Sexosophy

The words of Maimonides were spoken in the MUN, which is a philosophical text. You could ask more strongly from the Shulchan Orach Si’ Ram SA: And even when he is with her, he should not be prepared for his pleasure, but as a person who pays off his debt that he owes her in sin and to fulfill the commandments of his Creator so that he may have sons who engage in Torah and keep the commandments in Israel; and likewise if he is prepared to correct a child, in the last six months it is good for him that from this he will come forth a white-hearted and quick-witted, pure-blooded one; and if he is prepared to fence himself off with her so that he will not desire to transgress, because he sees his desire increasing and desiring that thing. He thought: In this too there is a reward, but (Tur) it would have been better for him to reject his desire and conquer it, because there is a small organ in man: from him who hungers, he is full; from him who satisfies, he is hungry; but he who does not need to speak, but who arouses his desire in order to fulfill his desire, this is the advice of the evil instinct, and from what is permitted they will tempt us to what is forbidden, and about this our rabbis of old said: He who hardens himself to know will be in a state of abnegation. He writes this as a matter of law and not just as a philosophical position, so the difficulty is greater. Many have gone on to explain that we do not use this method. All pleasure, including sexual pleasure, is legitimate as long as one does not become addicted to it and devote too much time and energy to it. Especially if one does so to build the home and marital bond and the relationship with one’s partner (and not just to have children). Although some have written that this position is only on the practical level because we are not at the proper level, we must admit that this is simply not true regardless of the level. There is a difference in perceptions compared to previous generations, and for our generation it seems to me that it is simply not true. Again, not because of our low stature, but because today we understand this matter differently and relate to it differently. At least in our time, it seems to me that this is simply true from the start. I think I once saw detailed and beautiful explanations in a book by Rabbi Menachem Shlengar. I think it was the book ‘Yad Shlucha’.