Problematic girl. Must she be accepted to camp? If not, she and the mother will be harmed.
There is a camp run by the official authorities, a camp with lots of prizes that is really worth it.
The problem is that there are girls out there who think that everything is allowed in freedom and behave insolently and wildly, and this corrupts the souls of normal girls.
What do we do?
A group of mothers organized and are holding a private, quiet, and down-to-earth camp.
A mother approached her troubled daughter and asked her to join.
On the one hand, don’t insult and accept.
On the other hand, she is problematic, and if she arrives, there is chaos, rudeness, and behaviors that leave a problematic mark over time, and if that’s the case, you can send her to the official camp.
What to do?
How do we know that she is so problematic? She can be accepted on the condition that she behaves properly. And if the condition is not met, she is expelled. There should be some criteria by which we act. Otherwise, it opens the door to discrimination and blatant exclusion.
In the book of the rabbinical council of Tammuz, Shlomo Rava,
I saw in the book "Beit Ami" by Rebbetzin Kanievsky, who is quoted as saying that a naughty child is not a problem; on the contrary, when the child is not naughty, one should be concerned.
It is true that when a large number of students are playing around and rioting, there is a great fear that they will drag along even the innocent and disciplined ones. Therefore, education experts recommend that when "interaction" is done between students at different levels of learning ability or motivation, that the weak should not be more than a third, and then the strong "ruva deminchar" will pull along the problematic minority.
It seems to the student that this is the guidance of a rabbi to his student, Rabbi Shmuel Bar Shilat, who taught: "Whoever says something, and whoever does not say something, – May the Lord bless his friends’ and the ’social dynamics’ in the classroom will instill motivation even for those who are not so interested in learning. So that in one or two problematic students – the risk that they will drag the rest with them is not great.
It is also worth the student to receive an individual diagnosis from a professional regarding the student's behavioral problems. Sometimes understanding the ‘root of the rebellion’ allows for the correct treatment that solves the problem. Sometimes it is a problem of hyperactivity or attention seeking, for which assigning interesting tasks to the problematic student. – allows him to prove himself in the unique field in which he excels.
It should also be noted that there are behavioral problems that appear precisely due to the burden of schoolwork, which may bore the student, and perhaps he may have an attention deficit disorder, problems that do not exist in a camp where most of the activities are relaxed and interesting. It is not for nothing that we celebrate Simchat HaTorah, where there is a lot of dancing to the tune of the ’Pazer Keshav’ 🙂
With blessings for a successful camp, Hanoch Hanach Feinschmecker-Palti
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