the Bible and Jewish thought at a high level. Later, Rabbi Yehuda Henkin founded the Midreshet Neshat, which trained women to deepen their knowledge of Halachic law so that they could serve as Halachic advisors.

        Not only did they not “tie the hands” of girls who wanted to grow up seriously in Torah, but they encouraged and guided them.

        With best wishes, Sh.

        1. Regarding her authority, Maimonides brings a sermon: “You shall not appoint a king over you, nor a queen.” From this he learned that no woman is appointed to any public office. The poskim asked from the precedent of Queen Shlomzion, who did her work according to the Sages, and explained the privilege of ruling, whether because she was accepted by them, or because there was no man as worthy as her. From this, it has also opened the way for our time to allow a woman to be elected to leadership, whether because of public acceptance or because she is the most worthy.

          Also regarding the priesthood as a judge, there is the precedent of Deborah the prophetess, who judged Israel, and for this they justify it with the additions that Deborah “accepted her over them” or that Deborah was distinguished because she was a prophetess. Chief Rabbi Uziel wrote that although the law can accept a woman as a judge, this is inappropriate because the duty of the dayan to judge in a way that will uphold the law may be contrary to the merciful nature that is appropriate for a woman. In fact, this is not at all applicable, since the training course for a dayan includes intensive study of all the Shas and Poskim for 15-20 years, and there is no woman on the horizon who would really be inclined to learn at this level.

          Regarding testimony, it is explained that the disqualification of women is not due to their unfaithfulness, since under the strict laws of Nida they are faithful, but rather it is a "scripture of the Scripture". In fact, as early as the days of the Talmud and even more so in the early days, regulations were established to accept female testimony in cases where it was not possible to obtain the required information from male witnesses, and this is also the practice of the courts, which rely on female testimony when necessary.

          In short: the avoidance of women's testimony is not sweeping. And when there is a vital need for it, they are needed.

          With blessings, Sh”t

          Rabbi Uziel brings the explanation of the author of Sefer Hinchuch that women do not testify because they are not knowledgeable in matters of negotiation - they are not precise. From this, Rabbi Uziel concludes that where women engage in negotiation - they can be precise and there is a place to accept their testimony.

          1. On the 15th of Sivan, 15th of September

            Regarding the mixing of women and men in the synagogue, there is the problem of the ‘great correction’ that was made on the occasion of the feast of the house of the water (as explained in the Sukkah) that women and men should not mix, and hence the building of the father of all gatherings that involve excitement, in which separation must be made, and therefore strict separation is made between the women's and the men's services.

            Even at funerals, in contrast, it is stated in the Jerusalem Sanhedrin that the women walk separately from the men behind ‘out of respect for the daughters of Israel’ lest they set their eyes on the women’. All the more so that this vigil should be held in a holy place and during prayer.

            Regarding the elevation to the Torah, it is stated in a baraita in Tractate Megillah: “Everyone is elevated to the number of seven, even a small one, even a slave, and even a woman, but the Sages said: A woman may not read in public out of respect for the public.” And the Rishonim (the Rid and the Ritva) interpreted that the fear was that they would say that there was no one who knew how to read, and therefore they elevated a woman to read.

            However, the Rabbi Meshash and the Rabbi Soloveitchik put forward the explanation that behind this fear also lies the issue of modesty, which requires separating women and men during prayer. Their explanation should be strengthened by the words of the Yerushalmi in the Sanhedrin mentioned above, that the fear “that they would not set their eyes on women” was defined as the ’honor of the daughters of Israel’, and so the situation of ‘public honor’ subtly expresses this concern.

            In our generations, another reason for aversion to mixed prayer has been renewed, as it was the custom of the Reformers and Conservatives, who began their path by abolishing the separation between women and men in the synagogue and continued by turning on electricity and driving on the Sabbath, and advanced’ even further to allow the marriage of a priest and a divorced woman, homosexuality. Even in mixed marriages, they began to be lenient and accept the gentile spouses as members of the community.

            The blatant words of the pedlars against Judaism and the threats of abandonment – only strengthen the suspicion that behind this ‘story’ there is a strong bias towards reform, and that all the talk about ‘equality’ They are just a means of inciting women against the law. And we have already found in feminist circles attacks on all matters of family purity, such as men's attempts to control female sexuality.

            Even if it were possible to find some halachic reference for the mixture – it would be appropriate to observe in the incitement ‘Keep your way far from her, and do not come to her door’.

            With blessings, Sh”tz

            Regarding women's singing, the prohibition is explicit in the G.M. and Sh”a (O”ch si’ a), and even more so in the singing of a singer in an audience whose declared purpose is to delight the audience with her voice in the evening, and about this it is said: A female singer and a male matter – as fire in youth’

            1. In paragraph 4, line 4
              … And so is the reasoning of ‘public honor’…

              Paragraph 6, line 4
              … Family purity as ’men's attempt to control…

            2. 'דתית גאה ובוטחת' - הפדלחושיות למען הלהט"ב says:

              In the article "How a Proud and Confident Religious Community Was Established Here" (on the Shatil website, the author notes, among other things, the mobilization of the Fadelkhushiot in favor of LGBT organizations, and their regular participation in the Pride parades. Apparently, the Fadelkhushiot also decided to come out of the closet and march openly outside of religion 🙂

              With greetings, Shatil

              The author thanks Kal Shatil and the New Foundation for their support. I wonder if the Fadelkhushiot website is also supported by the aforementioned foundations?

              1. On September 17, 2017, it was perhaps no coincidence that we encountered in this column responses from women who dared to say out loud that radical feminism does not represent them.

                I remember what a blatant attack Oriya Meborach (a rabbi of the ‘Beit Hillel’) received when she dared to question the ’sacred truths’ of ’liberalism’. I also saw in an interview with Orly Goldklang (with Chen Artzi-Sror) in which the interviewer spoke about a blatant attack by the pedophiles when she uttered words of doubt about the sanctity of liberal feminism. ‘They also shoot at women’ 🙂

                Perhaps the news about the imminent closure of the predatory website – It marks the ability of religious women with a positive attitude towards Halacha and Judaism to make their voices heard, without the paralyzing fear of being attacked by 17,000 stinging bees 🙂

                With greetings, Sh”ts (who was awarded a column number Sh”ts in the site of the law)

  21. And you ignored the big elephant in the room: the laws of impurity and purity, especially according to the Ramban.

  22. I never understood the argument that because women today are very educated, have doctorates, etc., there is no reason why they shouldn't also be halachic arbiters. How is that related?
    A doctorate takes 3 – 4 – 5 years and you graduate. Halachic arbiters require lifelong dedication. A huge dedication to learning Torah – twenty-four – seven. From childhood onwards. Complete dedication to the community, at the expense of family life and everything else.
    How many women are capable of this? How many women really want it?

    Even if they want to study (like me, for example, being a fly on the wall in a yeshiva for ten years…) they are aware of all the other things that will come at their expense, and don't necessarily think it's right to pay the price.

    A distinction must be made between women who seek education, interest, intelligence, knowledge and wisdom and those who seek to occupy “leadership” roles.
    This is not the same movement…

    Beyond that, there are many other factors in the skills required to rule on halakhic law..

    1. I understand that you have been trying to understand for a long time and have not succeeded. So here is a competent explanation from me:
      A woman who has invested what is required and has reached the proper level (hypothetically, even if there is no such woman in practice) also cannot be a poskim (in the accepted understandings). The question is why? And do you not understand the frustration here either?
      By the way, among male poskim there are very few who fit the picture you described. But no one prevents them from being community rabbis, yeshiva leaders, and the like. This is not possible for women. The question is why? And do you not understand the frustration here either?
      The connection to the doctorate is that if people have a priori lack of confidence in a woman's ability to reach the required Torah level, the doctorate can serve as a counterexample. That's all. And by the way, being a lecturer is not 3-4-5 years. It's no less work than what is required to become a rabbi (depending on what level, etc., etc.).
      And regarding leadership, there are women in various leadership positions, even in religious worlds. So here too I don't see why this is a priori denied to Orthodox women.
      In my opinion, it's not very complicated.

    2. Looks like a sloppy impersonation of a woman. Speak for yourself, my dear, there's no point in these impersonations.

      1. Somehow I knew it would come. Not Karenina. I'm a woman. It's also permissible to think differently. The leaders of these struggles really don't represent everyone.

        1. I didn't infer from the content but from the typical wording, but I don't really know and it doesn't matter. When I'm alone I still think you're a man but there's no gender difference.

  23. A rabbi who rules over his community without being prepared a priori to devote his life to Torah study for the rest of his life is not a rabbi who would be acceptable to me.
    A rabbi in a yeshiva is like a teacher. You can also be a rabbi in an ulpan. There is also a chetserm today, something like a teacher assistant for religious studies. What is the meaning of all these terms..

    By the way, look at all the feminists with doctorates who hold key positions and call themselves the ”rabbinic doctor” just because they are married to a rabbi.. There is, of course, nothing more feminist than that..

    I can completely understand the frustration of the few, the special ones, who might be able to reach the right status. But how many of them are there? Would you really want to open the already broken door further, and introduce women into the circle of mediocrity that men already have?

    1. Excuse me, but it seems to me that you are making a biased and factually uninformed claim. The rabbis with a doctorate that you are talking about (and not all of them are doctors) are not rabbis because they are the rabbis' wives. It is exactly the opposite: they are rabbis in their own right. A rabbi as the rabbi's wife is an accepted institution even in the Haredi world. This is exactly what the new phenomenon is going against. So this argument is based on a mix-up and is completely opposite to the truth.
      I am the first to criticize the cheapness of using the titles rabbi and rabbinate (this is one of the reasons, but not the only one) that I did not join Beit Hillel (I was contacted when it was established). And yet the principled argument, that the door should be opened to those who deserve it, still stands.
      To say that this is perpetuating mediocrity is a truly ridiculous claim. If you are concerned about mediocrity, please close the door to those who are not worthy. Why should a door be closed in a blanket and non-selective manner to an entire gender because of this? It is delusional. It's like saying that I'm worried about mediocrity in the US presidency, and therefore blacks are not allowed to run (since most of them are mediocre).
      The problem of mediocrity must be addressed separately and the rights and equality of women separately. Combining these two issues is demagogy, the purpose of which is probably apologetic (defending the existing situation for irrelevant reasons). Incidentally, it is the existing situation that encourages mediocrity, since now if you are a man you can be a rabbi and if you are a woman then you can't. On the other hand, when there are relevant criteria regardless of gender, this may improve the situation. Furthermore, in the current situation, someone who receives a rabbinical degree is not necessarily someone who deserves it, but someone who has reached the right place (doctor?) or perhaps someone who has elbows ready for struggles. This is actually a mechanism that does not create scholarly and jurisprudential excellence. If women are compared to men, then the selection of women rabbis will be like the selection of men rabbis, based on abilities and knowledge (which was supposed to be the case. This is not always the case, of course).
      And I haven't even mentioned that equality is a value in itself, so even if it doesn't improve the situation of the rabbinate, there is still value in allowing people and women to engage in any field they want and are qualified for.
      In short, these are all irrelevant excuses that tend to protect the existing situation at all costs. They really don't hold water.

      1. On the 14th of Sivan, 5621;f

        Ramda'a – Shalom Rav,

        Even if a woman has knowledge of a particular halakhic subject, she is not necessarily at the level of ‘reaching to teach’, and in many cases it is also a problem of not being committed to the decisions of the majority of the first and last poskim and the rulings of the Shul, which is also the case with male scholars – it is not appropriate to give them ordination to teach.

        The big problem is mainly in granting ordination on behalf of the Chief Rabbinate, who will hold this ordination – will also demand, with the support of the Supreme Court, to run and be elected for political reasons. And yet, there is no ‘closing the door’ to the deserving. A well-known rabbi can ordain, and there are communities that are willing to accept it. A community in Efrat recently received such a rabbi. However, ordainment by the Chief Rabbinate will invite political and legal pressure, which will inevitably lead to inappropriate appointments.

        In general, the authority of a posak does not depend on his official ordainment. The ’Chafetz Chaim’, the ’Chazon Ish’, and the Gersh”z Auerbach did not hold an ’ordainment’ because of an official rabbinate, nor did they hold an official rabbinical position. The authority of their great men of the generation stemmed from their greatness in the Torah, which is proven by their rulings and books, and from their open door to answer any questioner.

        If someone were to write comprehensive and thorough halachic articles that would contain innovations in the truth of the Torah – There is no reason why rabbis and halachic authorities should not adopt her well-founded statements.

        In 2001, an article by Dr. Yael Levin-Katz, who is a researcher and not a rabbi, was published in Tachumin on the subject of “Nehem” on Tisha B’Av after the liberation of Jerusalem. In her article, she presented an impressive collection of methods here and there. In the same year, Rabbi Yonatan Elran, the rabbi of Kochav-HaShahar, was asked whether the wording of “Nehem” could be changed, and in his response he referred to the ruling of the Israeli rabbi cited in the article, that the public does not change, but an individual may change.

        In short: official authorization is a big problem, but for successful Torah clarification, there is no problem. Instead of waging battles, let them write articles. At a high level.

        Best regards, Sh”t

        1. And beyond the great concern that the official certification will give a tool to those who are not worthy to storm with the help of politicians and the High Court to ’conquer the communities’ – the matter is also very problematic on a halakhic level.

          The basis for allowing an exception to the rule of ‘king and not queen’ is either ‘she was accepted by the aliyya’ or ‘there is no man like her’. The second reason is clearly not found. Regarding ‘she was accepted by the aliyya’, it would require on the face of it individual acceptance by the person or the community and not appointment by a governmental authority.

          What can indeed fall within the category of "there is no man like her" is the certification of "Midrashet Neshat" as a "halacha advisor", which is a role that truly fills a void where men are not always able to help, since many women are ashamed to speak to a rabbi about matters that are too modest for them, and therefore the mediation of a woman with thorough knowledge of the subject and constant contact with distinguished poskim is an excellent address to give women in need the best halachic guidance, and it is not for nothing that Rabbi Henkin zetzil established this blessed framework.

          And this is a parent building for such a thing: what strengthens the knowledge of halachic among women Blessed, but using the Torah for feminist struggles that challenge the authority of our Potsdam rabbis, first and last, is inappropriate.

          Best regards, Sh”t

          1. In paragraph 3, line 4
            … The mediation of a woman with a thorough knowledge of Halacha and constant contact…

            Paragraph 4, line 3
            … Our rabbis, the first and last ones…

            1. I completely agree with Sh”T.

              Articles, books of halakhah, where are all these? Why so few? Because life doesn't allow us. Not the institutions.

              Regarding working in academia, can we really compare? Is there maternity leave and a sabbatical year from studying Torah? Is it like compiling research, writing an article, or preparing for a conference? Is the meaning of a miss in academia the same as a miss in halakhah? Omitting a source in a research review is like omitting some first or last? I really underestimated it. To me, I thought this was a completely different phase. At least in my opinion, if not in my opinion..

              A little advice, to jumpstart any process, start teaching girls Gemara when they start learning English. I've met several "rabbis" who can't read a line of Gemara as a rule.

              I'm the last one to underestimate female intelligence. But that's really not the story. When the right time comes, the last of the tough ones will find their way to it. There is no need for revolutions. We do need to learn and teach. And as much as possible.

              1. So what was all the arguing about? You're repeating what I said, but for some reason in an argumentative tone.

              2. There is no intention of arguing. I greatly appreciate your work.
                I wanted to clarify a certain point. I want to separate the blessed thought of learning everything there is to learn, to know, to be educated and to be useful in various ways, and the thought that there must be “equality” in everything.
                A woman who wants to learn a page of Gemara is not necessarily a “feminist”, nor does she necessarily aspire to ascend to the Torah, or to stand on the pulpit to deliver a sermon on Shabbat HaGallo.
                Not every learned woman thinks it is good for women to serve in public rabbinical positions (for many reasons). These are completely different things, and for some reason there is a tendency to mix them up.
                Don't make the mistake of thinking that a handful of women who lead a specific struggle represent the silent majority. They don't.

                In my opinion, halachic rulings are not similar in status and essence to any career.

                (And just to make things clear, where would a woman be found who would be able to rule that her friend should remain agunah,
                or, how many women who rule are able to completely ignore their partners' opinions when exercising any halakhic judgment.
                These are just small examples of a multitude of problems.
                Yes, I know this sounds really bad… and they will probably claim again that I am an impostor).

              3. Well, I've completely lost you. All these comments have nothing to do with my words or the discussion.

              4. “Wouldn't you expect many women to reach Deborah's conclusions? And I'm talking specifically about those for whom these things are important. There are many who don't have a big problem with this exclusion, because they are simply silenced when they sit and chat behind the partition and recite Torah in the synagogue ("Silence with the help of women!!!"), but what do they care?! They are in the synagogue from time to time only for folklore, their life's content is in university, at work, or in reading literature and consuming culture. So let the idiots in the synagogue continue to run their shtibel. Who cares?!”

                – Well, that's a very insulting paragraph, but I wasn't offended. I assume you didn't really mean it. Needless to say, there are many women who don't just sit and chat with the help of women, and who learn no less than Deborah, and think differently than Deborah.

                “If I belonged to a group that has been discriminated against and marginalized for many generations and is led exclusively by the discriminatory group, I would probably feel similar feelings. Even if the sages are the ministering angels, the feeling of a group that comes out disadvantaged when all the rules are set by the other group is still expected to be difficult”.

                – Here you spoke about yourself, and in my response I spoke about myself. As a woman, I do not feel discriminated against or excluded. I absolutely do not think that Judaism discriminates against women. Quite the opposite. It protects its women, respects them and takes care of them.
                I do not think so because I am a woman who chats in the synagogue. I study in every free moment I have.

                I welcome your call for women to study and delve deeper, I do not agree with Deborah's demand for what she calls “equality”, or what was presented here as such. What I wrote is not against your words, but rather seeks to complement them a little.

                Thank you for this wonderful site, and for the opportunity to use the platform you opened.

              5. Anna, here is something truly new for me, and it seems to me that a debate is brewing between us. It is worth clarifying it, so I am dividing my remarks into sections. If you would like to comment or obtain, please indicate the section, in order to focus the discussion:
                1. It is clear to me that there are women who take studying and praying seriously. What is not clear to me is how it is possible that they do not feel discriminated against. Discrimination is a fact.
                2. Let's take a more concrete example. As someone who studies every free moment (as you wrote), does it not bother you that you were not given the tools to learn from childhood, while boys are given them? Strange. I assume that you will not deny the fact that you were not given the same tools (unless you studied in a special place, but that does not matter. I am talking about the average religious woman). If you are in this situation and yet do not feel discriminated against because of it, then there is really something here that I do not understand.
                3. The slogans about excessive protection of women (honorable daughter of a king, etc.) are a ridiculous apologetics. A feminist woman says to men and to the law: Don't defend me if I don't want to. If I don't want to study or preach in the synagogue, I won't do it. I forgive those who are forced to defend me. Defend those who want to (like you, for example). “Defense” for all women, even those who don't want to, is factually discrimination, even if you don't feel that way.
                4. I assume that if there is discrimination, then the person being discriminated against feels discriminated against. In my opinion, there is no difference between the factual statement that there is discrimination and the claim that there are people who are discriminated against and who feel discriminated against. But perhaps the latter assumption is incorrect. It is possible that there is discrimination and of course there are people who are discriminated against (women), and yet there is a person who is discriminated against who gets along with it. It does seem strange to me, but if you are testifying against yourself, I have no choice but to accept it. But you have to admit that Deborah's feeling is much more predictable and reasonable than yours. Therefore, my words stand, even if you are an exceptional example in this matter. After all, I was talking about religious women in general and not about you specifically.
                5. The question of whether every woman wants to give speeches and read from the Torah, of course not, and I did not write that either. Not all men want to and can either. What I am arguing is that if she wants to and can, she should be allowed to do so. And if they categorically state that she is not allowed to do so – then this is discrimination. Again, the fact that you are an exceptional example who does not want to – does not concern the fundamental discussion.

              6. 1. Do I “feel” ”discriminate” from God when I need to call a man (or a 13-year-old boy) to plow the field in my place or to carry a packed shopping cart from the car to the house, because, unfortunately, I can”t move the plow or lift the cart even though I am a physically strong woman who exercises? No.
                4+1: Yes, it is worth defining what discrimination is.
                2. Yes, it really bothers me that I was not given the tools to learn as a child. Especially Gemara. Because everything else is easy to complete, and this is harder. It takes years of assimilation to reach high skills and to reach the wonderful gestalt of what is there. It is a shame about the lost years.
                But, do I think it is right to require all young girls to study Gemara? No. They are not obligated to do so, and for many of them it can also be very harmful. I sit among my people, it simply won't work.
                I am in favor of allowing this to anyone who wants it, and trusting parents to advise their daughters who are suitable to integrate, just as they advise them to integrate into math classes. I don't see this as discrimination that they didn't offer me to study Gemara, at most, incompetence and lack of awareness, it can be fixed.
                2. These are not slogans.
                Regarding equality in general – It is very easy today for strong intelligent women to sit behind a keyboard and talk about equality. Please come down from the ivory tower. You are knocking everyone else down. Lots of weaker women need protection. They are not independent, they cannot manage on their own. And this is where the halacha came into the picture: the halacha that imposed the burden of providing for the man, that obliged him to respect his wife, that did not allow sexual exploitation – ‘use and throw’ (see the unimaginable number of single men and women today). The good halacha that preserves the structure of the family unit that most women cannot survive without.
                Trite, apologetic, sentimental, ridiculous? These are basic things that we tend to forget. See, Helena's post. I agree with almost every word there. And see the sad situation of divorced women now, who by the skin of their teeth have to survive the joint financial responsibility of joint custody - imposed on them by their feminist sisters in the name of equality.
                My strong sisters, never be immune. Halacha is designed to suit most women whose voices are not heard, and most times. Please be careful not to break through from your strong position.
                Regarding Torah study – I have already said what I think. I am completely in favor.
                4. I am not an exceptional example. We simply do not hear those who do not whine. This is exactly the message I tried to convey in my previous responses.
                I can understand Deborah's feelings, but I can also understand the damage that could be caused by implementing her revolutionary approach. To her credit, she doesn't understand the halacha and the complex reality correctly.

                5. Is there a technical way to allow a woman to go to the Torah or to the blessing of priests while maintaining modesty according to the boundaries of halacha? I can't see how. (And don't be fooled. Modesty is not a dirty word, and I'm definitely not some idiot who clicks her tongue and rolls her eyes at this or that skirt..) Regarding lessons - certainly possible, but why is it necessary specifically during prayer? It's beyond my comprehension.
                Regarding halacha rulings and the use of rabbinate - very complex with many aspects.

              7. Sorry, there was a mistake in the numbering of the sections. If you delete the comment, I will send it corrected.

              8. Addendum to 3 (2 Hanni) and 5:
                “R’ Baruch Epstein, author of “Torah Temima” notes that the daughter-in-law of the author of “Terumat HaDashen” was as diligent in Torah as any of the men (“Lekuti Yosher” Ch”2, 3”2). Likewise, in the early book “Subovi R’ Petahia of Regensburg” it is said that R’Shmuel Halevi, head of the Baghdad yeshiva, was a daughter well-versed in the Bible and Talmud, and would teach the boys while she was in the building, speaking through the window while the students were outside and could not see her. And also a story from the Rabbi (Basht Suf Si' 29) that his mother, the elderly Rebbetzin Miriam, "took over a yeshiva for several years, and sat in a tent [curtain, screen] in front of it and the rabbi went to the hall in front of excellent young men." (Taken from the yeshiva website, I did not check the sources myself)
                The things are known. Anyone who wants is welcome. Where is the claim of discrimination? In not accepting a standar with the help of the men for the lesson?

              9. Additional material on the positive attitude of the Jewish sages towards women who studied Torah, in the article by Dr. Yael Levin, ‘Tishbet Rabbi Yitzhak Nissim Bidvar Nashim ve Talmud Torah’, Akademut 13 (can be viewed online).

                Among other things, the Mikada Aruch (Alexandria, 18th century) is mentioned, which wrote a detailed and reasoned halachic question, which the city's rabbi, Rav Avraham Israel, discussed with appreciation and respect.

                With best wishes, Sh”t

              10. Paragraph 2, line 1
                … Remembering the name Mirkada Aruch…

              11. Anna, I explained everything. If you decide to insist and repeat arguments that I have already explained very well why they are unfounded, then there is no point in discussing it.
                All the best.

              12. With your permission, just a comment. I think it's a bit misleading to have such a discussion without defining what equality is and what discrimination is.
                A basic check on Wikipedia:
                “There is difference between people, and not every reference to this difference, in a human act that does not express absolute equality, is discrimination”

                Obviously, in any conceptual analysis or philosophical or halakhic discussion you will win. I don't have your abilities. I won't even try..
                Anyway, everything I said is from a real place, many women think and behave like me, and not because they are captive to some concept they were raised with, but entirely out of deep thought and insight.

              13. I completely agree (I have written here in the past more than once about the definition of racism, and the overly sweeping use of this concept, and I have also made this point). I will only add a small addition: a fundamental definition that has no real basis, or using such a correct definition to generalize to all individuals in a group, is also discrimination. In other words: even if there is a difference between the populations (and I myself assume there is, at least on average), still applying it to the entire population is racism/discrimination. For example, if on average the IQ of blacks is lower than that of whites (it is forbidden to say, but in principle this could be true. Depends on a factual examination), still not accepting a black person into a university because of this (correct) generalization is discrimination. By the way, this is exactly the problem with the IDF's KBA.
                I am sure you said these things from a real place, and I did not think otherwise. But my arguments all still stand, regardless of that, because of the definition in the previous sentences.

              14. On the 16th of Sivan, 5621;f

                Ramada”a – Shalom Rav,

                When ruling on a halakhah or giving Torah guidance to many, one also considers the impact of the matter on the majority of people. If most people who try to climb Everest are injured – there is room to order everyone not to take a risk, because it is impossible to place guards and rescuers over each and every one.

                In the same way, the army does not recruit people to units that are high risk, if there is an indication of a high risk of risk, and if there is any concern, they will be rejected from a combat unit where the risk is high. They are not willing to take responsibility if a disaster occurs.

                And so, for example, the Maimonides reasons in Hal’ The sages' instruction that a man should not teach his daughter Torah, because most women are not inclined to learn, is made clear in his words that there is a minority of those who are capable of directing their minds and learning, but we will not put all daughters at risk because of the minority.

                "Their minds are not inclined" is, in the language of the Maimonides, a matter of annoyance, as he says in the Laws of Prayer that a man whose mind is not inclined to pray should not pray, and therefore the sages instructed the father not to push his daughter to learn, do not arouse or arouse love until the daughter grows up and desires it, about which the Maimonides says: "A woman who has learned Torah has a reward."

                And the Rambam himself provided a remedy, saying in the book of the Fundamentals of the Torah that the explanation of the commandments is one of the things that is possible and appropriate for young and old, men and women, those with a broad heart and those with a narrow heart, to know. After all, he invited everyone, young and old, men and women, to study in his book “Mishna Torah,” which makes the explanation of the commandments accessible to everyone.

                With blessings, Sh’ts

                Hagar Rabinowitz already stated that men are also at high risk of making mistakes in their studies, as the Rambam said in his responsa that most students make mistakes and go astray.

                And Rabbi Rabinowitz explained that for boys who are obligated to study Torah, they take the risk and do what they can to prevent it. While being careful that he should have a rabbi and serve as a disciple of the Torah scholars and correct his standards before entering to study – But with a woman who is not bound by the commandments of the Torah, one must be extremely careful that the ’moderation of chassidism’ does not cause harm.

                All of this is meant for someone who wants to study with the sages in order to receive their guidance from the beginning. Whoever comes to the Beit Midrash with the idea that he will not let any rabbi ‘regulate his life’, then it is clear that even a man with this attitude does not come to study but to tease,

              15. ענווה ואמונת חכמים כיסוד ליכולת ללמוד תורה (השלמה) says:

                Therefore, even with regard to men, the door is not open to everyone, and as Maimonides taught us (Hilchot Talmud Torah 3:7) that the Torah is not in the heavens, it will not be found in the coarser parts of the spirit. After all, someone who feels himself wiser than everyone else will not make any serious effort to delve into the depths of the words of the sages, and will despise in advance everything that does not seem to him at first glance.

                Similarly, Maimonides explained there 4:1 that the words of Torah are not taught except to a decent student who is good in his actions, or to a simple one, but if he were to go down a wrong path, they bring him back to a better one, and lead him on a straight path, and examine him, and then they bring him into the house of study and teach him.

                He who comes to study with faith in the greatness of the sages, their wisdom and their virtues, will succeed in understanding their words in depth and in innovating true innovations, in the light and in the way of the sages of the ages.

                With blessings, Sh”t

              16. You described the situation well.

                You can try to teach a Talmudic issue in the Fadlakh Shiites forum and see what you get..

                The explanation for ”that their minds are not free” is accurate.

                And the recommendation “Do not wake up and do not wake up.. until she wants..”

                But when she wants, open the doors wide.

              17. And I'll say something else.
                Girls and teenagers need their feminine place. ‘Feminism’ (in its defiant aspect) doesn't arise at these ages. It arises later from various frustrations.
                A father who tries to ignore his daughter's feminine need to be a woman, and tries to push her to study just like the boys – will be very harmful.
                On the other hand, a father who ignores his daughter's intellectual needs, and treats her femininity as something limiting, or conveys to her that there are things that are ‘not for her..’ – will also be very harmful.
                You need to feel what is right, and aim for that.

              18. On the 15th of Sivan, 56211;ef

                Lana – Hello Rav,

                In our generation, the situation may have changed, since most women study and receive education in organized institutions, and are accustomed to making time for their studies

                Therefore, when Torah study is done in an organized framework, with lessons and individual guidance – then anyone who truly desires can advance in the areas of study that interest them.

                I will mention here the guidance of Rabbi Aharon Lichtenstein zt”l, who was asked by a new student in the yeshiva about the recommended study for those who want to ‘get into the swing of things’ In the field of theoretical study, and Rabbi Lichtenstein recommended studying the Ramban's commentary on the Torah and the book "Minchat Chinuch" on the "Sefer Chinuch".

                With greetings, Shtzer

                The student who asked is Dr. Reuven Gafni, who said this in words of appreciation that he published in the "Shabbat Supplement" of "Makor Rishon" after Rabbi Lichtenstein's passing.

                Minchat Chinuch is perhaps less suitable for women who do not have a solid background in studying Gemara, but the Ramban's commentary provides good tools both in studying the plain text of the Scriptures, in Jewish thought, and in the ways of Talmudic study. The book "Mitzvah in Parasha" also Rabbi Binyamin Tabori, zt”l, R”m at the Har Etzion Yeshiva, is useful in introducing his students to the paths of Talmudic study.

              19. Thank you very much, Sh”t.
                The accessibility that Steineltz and Schottenstein made possible is one of the amazing things that happened in our generation. The ability to pick up a volume and open it anywhere possible, to understand and see the immense beauty and wisdom, is very exciting for any woman whose soul has longed for it. With the Daf Yomi and the recorded lessons, the sky is the limit.
                The ability to read with the right emphasis, with melody, is still missing, the peripheral knowledge that was gradually built up is missing..
                And of course, the time and references are missing the most. But that's life..

              20. Peripheral knowledge can be obtained from studying the ‘Sammar Chinuch’ (without the ’Minchat Chinuch’). Fifteen minutes every Shabbat will give wonderful peripheral knowledge.

                With greetings, Sh”T

                By the way, ‘Sefer Chinuch’ is the first Hebrew children's book, the author writes explicitly in his introduction that he wrote it for his teenage son and his friends. Maybe it should be reissued with ‘Comics’ 🙂

              21. And in addition to the concise overview of the halakhic boundaries and the merits of each mitzvah, there is a systematic comparison of the methods of the Ramban with the methods of the Ramban and the Rashba.

                With blessings, Sh.

              22. On the 16th of Sivan (the end of the year of Rabbi Chaim of Volozhin) Tashaf

                Lana – Shalom Rav,

                The advancement of women in Torah, including in the field of Talmud and Halacha, is not impossible in our generation. There are several colleges where oral Torah teaching is taught at a high level. There are midrashim where Gemara is taught at a high level, without a hint of defiant feminism, such as ‘Nishmat’, Migdal Oz’, etc. There are quite a few Ulpans that allow their students to study Gemara.

                Even for those who do not have a ‘Dinkuta version of Gemara study, there are countless accessible editions of the Talmud – Steinsaltz, Schottenstein, Hevrata, etc. ” and developed aids such as the ‘Daf Yomi Portal’ etc.

                Time is also not an acute problem. Even if you only dedicate an hour or two a week – you can progress little by little, page after page, topic after topic, and over the years you will discover that you have compiled a great collection.

                There is also clear and accessible literature in the field of Halacha. Anyone who goes through dozens of volumes of ‘Penin Halacha’ and ’Tehmin’ will find over time that they have comprehensive knowledge and understanding of many Halacha topics. She won't come out of this ‘stopping’, but she will have great understanding and knowledge of when and what to ask.

                Moreover, the period of maternity leave, the sabbatical year, and last but not least - the long retirement years – can also be dedicated to progressing in studies. I was told at the shiva of Prof. Arnold Rosin, that after he retired he began studying English literature and did a bachelor's and master's degree. When he reached his doctorate, his wife – Prof. Martha Weinstock-Rosin, Israel Prize laureate – told him that he might start investing in studying Daf Yomi, and indeed he managed to finish his Shas before going to a yeshiva in Ma'ale.

                Our generation is perhaps the right time to realize the vision of the Maimonides (in the Halachic Foundations of the Torah): that the explanations of the commandments, which direct a person to the good paths, are among the things that can be understood by both the small and the great, by both men and women, by the broad-hearted and the narrow-minded.

                With blessings, Sh’ts

                Regarding the rulings of halakhic law and the training of rabbis and dayanim, here there is a long path of 10-20 years of full-time studies in the kollel. Perhaps 17,000 female rabbis, and even more who are not radical feminists, will be recruited, and they will sign a permanent order for a beit midrash for rabbis and dayanim, where the abrakhites themselves will be trained for many years. Such a beit midrash will be headed by one of the greatest teachers accepted in our circle, for example Rabbi Yaakov Ariel, and then maybe we will also see high-level halachic rulings. Maybe salvation will emerge from the dismantling of the Fadelchus website 🙂

              23. And in any case, even someone who has not attended a lecture can contribute to the halakhic discussion by writing an article focused on the collection of sources on a literary topic (as I demonstrated in the article in Tecumin on Necham written by researcher Dr. Yael Levin).

                Naturally, even Torah scholars who are preoccupied with giving lessons and answering questions can miss important details and sources that are obvious and well-known to the writer who is focused on the subject he is dealing with.

                At one time, the Rabbi told the Abrechs of the Halacha Berura Institute, who were concerned about the heavy responsibility of a young Abrech in his 20s and 30s, how he could be sure that he was creating a complete clarification of the subject. Herbstern reassured us by saying: ‘Know that in your dealings with any issue– you are at that moment ‘the greatest of generations’ in this field. You have what the greatest of generations do not have. You have time…’. Of course, after us, great and experienced people have passed and criticized and supplemented us, but we have gained self-confidence.

                With best wishes, Sh”t

              24. In paragraph 1, lines 2-3
                … on a specific topic (as I demonstrated…

                Paragraph 3, line 1
                … Rabbi Aryeh Stern said to Abrahi…

                And asked Ramada”a

                Until you call on women to write a ‘new Shulchan Aruch’ according to the rules of the Shinu explained in the trilogy – why don't you take on the huge task. Why don't you write the ’new Shulchan Aruch’? Which could be called: ‘thin Halacha’ 🙂

                With greetings, Tabula Raza

              25. I'm afraid the answer is: It's easier to criticize and defy than to create. What's more, every ruling will be subject to countless "mistakes", here too conservative and here too moderate 🙂

                Best regards, Tara

  24. I'll tell you a little about how it feels in the West. No arguments. I'll just tell you about myself.
    Right now I'm choking back tears. A phenomenon that is growing for me on the subject of the place of women in the religious world, it's very hard not to despair.
    I live in a normal place, an average religious community. Among the few who take part in the reading of the Megillah, also the Megillah of Ruth, teaching classes on Shabbat (for women, because the community is not prepared otherwise), a one-minute Torah circle on Simchat Torah. Wherever it is possible to be a partner in the Torah space shared by men and women - that's where I am, like in a group that studies a daily page and does summaries together. Get used to the fact that I'm there. My husband's presence is significant, I should feel comfortable with it and not threatened and foreign.
    Two weeks ago I was part of the first egalitarian Shabbat evening prayer. For two years (!) this prayer has been woven. My husband prays on Shabbat, I make the challah (my husband bakes and separates them, by the way) (yes, I wrote my husband and it really doesn't flow well with me).
    I can't pray during the week, I don't like individual prayer, I feel that it emphasizes how I, as a woman, am alone outside the circle. On Shabbat I pray, but it's in shifts, I usually manage to grasp something from the extra. I cling more to being part than it does anything to me. I feel very bad about being helped by the women who are high up from afar.
    I experience a lot of resistance in the space to religious feminism. It's a bubbling issue that every time it comes up in our community it leads to serious disputes. So for some time now I've been avoiding trying to speak my mind, and my anger towards the synagogue is building up.
    I've noticed that the most severe resistance, not to say real fear of the matter, comes from many women. This equality is also a demand: to study, to pray, to observe mitzvot, to study Torah. They prefer not to. As if this world of Judaism is foreign to them and they are afraid of it.
    My son is an active participant in prayer in the synagogue, my daughter is not. I try to persuade her to sit with me when I'm there. He will study Gemara next year, when she arrives in his class soon, she will not study Gemara at all. We think that at her bat mitzvah she will read Torah. I am afraid that it will cause riots, I do not want her to absorb it on her back.
    Works full time and is also studying for a master's degree. We have four children. I try to read beautiful literature and philosophy before bed, and this is after studying the daily Daf Yomi. I think I am making a very great effort but I do not see how I will complete the entire trilogy now, or learn everything that those who study for the rabbinate study. I feel that this is a threshold requirement that the world demands of me in order to justify my request for an equal and broad place in the world of Judaism.
    I was glad that you opposed the advocates of evolution against revolution. I am tired of hearing this. When there is a need to correct and correct. I'm also tired of people saying, "Where does your need for equality come from?" "If it's not a pure place and just a feminist desire, then it's not real."
    No one is forbidden to get himself out of prison. We are forbidden, we need a hand from the outside.

    1. Thank you for sharing. I understand and sympathize very much. I'm just saying that I'm not demanding that every feminist become a teacher. It's unrealistic, not even for men who have received better tools.
      I'm just saying that at least practically, the chance of improvement increases greatly if there are a few of them who reach a good level and present a well-founded and organized Mishnah. It's clear that outside help is needed, but the nature of the world, whether we like it or not, without the initiative of the chauvinist himself, no one will save him alone and on his own from prison. The chauvinist has to make an effort and then others will join him and help him.
      If you saw the comments on the page of the phadelkhushiot on my words, you can understand that the chauvinist Didan doesn't have much chance of succeeding. He prefers to get close and whine and blame Hashem only on others and impose the obligation to save him only on others. He himself doesn't even bother to listen because of all the whining. The comments there were really depressing to me, and I don't want to expand here on what this means about fundamental claims regarding women. It's a great pity.

  25. Rabbi Nemo said, Rabbi Shovan said, "There is a little panemism in a woman who satisfies hunger, who makes her hungry full."
    And Rabbi Nemo said, "A few things are beautiful, but many are difficult, and these are alcohol, the Internet, and feminism."

    In short, I have no explanation for "I did not make a woman" for the average woman of today, but I do not understand the incessant preoccupation with this matter.
    And if I stop reciting the blessing one day, will you be more worthy and wiser??? Absolutely not.
    Instead, here too you will flee to a place where it is as if men feel that they are doing us a favor by forgoing the blessing.
    And in the words of Chazal, after a panemist, panemism has run out.

    On the one hand, the writer is outraged by the partition, on the other hand, she is outraged by the incessant preoccupation with women's sexuality by men, after all, the partition came, among other things, to solve this problem.
    In short, there are arguments for the sake of arguments for the sake of arguments

    You remind me of a person who is at a central station and chooses a bus to travel on because it looks the most beautiful and innovative.
    This journey will not end only if you listen to yourself (and do not feed yourself half-truths and quarter-lies) and understand the destination you want and need to reach.
    And good luck.

  26. It is impossible to escape the feeling that these claims feel that they are setting the threshold test for who is worthy of being God.

    That is, if it is proven by signs and wonders and without any shadow of a doubt that God is a racist/chauvinist and not a great supporter of diversity, then in their opinion He is not worthy of being God because He does not advocate the ideals that are correct in their opinion. That is, man is God and God is supposed to align himself with his opinions.

    It is difficult to prove unequivocally that this is their opinion because on most issues the "sayings" of God are not decisive in the direction of the supposedly conservative - except perhaps the issue of the disabled, where it is quite clear that God "does not meet the standards".

    But from the lines, it often emerges in these debates that the opinions that are in vogue today are threshold conditions for being God, and that I (man) determine these opinions.

    1. You are wrong for two reasons: What you read as the opinions of God are usually people's interpretations. Beyond that, people assume that God is moral, and what morality is is left to our understanding (not that we determine this, but rather that we are able to understand it in our understanding). For the Abacha, the verse says, "And you shall do what is right and good," without specifying what is right and good.

  27. Respond to people without a sense of humor!
    In any way and in any way – Everything Rabbi Michael writes will be labeled as ”masculine preaching”.
    (I hate the word they invented.).
    Newton was a man – Therefore his teachings are invalid. So is Rabbi Michael Abraham – Double punishment – Both a rabbi and a physicist!

  28. Thank you very much for the column, I wrote something following it, and sent it to a few friends. I'll share it with you too and I'd appreciate your response.
    Michael Avraham published a post in which he quotes the closing post of a Facebook page that has so far united tens of thousands of religious feminists. The founder of the site explains that after a decade of activity, she has come to the conclusion that it is impossible to continue the feminist struggle within the religious framework. Religion is inherently discriminatory against the female gender, and as such, there is zero hope of fixing it. The religious feminist must choose one of the two, religion or feminism.

    Avraham went on to explain why this is indeed the case, as long as feminists are content mainly with talking and lamenting their dismal situation instead of standing up and taking action. He strongly identifies with the situation in which you believe in religion, and are unable to identify with its positions. He himself was in such a situation, because even a man can encounter quite a few practical articles in the name of religion that he does not agree with, and what he did was a gastric bypass operation, when he composed his slimming trilogy on the Jewish religion, and minimized his points of friction with it, until today he can live with what remains of the original religion on whose knees he was raised, in peace.

    He understands that a woman, as long as she believes in religion, is stuck in an inability to change the religion and update it to what she thinks it really is. Because according to the accepted religious perception, a woman is not supposed to learn, and certainly not to pronounce laws, certainly not in a revolutionary and unacceptable way as Abraham might have done.

    So it is true that Abraham is not exactly accepted today as an Orthodox rabbi, despite his personal identity of consciousness. But I agree with the fact that if we take Rabbi Asher Weiss as an example, we can see a rabbi who miraculously always aligns the Torah with his liberal-modern positions, while he is still within the legitimate sphere even among the Haredi community.

    This is not found in a woman, certainly not a Haredi, whose mere daring to open a book that is not by Rabbi Hirsch leads her firmly to the wall of the Reform West.

    So it is true that Abraham's claim towards them is quite pointed. If you believe in him, you cannot, due to feminist pressures of one kind or another, withdraw from observing his commandments; on the other hand, you should not give up on feminism, but simply sit and update Judaism until it becomes suitable for you. The laxity and laxity of religious feminists who wait for male rabbis to do the work for them plays into the hands of chauvinism. He notes that to this day he has not received any female responses to the trio he issued, even though, as it turns out, the Judaism he has floated there is much more suitable for them than it is foreign to the spirit.

    But when I thought about it, I came to a different conclusion.

    Feminism cannot go along with religion on the same path, simply because the value it presents contradicts religious principle. While the atheist lives in a world of only natural disabilities, when only the lack of wings forces him to build airplanes in order to soar through the air, the religious person is submissive, according to his belief, to a power higher than himself.

    Practical religions, which also include commandments and prohibitions that are represented as the will of this higher power, and which force believers to act according to them in order to gain its grace and escape its punishment, necessarily do not recognize the so-called natural human right to freedom and equality.

    How am I, as a man, who wants to steal or murder, commit adultery or lie, and is limited in my options because of my fear of God, different from a woman who wants equality and freedom, ownership of her body, and so on?

    You know what? Let's say the woman succeeded in her struggle, and Judaism raised a white flag in the face of feminism, allowed her to come into her rooms to rummage through her bowels, to remove every trace of exclusion and discrimination, of submission and slavery, and here she is, pure and clean, a religious feminist in every sense.

    Is she free? Will the restrictions that apply to every religious person, man and woman, that impose on him – for example – a strict diet and reduce his nutrients, be removed? Of course not!

    It turns out that the feminist value, based on the value of freedom and liberty, simply does not fit with the religious shackles that can only be removed by expropriating the faith from the very beginning.

    It seems that Abraham is satisfied with his situation, when all the problematic points that hindered him in Judaism were successfully neutralized through his great energy and talent, and all that remained for him was to accept the Torah with which he lives in peace. My question to him is: Have you not embraced religion by its very nature? At the moment when it does not limit you, but you have decided that these restrictions suit you, and if they do not suit you in the future, I am assured of your ability to throw them off you – Isn't there complete freedom here, which, as mentioned, is contrary to the nature of religion?

    1. Excuse me, but these are empty words, and they border on demagogy (from the wrong side of the border).
      1. You formulated my position in an extreme way: change the halacha until it suits you completely (as I did). I did not write this anywhere. I said that there are things to change and improve the situation, and I called on them to do so as I did. There will remain limitations for which there are no solutions, and we all need to accept them.
      2. Feminists are not looking for a religion without limitations either. They are looking for a religion without unnecessary limitations.
      3. The question is what are the essential limitations and what are not. I argued that a significant part of the limitations were created by people's interpretations (almost all of them), and as such they can change, or at least there is a possibility of testing a change in them. What of our halacha is written in the Torah itself and has not been touched by human hands? Almost nothing.
      4. I also argued that the commentators are influenced by their environment (just like me and you and women). It's just that they lived in the Babylon of the first century and we live in a modern/feminist world. Why is their environment holier?
      5. The spirit that blows from your words is that comfortable religiosity is not religiosity. Religion must be restrictive and oppressive. And it is not. Sometimes there are limitations and we must bend ourselves to them, but it is not necessary to accept everything just to be dosas who accept all oppression as the Torah from Sinai and as a religious obligation.

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