On criticism in light of the gang rape in Eilat

 
In light of the unfortunate incident in Eilat and in light of the demonstrations, support, and strikes that were backed by (almost) all Israeli citizens, including politicians from all ends of the spectrum, except for the Haredi, of course… After long columns about how harmful Haredi society is to society as a whole, I thought I would raise a space here for reflection and criticism about what the alternative is that Israeli society offers…
And what is the Rabbi’s opinion on all of this that seems contradictory and unclear?
I will first attach quotes from column 227 of the rabbi in the previous case that stirred up the country for a few days for those who remember the case in Cyprus.
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Our permissive society is to blame for quite a few of these cases.
People raise children in an atmosphere where sex is like eating a popsicle at a kiosk, if you feel like it, buy it and do it with whoever you want (just don’t get involved in an unwanted pregnancy, and if you do – please murder the worker as soon as possible: safe sex prevents murder, and unsafe sex justifies murder). Then they are surprised that young people don’t respect a woman’s privacy and violate the most intimate dimensions of her personality and soul. If these are indeed such intimate dimensions, isn’t it appropriate to educate young people, boys and girls, to reserve it for partners and not for everyone I meet at a bar when I’m in a friendly mood? Is a casual meeting at a bar, even if a date-rape drug wasn’t put in the girl’s drink, okay? If sex is so banal, we shouldn’t complain that people don’t see it as such a big deal. You can’t educate children that free sex is perfectly fine and there’s nothing special about it (and therefore you can do it at age 12 with whoever you want, as long as you’re careful to kill the consequences in time), but at the same time see it as some very deep internal violation of the autonomy and sexual intimacy of the raped person. In my clearly unprofessional opinion, it simply doesn’t work. It’s a double-edged sword.
To me, this is similar to a communist society that would raise its children to believe that money is nothing and that it actually belongs to everyone, and then would let out terrible cries of dismay at people who steal or embezzle money from others and disdain other people’s money. If money is not an issue, then it is not an issue. You can’t dance at two weddings. And again, even in such an education, stealing is forbidden, but I am against the cries of dismay of the Cossack who was robbed.
And further on your words there:

Victim blaming
I have already been accused of victim blaming in the past (for example, in column 225, on LGBT terrorism), when I said that women are sometimes guilty of contributing to rape and LGBT people are guilty of contributing to violence against them. Now I am adding insult to injury, and adding to the issue the The contributing fault of the society we live in. It too has contributing fault. Just as you can’t let women walk around naked on the street and then complain about rape, you can’t educate children and youth in an atmosphere of complete sexual permissiveness and even turn it into an ideology (and mock the dark religious people who make a big deal out of it), and then when the results come, whine and complain. I repeat that in these two arguments I do not intend to clear the perpetrators of guilt, but rather to point to the contributory guilt of other factors (the victim and society).

From your words it follows that, by and large, if it weren’t for the fear of being caught, almost everyone would commit such acts. The fear of being exposed prevents barbarity, not any ethical or moral code.
After all this, I will ask the mother:
A. Isn’t it better to have illiterate dogs as the lesser evil option (on the side that it is bad)?
on. How is it that sane people who care so much about women don’t understand once and for all that permissiveness and promiscuity are what cause all these horrors?!
third. Do you think that separation between the genders is indeed the most effective solution for society in general and for women in particular, and that this is the complete opposite of exclusion?
D. The pants protest You wrote https://mikyab.net/%d7%a9%d7%95%d7%aa?user=mikyab \”If someone is bothered by a performance even though it is in accordance with accepted norms, the duty to protect themselves is on them. Let them go to the doctor or resign. This is not the student’s problem\” How does your opinion differ from what you wrote here (slap above) that the victim has responsibility?
E. Aren’t feminist women’s organizations in their many forms a significant factor in these unfortunate results?
Thank you in advance.

(A thinking challenge for those interested, if rape were committed by ultra-Orthodox Jews… what would be the reaction of our tolerant society? Spoiler: they would bring from the threshing floor and from the winery to the moderates we have built countless proofs that this stems from the closure and exclusion of the sexes.)