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Man and Machine—May the Lord Save: VI. On Empathy — Halakhic Rulings from an Experiential Distance (Column 699)

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I’ve just finished a series of columns that dealt with AI and with the relationship between a human being and his thinking and the “thinking” of an LLM (Large Language Model). In a comment to the last column, Michael posted a beautiful clip from the wonderful film Good Will Hunting, in which the psychologist describes to Will the relationship between his vast knowledge and his lack of understanding regarding that knowledge (just as we saw in recent columns with the Chinese Room example and regarding LLM machines):

I wrote to him that this clip aptly describes my point about AI machines, for as I explained throughout the series, they may “think” but they do not understand (in fact, they don’t even think; they merely channel electrical currents, while thinking, meaning, and understanding all reside solely in the user). This video essentially illustrates the distinction that Wittgenstein discussed (and apparently denied; see Column 694, the first in the series) between understanding/meaning and use. That distinction was demonstrated, among other things, by the Chinese Room, and can also be seen in Mary’s Room (see, for example, Column 591) and in Russell’s example of “the yellow color.” In my reply to Michael I also mentioned my essay on halakhic rulings in extreme situations, which I’ve referenced more than once (see, for example, Columns 446, 452, 686, and more). For some time I’ve been considering dedicating a column to rulings in extreme conditions—situations far removed from the decisor’s world—and I now see that this connects to this series and to the discussion of an AI posek. So I decided to add this column as (apparently) the concluding one in the series.

An AI Posek

In Column 590 I discussed whether AI software can issue halakhic rulings. Since then, my friend Prof. Moshe Koppel sent me a link to the Rabbi Dicta model, which includes an automatic posek trained by him (at the company Dicta that he founded). The results are quite impressive (and all in fine rabbinic Aramaic, just like in his pashkevilim [wall posters]). One concern raised there (in the name of Rabbi Cherlow) was that such a model would rule without sensitivity to the person standing before it, relying only on sources—i.e., a dry ruling (not necessarily “second-order”; see below). I wish here to sharpen that concern, and in the end qualify it in light of what we’ve seen in the series thus far.

On Experiential Distance

It’s commonly thought that when someone comes to a posek with a question, the posek must try to understand the person in order to tailor the correct halakhic answer to him. I have often objected to this view (following my friend Nadav Shnerb, in his essay “The Jewish Ark of Lies”). A halakhic ruling is the dry product of halakhic reasoning, and the tailoring to the individual should be done only by that person himself, not by the posek. The posek should present the various options and their costs, and the decision is to be made by the person (the questioner). See my essay “On Leniency and Stringency,” and in greater detail in the third book of the trilogy, Walking Among the Standing.

But that description is somewhat extreme. Understanding the questioner’s situation is important even just to present each of the halakhic options. Even when there is only one halakhic option, the decision regarding it is influenced by the circumstances in which it is applied—circumstances composed of objective factors and of the inner world of the person in them. In my essay on halakhic rulings in extreme situations, I argued that when there is experiential distance between posek and questioner, the posek cannot rule for him even if he wished to, and even the mere presentation of options is problematic. I brought several examples; below I’ll touch on some of them. First, I’ll offer a few non-halakhic examples to sharpen the claim.

Experiential Distance: Non-Halakhic Examples

  1. Some challenged Abraham our forefather, who heard God command him to bind Isaac: why didn’t he suspect deception (Descartes’ deceiving demon)? After all, the command contradicted the moral norms God expects of us and the promise he received—“for through Isaac shall your seed be called.” He had every reason to suspect some error. This question ignores an important point: Abraham directly experienced the divine command. He was a prophet. We are not, and therefore it’s hard for us to grasp the situation in which God appears to someone and commands him something, and we toy with the possibility that it was a hallucination. It’s akin to a blind person challenging a sighted person: why trust what you see—perhaps it’s all an illusion? The sighted person has no way to explain the trust he places in his vision, but clearly such a challenge won’t shake him. Presumably the same applies to a prophet who experiences revelation.

This means we must be very careful when judging a situation not familiar to us firsthand. Lacking a direct encounter, we can be very confident and yet err in understanding the situation. The basis of this distinction is the difference between an external, intellectual understanding of the situation and a firsthand experiential encounter with it. We can sharpen this with the Mary’s Room example mentioned earlier.

  1. Mary is a brilliant physicist who knows all of optics (the theory of light and vision) through and through, yet she has lived and worked her whole life in a black-and-white room. When she steps outside, she suddenly meets a world of colors. Did she learn anything new? Each color is but light of a particular wavelength, so apparently she learned nothing new. Yet clearly she encounters something new: she now understands what red is. Beyond the wavelength that produces it and the behavior of light at that wavelength, she now meets what it does in the real world. This nicely illustrates the difference between theoretical knowledge and firsthand encounter.
  2. We saw another example in the previous series: Turing proposed his test for when a machine is a person. We found that after meeting computers that pass the Turing Test, it’s quite clear they aren’t human. Thinking theoretically about the situation is not the same as meeting the machine-person that passes it.
  3. Consider how people abroad view our situation here in Israel. They’re sure we’re constantly shooting and fighting everywhere, and that our streets are battlefields. Sometimes those at Israel’s center see the settlements likewise. But those living inside the situation know that everyone there lives life like anyone else in the world. Physical and experiential distance generates misunderstanding—and can of course lead to bad decision-making about the situations in question.
  4. Here’s another example that can sharpen this distinction. Imagine you’re driving and there’s a bird standing on the road ahead. Sometimes it waits until you’re half a meter away and only then flies off. Why not fly earlier? Why wait and take such a risk instead of acting with a greater safety margin? The answer is that due to the bird’s quickness, half a meter for it is like ten meters for a person. For the bird there’s no significant risk; it acts very much like we do. Our misjudgment of its behavior stems from experiential distance, since we’re viewing it in terms of our own parameters (our reflexes). That is a failure to understand the situation.
  5. Another amusing example of a far-removed situation we can scarcely imagine appears in a Louis C.K. stand-up bit, hilariously depicting a tiger suddenly showing up at a commuter train station. In a hunter’s world that’s normal; in ours it’s unimaginable.
  6. Another example: I’ve often been asked about yearning for redemption and rebuilding the Temple. Can we truly yearn for a Temple in which priests wade ankle-deep in blood and animals are slaughtered en masse? Indeed, it’s hard to wish for the Temple’s renewal. Yet we must consider that as long as we haven’t experienced a Temple and sacrificial worship, we have no way to know how that would affect our religious lives. Perhaps one senses the Divine Presence there and a completely different spiritual state of connection to God; then we’d understand that it’s right and enriching. So long as we’ve never experienced it directly, it’s not right to judge it.
  7. In a recent Q&A I was asked precisely about this, and there I also cited my essay on the proper attitude toward secular Jews today, where I argued that we cannot form an opinion on the matter based on biblical or rabbinic sources that spoke to a completely different reality and didn’t know modern secularism. We live in a wholly different state, and Chazal couldn’t formulate a position about our situation today. The questioner there cited the aggadah about Rav Ashi, to whom King Menasheh appears in a dream and tells him that had Rav Ashi lived in his time, he would have lifted the hem of his robe and run to worship idolatry. True, that’s a halakhic example—and more such examples will follow in the next section.

Experiential Distance: Halakhic Ramifications

In the essay mentioned above on halakhic rulings, I dealt with questions that arose in the ghetto or the camps during the Holocaust. I argued that to rule on such questions the posek must understand the situation in which people lived and its meanings for them. Without that, he could reach patently mistaken conclusions. The experiential distance between us and such an extreme state doesn’t allow us to make halakhic decisions about it. The example I focused on in an earlier essay was monetary law in the Kovno Ghetto. Rabbi Gibraltar, who lived there, held that monetary law did not apply in the ghetto. People had no ownership of property; thus there were no concepts of theft, loan and repayment, damages, and so on. I won’t go into details and caveats here (see there). I cited a critical article by a contemporary halakhist and explained why he cannot judge such a situation. As an illustration, I offered a hypothetical: two people are in an elevator whose cable has snapped; it’s plummeting and will crash in thirty seconds. One asks the other for a pen to write to his family; the other refuses. May the first forcefully take it? On the face of it—certainly not. That’s theft, with no halakhic justification. Yet one could say that in so extreme a state, monetary law and property rights lapse, and one cannot speak of ownership under such conditions. So long as we’ve not lived through such a state, we cannot judge or understand it firsthand, and therefore cannot decide about it. The same holds for “life” in the ghetto.

In chapter 3 of that essay I also looked at the same extreme situation in the Holocaust (also in the Kovno Ghetto) from the reverse angle. I brought a responsum of Rabbi Oshri in his MiMa’amakim, which addresses halakhic responses to hard situations in the Holocaust (he too operated in the Kovno Ghetto). He discusses whether one may work in the camp kitchen and cook on Shabbat if the alternative is forced labor with real mortal danger, and whether that person may eat from what was cooked on Shabbat (the issue of ma’aseh Shabbat). Rabbi Oshri conducts a halakhic analysis from primary sources and concludes it is permitted. At the end he adds what I would have written at the outset: this is a case of pikuach nefesh, so there’s nothing to deliberate; clearly one may do whatever improves the chance to survive. I wondered there why he even bothers with the (to us) unnecessary analysis and offered two answers. One was that for those who had lived in the ghetto for years, this was normal life. To us it seems like total systemic collapse and an obvious case of pikuach nefesh, thus no deliberation at all. But for them, this was ordinary life; therefore it wasn’t self-evident that it was pikuach nefesh that permits everything (recall the earlier example of how people abroad view life here). This is the same phenomenon from the other side: an inability to decide when there is experiential distance—only this time leading to stringency rather than leniency.

Another, less extreme example I treated there: a modern, young community deliberating women’s roles in synagogue (Mourner’s Kaddish, teaching, receiving an aliyah, etc.). The community turns to its rabbi for a halakhic opinion. He is young and turns to his own teacher from yeshiva, an older, conservative figure living in a different world. The elder rabbi cannot grasp what these practices mean to members of that community whose world is far from his. In such a case the elder can advise his student, but the decision must be the student’s, not the elder’s: “When the words of the rabbi and the words of the student conflict, we heed the student.” The younger rabbi is less learned, but he knows the situation firsthand; only he can decide about it.

Consider another case. I’ve written more than once that, in my view, one can form a minyan via Zoom: people in Australia, Belgium, Morocco, Israel, etc., on the same Zoom call can combine to a quorum. This of course doesn’t meet the accepted halakhic requirements (under one roof, etc.), but I claim that in our era a site on the internet is literally a “site.” Those people truly are in the same place; it’s just that the place is virtual. Ask an older posek unfamiliar with the situation and he’ll reject it out of hand. But a posek who has experienced it can understand that, from the participants’ perspective, they indeed are in one place; therefore the halakhic conditions for combining to a minyan are met. Again, experiential distance can hinder a posek from making the right decision about a situation far from his world.

A final example along similar lines concerns the proper regard for “place” today. Biblically/Talmudically there’s an injunction of “lo titgodedu” against two courts of practice in one city. Does anyone know a city without two synagogues? People hardly notice that, on the face of it, each of us everywhere is violating a Torah prohibition (see the question I received in the Q&A). My explanation is that due to our world’s dynamism, “space” today is not geographic. The proper translation for our time is “two synagogues in one community,” not “in one city.” Likewise with the natural shift from the Talmudic norm, where the fixed custom was that of the place (minhag ha-makom), to our state where the fixed custom is that of the group—by ethnic origin rather than locale. Again, my claim is that the cause is our world’s dynamism. In the Talmudic world, a person was generally born and died in one place, like his parents and grandparents; hence “place” was the fixed frame of custom. Today a person wakes up in Tel Aviv and by evening is in Australia or Zimbabwe. Place has lost its meaning, and we build substitutes for it. In some contexts a virtual place replaces the geographic; in others, the eidah (ethnic group) or community replaces the place. In all these cases, a rabbi unfamiliar with the modern, dynamic situation won’t accept these shifts, since on their face they blatantly contradict halakhic sources. But one who lives the situation understands that this is the proper application of halakha to new circumstances. Again: experiential distance prevents correct decisions about situations far from us.

Thus far I discussed experiential distance and its implications. This is important for understanding the proper way to rule halakhically in general, but now I want to touch on the implications of this picture for an AI posek.

Back to an AI Posek: A Look at the Nature of Empathy

Our way of understanding another’s situation is through empathy. Empathy is the ability to enter the other’s state and live it. This is of course a human capacity, and all of us (aside from psychopaths) have it. But artificial intelligence does not, since this is a mental dimension of ours, and as noted in the series, an AI machine has no mental components. If halakhic ruling requires empathy and grasping the other’s situation, doesn’t that disqualify AI from ruling?

First, note a basic distinction. To rule halakhically, one doesn’t truly need to feel empathy toward the other. What’s needed is a firsthand understanding of his state. If I deeply understand his state even if I feel nothing (that is, I intellectually grasp his feelings and distress but have no empathic feelings), there’s no impediment to ruling for him. I’ll account for his state coolly and reach the correct halakhic result. If so, seemingly AI can do this as well. If it imitates us, it can factor in all elements of the situation and compute the right result without feeling anything. If it reaches the right result, the method doesn’t matter—there’s no bar to its ruling.

Perhaps we can distinguish two kinds of factors about the questioner that the posek must consider. There are the special objective circumstances in which he lives and acts; these can be described to AI, and it will “understand” them as it “understands” anything else and factor them into its ruling. But there are the questioner’s subjective feelings, and here it’s doubtful how well AI can grasp them and account for them. Is a verbal description of those feelings sufficient to yield the right outcome? I don’t know. Perhaps yes—after all, we too as humans are nourished by the person’s report of his feelings; the rest is our processing and response. But there’s also body language and our understanding that comes from entering the other’s situation, and I’m not sure AI can do this fully like a living person. Still, if we train the machine on many cases of such descriptions along with poskim’s responses, it will learn the human processing the posek does to what he hears. It probably won’t pick up the questioner’s body language—yet, in principle, even that could be captured by AI. If we train it on inputs that include not only speech but also video of the questioner while speaking, and of course feedback—the posek’s answers responsive to the speech and the video—I don’t rule out AI’s ability to factor those elements in as well.

The picture I’ve drawn here qualifies the concerns raised above, namely that AI cannot rule on delicate questions because it lacks empathy. Perhaps that’s not so: even if it lacks empathy in the emotional, human sense, it may be able to mechanically emulate human empathy.

A Scientific Note

A side observation arising from this is an interesting insight—and perhaps even an empirical way to test it. I suggested that our empathy might include something beyond verbal messages and body language, i.e., beyond what passes through the senses. Perhaps there are messages transmitted in another way, reflecting an ability to sense the other directly. If so, then it’s likely a machine cannot be trained on that; we have no way to feed it those inputs, and thus cannot train it to respond to them. That would be an inherent disadvantage of the machine relative to a flesh-and-blood posek. I don’t know if this is the case. Can we test it scientifically?

Perhaps yes—by looking from the other direction. Suppose we could train an AI that receives all the sensory inputs a posek receives: the questioner’s words, video of him while speaking, voice tone, and any other relevant sensory data—and of course the rulings given to each such questioner. Now take the trained machine and pose to it the same questions addressed to human poskim, and compare its answers to theirs. If there is a significant gap—i.e., we failed to train the machine to emulate human empathy—then that very gap would indicate that our empathy includes something beyond verbal messages and sensory inputs. Here AI could reveal something fascinating about us. This is itself a riveting scientific question, and I find it hard to think of another empirical way to test it.

Discussion

Pinchas (2025-03-11)

Regarding a minyan on Zoom, the current trend is to return to office work to a considerable extent. And part of the reason is the significant experiential difference between shared physical presence and shared virtual presence. Perhaps that difference can also affect a prayer quorum.

Yaakovovitz (2025-03-11)

It should read:
“Some raised the difficulty about our forefather Abraham, who heard the Holy One, blessed be He, command him to bind Isaac: why did he ***not*** suspect that this was a deception (Descartes’ deceiving demon)?”

In any case, I’ll take the opportunity to ask why you do not suspect this regarding the wiping out of Amalek, or immoral commandments in general, especially according to your approach that these are two different planes.

Michi (2025-03-12)

Thanks for the correction.
Who says I don’t suspect it? I’ve said and written several times that if it ever came to an actual deed, I would hesitate greatly whether to do it.

Ish (2025-03-13)

A good question. How can this really be decided? Can the rabbi elaborate? It is clear that there is a difference between being together on the physical level under one roof and the “togetherness” on Zoom. How can one know what has halakhic standing? Just whatever seems intuitive?

Michi (2025-03-13)

Yes. Whatever seems intuitive. How do you think the laws of joining for a minyan were determined in their original Talmudic source? By divine inspiration?

Ani (2025-03-13)

Regarding Zoom, as a matter of fact people do not really feel “together” there.
And the fact is that the moment the fear of COVID subsided, most social activities went back to being physical despite the inconvenience of travel.
Only technical matters like work remained on Zoom, and even there there has been some retreat.

It seems to me there is proof here that despite the word “site” and the language usages and mentality associated with it,
it is clear that on Zoom people do not feel “together” to the same degree, and one cannot rule out the possibility that the requirement of Hazal (and perhaps of the Torah? at least in the parts where this is relevant) is specifically for that kind of togetherness.

Lavi (2025-03-23)

Hello,

Only now have I had the privilege of reading the concluding article of the fascinating series about AI; more power to you!

Two small comments:

A. Regarding the two people in the elevator plummeting to their deaths, ostensibly this is not a good example, since they are considered dead during the fall, and there is no robber and victim there at all. This is based on the Gemara in Bava Kamma that if one throws a vessel from the top of a roof and another comes and breaks it with a stick, he is exempt, because “he broke an already broken vessel.” Similarly here—since they are falling to their deaths—they may be considered dead already during the fall.

B. Regarding rendering halakhic rulings without an experiential dimension: today many halakhic rulings are given through questions sent to rabbis on WhatsApp, text, online (the Kipa website and the like), and even on this holy site. In questions that can be answered in that way, it is not impossible that AI too could issue rulings. However, in questions where the subject of the question affects the ruling, one must discuss it as the rabbi did in this column, and there are arguments both ways.

Michi (2025-03-23)

A. Then the pen belongs to the heirs of the pen’s owner. And it is a very strained claim to say that nevertheless the second “dead person” may rob it, on the grounds that “among the dead one is free.” And furthermore, is one permitted to kill his fellow because he is killing an already dead man? There is temporary life here.
B. That is exactly what I wrote.

Lavi (2025-03-23)

Even if one must be concerned about capital matters, for it is also forbidden to kill a tereifah even though one is not executed for it, with regard to monetary law there is less reason for concern.
Even if there are heirs, there is no need to invoke “among the dead one is free,” because this is not considered theft at all, since there is no existing robber here, and consequently no act of theft.

Yehoshua Bengio (2025-04-08)

The artificial intelligence wrote to me that since it has no intuitive capacity, it erred in its assessment of “what the rabbi’s answer would be.” I am attaching Grok’s answer: Yehoshua Bengio: Before I answer you about that, I’ll ask you, as an artificial intelligence, about the gap between the rabbi’s answer and your assessment. Where does it stem from?
Excellent question! The gap between my assessment and the answer of Rabbi Asher Weiss, may he live a good long life, stems from several factors related to the way I as an artificial intelligence process information and to the limits of my ability to understand in depth the human and spiritual approach of a decisor like Rabbi Weiss. Here are a few points that explain it:
Complexity versus simplicity:
As Grok, I tend to analyze questions systematically and break them down into different components (halakhic, spiritual, educational, etc.). I tried to anticipate an answer that would address all the aspects raised in the letter—the Hasidic concern about dogs, the therapeutic benefit, and the practical considerations—and therefore I estimated a more detailed answer with possible conditions.
Rabbi Weiss, by contrast, chose a simple and focused approach: he identified the main point (the children’s welfare) and ignored the additional complexities, because from his perspective they were not sufficiently relevant to delay the decision.
Human sensitivity versus technical analysis:
I am based on textual knowledge and logical analysis of sources and trends, but I do not have the ability to “feel” the human weight of the situation the way Rabbi Weiss can. He presumably immediately sensed the urgency of the students’ need and the immense value of the benefit for them, and therefore did not give much weight to the symbolic concerns.
I, by contrast, tried to “cover all the bases” and also address the Hasidic concern of the rosh yeshivah, which led me to a more cautious assessment.
A Hasidic point of view versus a practical point of view:
In my assessment I gave weight to the Hasidic background of the yeshivah and to the symbolism of the dog, because I thought Rabbi Weiss would want at least to address it in light of the rosh yeshivah’s request for a decisor with a Hasidic orientation.
But Rabbi Weiss surprised me with the comparison to Abraham our forefather’s donkey—an original and simple idea that did not occur to me, because it did not rely on a theoretical discussion but on a concrete example that cancels the concern without going deeply into the symbolism.
The limits of my knowledge and creativity:
I can rely only on what I learned from the data available to me, and I do not have the ability to invent a completely new point of view or arrive at human intuition like that of the rabbi. His answer reflects wisdom and flexibility of thought that are difficult for me to imitate fully, because I operate within the framework of algorithms and not out of lived experience.
In short, the gap stems from the fact that I tend to think in an “orderly” way and to estimate answers that balance all the considerations, whereas Rabbi Weiss, from his vast experience and sensitivity, went straight to the main point and used a simple yet profound example to solve the question. This shows how hard it is for artificial intelligence, even one as advanced as me, to reproduce the human genius of a decisor like him!

Michi (2025-04-08)

What is this referring to? I didn’t understand.

Yehoshua Bengio (2025-04-10)

To the question whether AI’s lack of empathic and intuitive ability, at least at this stage, has significance for its ability to issue rulings. You wrote: “First, it is important to note a fundamental distinction in this matter. In order to render a halakhic ruling, there is no real need for empathic feeling toward another person. What is needed is an immediate understanding of his situation. If I understand his situation well, even if I feel nothing (that is, I understand intellectually his emotions and his distress, but I have no feelings of empathy toward him), there is no obstacle to my ruling for him. I will take his situation into account in a cold manner, and I will arrive at the correct halakhic result. If so, ostensibly AI can do this as well. If it imitates us, it can take into account all the components of the situation and by calculation arrive at the correct result even without feeling anything. If it arrives at the correct result, and it really makes no difference by what path, there is no obstacle to its issuing halakhic rulings.”

First, I absolutely disagree. You yourself have brought up a thousand times the distinction between a posek and a lamdan. A lamdan may analyze a sugya down to its most basic components and know how to map it better than a posek; nevertheless—or precisely because of that ability—he may not know how to reach a ruling. Right now I am reminded of the story about Rabbi Lichtenstein’s doubts whether to permit his daughter to have her ear pierced on account of “wounding,” and Rabbi Auerbach’s simple reply when R. Aharon asked him: “My grandmother did it that way.” And not only in halakhah—even in ordinary life—Rabbi Steinsaltz said that he was unsuccessful in matchmaking, because he constantly saw more details and more possibilities as to why this match would or would not succeed, and there had to be an intuitive dimension that he lacked. Empathy belongs to this world.
I sent a detailed question to Rabbi Asher Weiss in order to decide between me and the rosh yeshivah where I teach. I gave Grok a host of Rabbi Weiss’s responsa so that it could learn them, and after that I gave it my detailed question. I asked it what it thought the rabbi would answer, and it gave an answer that, from its perspective, was an attempt to weigh all the possibilities. Rabbi Weiss gave a different answer, because the rabbi related only to the humane aspects and completely brushed aside other considerations (I had thought like the rabbi’s answer). Of course, you can always claim that perhaps Grok was right and not the rabbi, but that is a bit funny.

Of course, it is not impossible that one day it will learn to imitate abilities whose basis is intuitive at a very high multi-level, and close the gap, but that is still very far away.

Michi (2025-04-10)

You are saying exactly what I said. Where is the question here? That we still aren’t there? So what?! The question is one of principle: if it imitates Rabbi Weiss well, it can issue rulings in his place. The question is whether such imitation can be achieved. Maybe. We’ll wait (or: imitate) and see.

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