Whether and when does leadership become a vow?
Hi Rabbi Mikhi, how are you? What is the source of the fact that every good custom becomes a vow three times (and in any case requires a permission), is this a binding source?
If so, is this a practice of every good custom, for example, a person who used to pray the prayer ‘Alinu Leshevah’ every day, is obligated to refrain if he wishes to reduce it?
Another question: Does the obligation to grant permission exist when dealing with a controversial matter (for example, a person has not used the Shabbat elevator until now and wishes to start using it), or is it because the truth is one, then the obligation to grant permission is a vow, since if it is forbidden then it is not appropriate to grant permission, and if it is permitted then there is no need to grant permission?
Many thanks,
Era.
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המקור שמנהג טוב ג’ פעמים נחשב לנדרThat’s why it’s also difficult to set boundaries for it, because it has no real source. But two important notes: A custom of mistake is invalid even without a permission. An act that you did because you thought that was the law and it was clarified to you that you were wrong (meaning that you yourself do not think that this is the law) is invalid without a permission. Therefore, regarding the use of a Shabbat elevator, it does not have the validity of a custom, not because there is a dispute about it, but because it is a halakhic question. In halakhic law, you are supposed to act as you understand it. Custom has a place in halakhic law only if the halakhic law is loose in your hands. But when your case has been decided or it has changed – act accordingly.
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In practice, most people make a declaration before Rosh Hashanah and cancel the vow they are about to make. When a person makes a vow, it is appropriate to say that he himself shows that he is canceling the declaration (in my opinion, this is a disagreement between the Rambam and other rishonim on how to interpret the Gemara on the matter), but in a situation of custom, it is clear that if we were to ask him for his opinion, he would say that he did not want it to be considered a vow, so why would the declaration not be valid?
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Thank you very much, but it is still necessary to ask whether in every casual leadership (such as the "We are to be praised" mentioned above), one is obligated to keep it as a vow, since he probably intends to keep it for the rest of his life. If so, this makes life really difficult and is also not known in the public (just a practical matter, not that this is a halachic claim, of course).
Again, whoever thought that was the way it was and now understands that he cannot stop without permission. Beyond that, they rightly wrote here that there is the permission of the Lord's Eve and it can be relied upon at least according to the custom of the G.P.
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