Passion in dating
To Rabbi Shalom,
A. Is it permissible to develop passion on dates before the wedding in order to thaw the atmosphere (at the other extreme – it turns out to be a job interview or an academic philosophical conversation and negotiation arrangements)? Is there a law that says not to sanctify it until it is revealed? It seems to me that it is not, since the goal here is not to test anything but to introduce lightness. And that is a different question when other things do not work for lightness.
on. Is it permissible for a man to develop desire so that the woman will feel attracted, meaning “the woman will not be consecrated to him until she sees us”? And when he develops desire, he himself ponders.
I would of course be happy to provide sources.
thanks!
I don’t understand why developing passion. Introducing levity or developing a deeper relationship is certainly appropriate (at least at a fairly advanced stage). But there is no reason to develop passion before getting married. In general, I have great doubts about how much reason you need to develop the relationship before marriage. What you need to do is check that it is suitable and not live together. The relationship between you should be developed after marriage.
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