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Is it moral to have a child at the age of 88? Is it responsible for a child who will grow up without a father, like the case this morning of Rabbi Zvi Koshlevsky?
Ask about a single mother.
Obviously, it’s better to be with a father, but it’s also better to be rich and better to be happy and healthy, etc. And yet we don’t define bringing a child into an unhappy or unhealthy or unrich home as an immoral act.
Is it moral to divorce? A child is better off in a home with two parents.
What a psycho this is 😅, I was just about to ask this question too
In my opinion, the answer ignores a stark difference between giving birth at an older age and the case of a single mother or divorce. This refers to the death of the father while the offspring is a child. This is a very great harm that is different from the other cases.
There are tragedies in the world and children cope with them. There are of course differences between situations, but I think I have shown that in principle this consideration is not really decisive. In a very extreme situation, it may have a place.
My father said to God that he did not have a father (he was an orphan) because the commandment to honor a father is so difficult!
It's not necessarily because of the difficulty but because of the severity of the offense if you miss.
I agree with Doron's words. There is a seemingly big difference here: a person chooses out of personal interests (no matter how lofty they may be) to bring a child into the world, when it is clear that this child will grow up without a father and that the mother will not be able to function properly and fulfill his needs. Choosing to do such a thing in the first place is immoral. This is different from the situations that you, Mikhi Avraham, described, where the child can function properly and his parents at a basic level give him what he needs and there is a horizon of hope that the situation can also improve (poor parents can improve their lives, the child can also adapt to such a life quite easily, unlike a situation where he has no parents, etc.).
And of course, if it were indeed a couple of parents who were hopeless drug addicts – it would be immoral for them to choose to bring a child into the world.
In a concluding sentence: It is possible to choose the quality of our life over the quality of the life of another (situations that imperfect parents bring about out of personal interest for a child who will be somewhat harmed by it), but when it comes to the quality of our life versus the destruction of the life of another (a child who grows up without parents when his chances of an unhealthy life are high) – it is no longer moral.
I would love to hear your opinion, Rabbi Michi.
That's not what Doron wrote. He divided between a father who died and a father who never existed. The comparison to a single mother is accurate.
Okay, let's not stick to what Doron wrote. I wrote my argument that I think there is a clearly inaccurate comparison here. A single mother can raise her child in a normal manner and it's not something for which you don't foresee a clear future. A parent who brings up a child that he knows will leave the world in a few years and whose mother will not be able to take care of him and you don't know exactly what will happen to such a child – This is already an injustice.
Well, now you actually repeated what Doron wrote. I replied that in my opinion there is no fundamental difference.
If his mother is not able to take care of him, that is another matter. But that is not the point. The point is that his father will probably die at a young age. Even so, at 88, he probably won't be playing catch with him.
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