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Class of 1979 Reunion with the Families of the Fallen from Midrashiat Noam, Pardes Hanna – Memorial Day 2020

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Table of Contents

  • Getting organized and introductions among the participants
  • Reflections on memory and its meaning
  • Rami Buchris
  • Hovav Landau
  • Yaakov Zimmerman and the Zimmerman family
  • Bereavement, continuity, and intergenerational connections
  • Closing, recording, and greetings

Summary

Overview

The conversation takes place as a Zoom meeting of friends and family around a memorial gathering and remembrance of three graduates of the Midrashiyah who fell, chiefly Rami Buchris, Hovav Landau, and Yaakov Zimmerman. The participants deal with identifying names and faces, sorting out mute settings, and explaining technically how to jump into the conversation, and then move on to self-introductions by the families and friends. Later, a short teaching is given on the meaning of memory as a value that leaves a “part” of a person in the world, followed by sharing personal memories about the character, generosity, leadership, and lives of those who fell, alongside words from family members about bereavement and its long-term impact. The meeting concludes with thanks to the organizers, a request to save the recording and send it to the family and the graduating class, and a desire to meet again.

Getting organized and introductions among the participants

The opening is informal, with greetings, identifying participants, and side conversations about who is on Zoom, including comments about corona, Zoom backgrounds, and growing a beard because of the Counting of the Omer and between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. The moderator asks people to go on mute when there is background noise and explains that pressing the space bar allows one to speak, and he tries to organize orderly introductions in order to understand the connection of the family members and friends. Yael introduces herself on behalf of the Zimmerman family as Yaakov’s sister, and Bina the mother is with her; she says that the two eldest sons of Michal and Yael are named after Yaakov, and that their family is happy to participate in the memorial gathering.

Reflections on memory and its meaning

The speaker raises the question of what value memory has in the days between Holocaust Remembrance Day and Memorial Day for fallen IDF soldiers and victims of terror, and argues that the usual explanations, like gratitude or preventing future tragedies, do not provide a common denominator for all types of memory. He brings the commandment to blot out the memory of Amalek alongside the obligation to remember and not forget, and interprets “memory” there as meaning “a part” rather than a mental act, so that blotting out the memory of Amalek means blotting out every “part” of him. He argues that remembering returns “something” of the person or event to reality, and since a person is made up also of values, ideas, desires, and plans, memory leaves a real “part” of the person here, as an ontic and metaphysical claim rather than a metaphor. He distinguishes between halakhic remembrances whose purpose is to derive a lesson, and a more basic kind of memory that people sense has value even without connection to Jewish law, and presents it as a derivative of the value of life.

Rami Buchris

Miki describes how already at the beginning of ninth grade in the Midrashiyah, Rami struck him as “something different,” more mature than many others, with a tendency to present unpopular positions and add “other sides” when everyone else got carried away. He tells of a meeting before an officers’ preparatory course in which Rami, as a platoon commander, asked him to keep an eye on a trainee named Hakak, and presents this as an example of how a commander with the right personality can change a life even if the path is full of difficulties and setbacks. Shai describes Rami as serious and mature but also a partner in mischief within reasonable bounds, someone who refused to take part in anything excessive, and always helped in studies and socially with a smile and a bright face, loved basketball, excelled in his layup and his characteristic movement, and was part of the class team. Uzi, a family member, describes the news of his fall as a family disaster within a very difficult medical reality for the parents, and the years in which they were occupied more with survival than commemoration, and he expresses happiness for the chance to speak despite the difficulty, including the fact that he barely spoke about Rami with his children. Hillel describes Rami as a natural leader who mediated between the religious group and the broader environment in the army and in officers’ course, approaching the company commander to straighten out conditions for prayer and daily schedule, and helping things work out “with everybody” without problems. It is also said that Rami maintained a strong connection to the Jerban tradition, spoke about Rabbi Mazuz and the Jerban way of learning, and combined a powerful intellect with simple, rooted faith, together with a description of his father Ephraim as a central and admired figure who continued to have deep influence even after Rami’s fall.

Hovav Landau

Shai describes Hovav as a smiling, cheerful young man, a person of generosity and volunteering, who found time to help in the community even during demanding years of study, and as a soldier who gave others a shoulder to lean on. Hillel says that Wieder from Austria lived in his and Rami’s room and that they helped him socially, and emphasizes that Hovav hosted him every free Sabbath at his home for a long period until Hovav’s home became his own home for Sabbaths. Miki describes Hovav as a “classic Bnei Akiva counselor type,” not embarrassed to speak idealistically, with “sandals” and a sense of mission, and connects this to a Bnei Akiva home environment. Tzachi says that Hovav fell on the night between Thursday and Friday in the first week of the war in Lebanon in the Sultan Yaakov area, and combines that with a personal memory of a flight carrying supplies and evacuating five dead soldiers, and anger over a delay in unloading because of Sabbath observance, as a memory burned into him from that period.

Yaakov Zimmerman and the Zimmerman family

Bina, Yaakov’s mother, speaks of his pride in being a Midrashiyah student and how he chose the Midrashiyah because his father was a graduate of Class 4, even though other yeshivot were willing to accept him, and of his love of leaving the “bubble” of Bnei Brak for a place where the Jewish people “of every type and kind and community” met. Lenny describes the class as an especially active and volunteer-minded class, including work with AKIM, Beit HaTaf, Kibbutz Gilgal, the branch in Karkur, Pardes Hanna, and Sabbaths in Dalton, and places Yaakov as someone who came from a sheltered environment and immediately connected with “wild” friends from different places and backgrounds, while defending students before the rabbis and administration and asking to help rather than punish. He describes Yaakov with a transistor radio everywhere, knowledge of English songs like the Beatles, singing and teaching songs to friends, and an exceptional love for the children at Beit HaTaf who clung to him, alongside a devotion that came at the expense of his studies. Lenny adds a memory from basic training in Nitzanim in scout tents, about dividing the space with a line down the middle, about how Yaakov brought a mattress, blanket, and sheet, kept perfect order, did not allow entry into the tent without a shower, lit a candle at night and wanted to read before sleep, and says that in hiking pictures you always identify him as neat and well-combed. Shai adds an episode in which Yaakov got lice from his volunteering and had a hard time emotionally because of the blow to order and cleanliness, connecting it to a neat “English” home, and tells of studying math together and of warm hospitality in the family home, including a rice recipe. Eitan Kabel says Yaakov was one of the people closest to him, that they lived for years in the same room, and Yaakov decided to be the “big brother,” with a transistor radio that made everyone fall silent when the news came on, and he presents Yaakov’s loss as one of the greatest losses in his life. Hillel adds an anecdote about walking to a Sabbath weekend in Alon Shevut where Yaakov appeared like an “Englishman” with a closed coat, an orderly umbrella, and a striking presence even in Kiryat Arba. Tzachi tells of a regular Sabbath afternoon prayer on the Sabbath of Chayei Sarah in the Beit Hadassah synagogue facing the curtain that Yaakov commemorated, and of a visit during basic training where Yaakov remained himself and did not belong to the atmosphere of abuse, and of testimony by Yosef Ziv from the evacuation squadron who said, “Guys like you, religious guys like you,” in connection with evacuating the wounded on the night of the murder.

Bereavement, continuity, and intergenerational connections

Golan, Rami’s brother, describes a personal difficulty with memorial ceremonies and pathos, embarrassment in the face of “lofty words,” and the experience of being labeled a “bereaved brother,” which also created absurd situations, alongside his admission that he is a sensitive person and that the bereavement has accompanied him all these years in a drawer that opens from time to time, especially through dealing with the parents’ condition. Shai speaks about the perspective of forty years since Yaakov’s death, about the fact that there are two Kobis named after him and that they now have children, and about a meeting of children and grandchildren at the cemetery that creates both funny moments and an expression of continuation, as a way in which “something remains” from those who died. Meir adds that the quality of the Midrashiyah was the acquaintance with the families, recounts that he remained in contact with Rami’s father after Rami’s fall, received professional help from him, and even invited him to be a witness at his wedding, and he signed the ketubah. Miki describes the connection he formed with Ephraim after Rami’s fall as a kind of “second home” for him, including a description of Buzaglo’s admiration for Ephraim, and concludes by saying that the three figures are special and one could go on at great length.

Closing, recording, and greetings

Miki confirms that the meeting is being recorded and that it will be sent at the end to the family and the class group. The participants thank Miki and Shai for organizing, express emotion and difficulty speaking, mention personal connections from the past such as nights spent at Rami’s house and at Yaakov’s house, and wish one another, “May we meet on happy occasions,” along with the remark that there is no need to wait only for happy occasions. The meeting closes with greetings for a happy Independence Day and wishes for good news.

Full Transcript

[Speaker A] Tanukh, come to the conversation in speaking mode, come to the conversation. So listen, turn on the dairy oven and put it on the dairy oven. Hi, Rami. What did they tell us, that this is better? I don’t know, like everything of his.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Didn’t they say Rabbi Miki?

[Speaker A] No, no, no, wait a second, Alon.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Gaz is speaking, that’s not me. Tell Shlomi. No,

[Speaker A] So put it on the dairy oven, just make sure they turn it off. Okay.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Uzi, I saw Golan here before, didn’t I? He disappeared on me.

[Speaker C] I’m here, I’m here, Miki.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Ah, okay.

[Speaker E] Uzi, hello. Who said that to me? I don’t know, hello.

[Speaker D] Golan, how are you? Thank God, thank God. Hillel, how are things, Hillel?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] There are two Hillels here, Hillel Karsten and Hillel Baruch, so how are you?

[Speaker G] I want to, yes, that’s also true. Ah, that’s the dream, yes, right. Thank God, I hope people maybe after this corona really will take all kinds of material things a little more in proportion. Great, be healthy and be strong, regards to everyone, hello.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Whoever is making other noises should probably go on mute. In the end I’ll put everyone on mute, but meanwhile we’re still talking freely. I see David Landau here? Is he connected to Hovav? My brother, yes. Ah, okay, hello.

[Speaker H] Wow, I’m in shock, Simcha! I haven’t seen this crowd here in many years.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] That’s what corona is for.

[Speaker D] Hello, hello,

[Speaker H] I’m going here picture by picture. Mumi, Hillel Baruch, wow wow, Dubi,

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Dubi, hi.

[Speaker D] Dubi, how are you, Dubi?

[Speaker H] Wait, who is Rami Buchris?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Rami is Rami Buchris’s nephew, Golan’s son.

[Speaker H] Wow, for a moment I got scared that I was seeing Rami Buchris, may God avenge his blood.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] I

[Speaker I] see Rami Buchris, just the nephew. And who

[Speaker H] is Golan?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Rami’s brother.

[Speaker I] Ah,

[Speaker H] Golan is Rami’s brother? Yes.

[Speaker F] Oh Hillel, completely.

[Speaker H] Also Bina, Yaakov’s mother, is here with us. Hi Bina. Hi Dubi.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Shmulik, hello.

[Speaker J] Bina, hello, can you hear me? This is Ofer Gazit.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] She’s on mute. Sorry, no no, not on mute. Now she’s not on mute. Bina, Yonatan, hello. Yohanan, how are you?

[Speaker J] How’s it going? This is Ofer Gozit. She’s on mute. Now she’s not. No, no, not on mute. Now she’s not on mute. Good, fine.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Bina, Natan, hello.

[Speaker K] Miks, how are you? Fine, Miks.

[Speaker F] Kabel.

[Speaker K] Wait, I’m growing a beard, it’s because of the Counting of the Omer. Yes, yes. Between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur.

[Speaker H] Until the government is formed, you mean, huh? Yes, yes.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Hello Eitan, how are you? Charlie. Praise God.

[Speaker K] Yes, yes, I saw you, Charlie.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Yehoshua, what’s up?

[Speaker L] Excellent, thanks. Are you in Israel? Oh, the Holy Land.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Always.

[Speaker H] What, am I the only one abroad? The only one? No, also what’s-his-name usually is too. Unless he arrived. Avi Moial usually is. Avi Moial, I saw him. He’s here.

[Speaker M] Good morning. Good morning everyone.

[Speaker K] Good morning Avi. Good morning Avi.

[Speaker H] Avi Moial. Where are you, Avi?

[Speaker M] I’m in Palo Alto, not far from San Francisco.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Okay. Wait a second. And who is Menachem Edelman Landoy, who is that? Are you connected to Hovav? Probably.

[Speaker F] Families are supposed to come on.

[Speaker N] Meni, how are you Meni? Who from Zion? Who’s asking? Ofer. Hi.

[Speaker J] Idan Vidani, Idan Vidani.

[Speaker F] Look, I’ll tell you

[Speaker H] the truth, there are faces here that if I saw them in the street, I wouldn’t recognize who you are.

[Speaker O] Honestly, that was my reaction to a lot of the people.

[Speaker H] There are also names here I don’t know from the class, for example Yael Bardugo wasn’t with us. Sarah wasn’t with us. Who else?

[Speaker F] Family or friends, that’s okay.

[Speaker H] Hello Dekel. Nadav Halabi is here.

[Speaker F] What is this?

[Speaker A] All the graduates of the class.

[Speaker H] Put everyone on mute, Maggi put everyone on mute. Wait, wait, Avi Moial, am I understanding that behind you there’s a wallpaper of a library, or am I mistaken?

[Speaker P] There’s that, there’s an option in Zoom to do all kinds of backgrounds like that.

[Speaker H] Exactly today I was thinking how I add a picture. Okay, I need to learn that.

[Speaker Q] Here too.

[Speaker G] Okay.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] If you’ll allow me for a second, I’m just going to silence things, sorry, just so this whole business can somehow be managed. I left control of the microphones with you, so you can jump in, you can also press space and then you can speak, and when you let go it stops. Technology, that’s me, nice to meet you. That’s the only thing I know about Zoom. Anyway, I want to begin. Maybe before we start, just a little, friends. So that we know what the connection is and who the people are, because not everybody is familiar to all of us. So maybe I suggest that people start introducing themselves. Maybe let’s begin with the Buchris family. Just in a word, who you are and what the connection is.

[Speaker E] Okay, well, there’s a pretty large clan here relative to what I can see. A big part are cousins,

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Then you run it, Uzi, you run everyone, go in order, because I’ve lost track here.

[Speaker E] I myself don’t know exactly everyone who’s here. I just know there’s a large group here from the family of my cousins, who are Rami’s cousins, and there are uncles of Rami here, and cousins of my mother. And there are also friends from the Bnei Akiva branch in Kiryat Yam, I identified Yael and Rami here, maybe there are more and I didn’t identify them because there are just too many people. And of course my children, of course Golan.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] The oldest is named Rami after Rami. Yes. Okay, so we also have Golan. That’s what you mean.

[Speaker E] My son is also here from the army, he’s currently in service and in the Bethlehem area,

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] the soldier who’s here in the group.

[Speaker E] And each one from his own place.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Okay. What about the Landoy family? Who will help us with introductions there?

[Speaker S] Bina.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Is someone willing? Just so we know who’s with us.

[Speaker F] I think they don’t know how to jump in.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Press the space bar. You press space and speak while holding it, when you let go it stops. Not working? I see Dudi here. I see Menachem Edelman Landoy here and I saw David Landau earlier. Maybe there are others I don’t identify. Is there someone who can give us an overview of who is here? The Landoy family and branches thereof. Release everyone for a moment. You know what? I’ll release everyone for one second. Maybe there’s some kind of issue. So they’ll hear

[Speaker T] you, you press that.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Wait, will they hear me?

[Speaker F] Amen, with God’s help.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Great, Abba, thank you very much. They hear, they hear. Good, yes.

[Speaker F] Okay, let’s move on to the Zimmerman family.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Bina? Maybe you?

[Speaker V] I’ll speak on behalf of the Zimmerman family. Hello everyone, I’m Yael, Yaakov’s sister. Our mother is also here with us,

[Speaker T] Bina, who maybe will want

[Speaker V] to speak later, maybe for half a minute if you want at some point. We, my sister and I, both of us, Michal and I, Yael, both of our eldest sons are named after our brother Yaakov. And we’re happy that you invited us to participate in the memorial gathering. Thank you.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Okay, so let’s begin, Shai?

[Speaker H] You’re the CEO, just tell me what. Wait, let’s give one more moment, one more chance to the Landoy family if one of them manages to overcome the technical problems and say a few words.

[Speaker U] I

[Speaker F] see that Dudi is here.

[Speaker U] No, they

[Speaker F] can’t overcome the technical issues.

[Speaker H] Dudi, Menachem, can someone say something? We need to

[Speaker F] put Viki on. She can say something. Let’s move on.

[Speaker G] Let’s start and then

[Speaker H] later

[Speaker F] we’ll speak.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Viki, continue. Okay, all right, so I’m muting everyone again, pardon me. There. Fine. So the plan, as Shai sent out, is that I’ll just say a few minutes of some short teaching or something like that, and then we’ll hear a bit of what people have to say. I’ll begin maybe with a few reflections on memory, sort of in these days between Holocaust Remembrance Day and Memorial Day for the fallen soldiers of the IDF and victims of hostile acts as well. This issue occupies me every year—the question of why. What exactly is the value of memory at all? Very often we hear all kinds of explanations that somehow seem to me a bit artificial, or they don’t really take the bull by the horns. Explanations like maybe gratitude, maybe on Holocaust Remembrance Day it’s to prevent future events, future holocausts, things of that sort. But somehow the feeling that accompanies me is that first of all there’s something common to all these memories of all these kinds, and none of the explanations fits all of them. In other words, gratitude is not true of all of them, let’s say solidarity or empathy with people who suffer, or with families—that also doesn’t fit every type of memory. There are all kinds of explanations, but somehow none of them really feels to me like it takes the bull by the horns. And so I thought maybe one can give some sort of philosophical, metaphysical meaning to this matter of memory. In the Torah, when it commands us to blot out the memory of Amalek, it uses the term “memory.” Wait, I see there’s noise in the background, let’s mute again. There. It tells us to blot out the memory of Amalek. On the face of it this sounds very strange, because we are commanded to remember and we are forbidden to forget. There is a positive commandment and a prohibition regarding remembering Amalek, so how does that fit with the command to blot out the memory of Amalek? It seems to me that the word “memory,” in its literal meaning, just as in modern Hebrew actually, means a part. That is, to blot out the memory of Amalek means not to leave any part of him, not to leave any part of him among us, yes, on this earth. Even the flock and cattle, what Rashi writes, anything that the name Amalek is attached to. Meaning that the concept of memory here is not speaking at all on the mental plane. It’s not about remembering things; it’s about a remnant or a trace of the thing itself. That’s called a memorial of the thing. Why is it used with the same root as remembering, like the mental act of remembering? It seems to me that perhaps the intention is that to remember means that something of the person or the event—or whatever it is that one remembers—we actually bring it back here through memory. If we look at a person not as a collection of cells or molecules, but as something composed, of course, of soul and body, ideas, aspirations, values, plans, thoughts—that too is really part of the person, perhaps even the main part of the person—then to leave something of those things with us by means of memory is in the end really to leave something of the person here. And so it seems to me that the value people see in memory—for most explanations see memory more as a need than as a value—but here there may be an explanation that shows the value in memory, and it is perhaps some derivative of the value of life. Just as I’m supposed to care that a person remain alive, to save a person from dying, yes, to care for the prolonging of a person’s life as much as possible, in the same way I’m supposed to keep him alive also in more abstract senses perhaps. And therefore memory, insofar as it leaves something of the person being remembered among us or in life, is really a derivative of the value of life. It may be that this is actually the common meaning of the value we see in all memories of all types—family members, friends, fallen soldiers, victims of terror, Holocaust victims, it doesn’t matter, people who died of any kind. First of all, by remembering them we leave something of them here. And again, I’m not speaking in the metaphorical, pathetic senses one usually hears in these days, but about things as they actually are, in their plain sense. I’m describing reality. This is an ontic claim, a metaphysical claim, not a metaphorical claim. And so it may be that this gathers or unifies all memories under one roof. After that, of course, there are all the additional explanations, each of which can explain some of the things, and all of them are correct, but I think they do not capture the most basic common denominator, and perhaps this way we can give it some kind of meaning. By the way, the remembrances that we are commanded about in Jewish law, the remembrances—what are called the ‘rememberings,’ remembering the deed of Miriam, remembering Amalek, all kinds of such remembrances—they all seem to me to be remembrances whose foundation is drawing some lesson. We remember the deed of Miriam in order not to speak evil speech, to understand the meaning of it; remembering Amalek, and so on—each of them has some lesson for which the memory is intended. I think the memory I’m speaking about here is much deeper down, much more basic than those memories, which are instrumental memories, memories that have some goal, some result. There is here a kind of memory that people seem to feel obligated toward even if they have no connection to Jewish law or Torah or anything like that. Everyone feels in some way that there is value in memory, and it may be that the basis of this is really the value of life. Maybe I’ll still use my microphone—up to here—and use my microphone to begin perhaps with the memories. Shai, is that okay? Or do you have something else first? Okay, then I’ll begin. Wait, in a second I’ll just make sure the microphones are under your control.

[Speaker W] That’s it, he can’t answer you.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] No, no, he can, because the microphones are under your control. So I’ll begin maybe—I’ll say a thing or two about Rami. First of all, when we arrived at the Midrashiyah at the beginning of ninth grade, somehow, somehow I met Rami and pretty quickly I understood that there was something different here. And I say this as I reconstruct memories from back then; I’m not saying it just for rhetorical flourish after he died. This accompanied me all along the way, and we had a very close relationship over the years. He was much more mature, first of all—certainly than me, but it seems to me than most of us. He always presented positions that were unpopular, and whenever everyone was all fired up and leaning right, he would immediately say, wait, wait, wait, there are other sides too. Who told you? Maybe actually there’s this side or that side. And I always got terribly annoyed with him, but I could never really produce arguments. Usually you get annoyed when you don’t have arguments. And somehow the feeling was always that he was some kind of responsible adult in a certain sense—not in every sense, but in a certain sense he really was, all along the way, also in Gush, later too. Somehow I felt he was older. I always saw him as someone who raised sides of things that I, as some kind of young rascal, didn’t think about. Maybe one more point about Rami: my last meeting with him was before I went to the officers’ preparatory course. I left the yeshivah in Gush, went to the officers’ prep course, came to Kiryat Yam, yes, Henrietta Szold, and we sat there and he was already a platoon commander, and he said to me, listen, I’ve got a trainee named Hakak—I still remember him—and this trainee is now going to the officers’ prep course, he’ll probably be with you. We were apparently supposed to be in the same course. Keep an eye on him. He’s a problematic guy, but I nurtured him, sort of tried to keep him somehow on track. I managed to bring him all the way to the officers’ prep course. Do me a favor, try to keep an eye on him and make sure he finishes too. Now again, I’m a trainee, how do I know where he’ll end up, what’s the connection, I have no control. He ended up in my team. When we got to the course he ended up in my team, really a problematic guy. They attached him there to stones the size of this building, the guy suffered terribly, he was dismissed from the course. I tried, sort of, but he was dismissed from the course. Later he came back to a second course, passed that course—I was already out gardening by then—he passed that course, and I have no idea where he is today. But it seems to me this is one story that shows how the right commander, with the right personality, in the right place in the army, can sometimes change a person’s life. I wouldn’t be surprised—I have no idea what became of him later—but I wouldn’t be surprised if that guy owed quite a lot of the rest of his life to that supervision that accompanied him at the beginning, that supervision of Rami’s that accompanied him at the beginning and brought him all the way to the stage of command. After all, command also does something to people, and somehow there’s some chance—I really don’t know how much it was ultimately realized—that something really came of him. Okay, I have memories of others too, but I’ll leave it to you to speak, so that’s it for now.

[Speaker H] Okay, so just so we stay organized and not everyone jump in, we’ll begin for a moment with the families, each of whom will speak, and afterward we’ll move on to the friends and everyone can add a story or memories that they have. So let’s begin with the oldest among us here, Bina. If you can, if you want to say a few words—I understand you’re the oldest here in the audience—we’ll give you the honor of starting and you can tell us whatever you’d like to share with us on this day.

[Speaker U] Thank you. I have to say that I went over the names and looked for names. I really know some of your names. There’s Morgenshtern and Bar and well, with Lenny there’s no need to say anything. Hillel. They were in my awareness in those years, and I also saw some of you. I want to note one thing: the pride Yaakov had in being a Midrashiyah student. He decided to come to the Midrashiyah, if you don’t know, because his father was a graduate of Class 4. And he went to be tested in other yeshivot too, and they were willing to accept him, but he always said to me and to Aryeh—who by the way passed away exactly ten years ago today on Memorial Day—he always told us that he wanted the Midrashiyah, he wanted the Midrashiyah. And he was very proud to be a Midrashiyah student. It was something for him. And he especially loved the fact that he left the bubble of Bnei Brak and came to a place where the Jewish people are there, from all kinds and all types and all communities and all cities and all sorts of places, and that’s it, that’s all I have to say for now.

[Speaker H] Okay. Michal, Yael, do you want to say something? No? Okay. Uzi, turn on the microphone and maybe start, and we’ll see if someone else from the Buchris family wants to join in.

[Speaker E] Okay, first of all I want to begin by praising the host institution—not Zoom, but whoever organized this. I understand it was Miki, Shai, I don’t know exactly who else took part in it.

[Speaker H] Everyone took part, everyone, thank God.

[Speaker E] Thank you very much for the opportunity. Look, I’ll open with a few short words, with your permission. When Rami fell, that disaster caught us, family-wise as well, in a really very, very difficult situation. My father already had serious heart disease—really not simple at all—he had a heart attack at age thirty-seven, my mother after brain surgery, and one daughter, and we found ourselves in a reality where we also had to cope with the bereavement and the pain. And today, in hindsight, I can say that at least I consciously chose, in a certain sense, for the senior responsibility to fall on me, since Rami was the firstborn within the three families, of both grandfathers and of ours, and someone had to take responsibility for the story. And for many years we dealt with survival, too little with commemoration, or maybe not with commemoration at all. And when Miki told me maybe we should suggest this, I was happy, because I myself almost never spoke with my children. It’s hard for me to speak about Rami even now, by the way. And in this situation, where it’s possible to tell a little bit, and I feel we’re missing that, I’m very, very glad for this opportunity. I can say to you that I know almost all the names here from Rami’s stories. It’s just amazing. I don’t know—it’s obviously not connected at all to what happened afterward, because the really close friends, the ones who continued with him to Gush, I really identified and knew, even when they came to the shivah—but I know a lot of names here from the stories he told. I understand that he had some sort of very social quality, that he really knew people, really told stories, really shared. I can say that he had very high abilities because he was the first one who taught me a page of Talmud before a test, and he also really didn’t understand why I was struggling in physics. But I don’t really remember or know how to say today, from his past, exactly what the points are where I can point and describe Rami. In a certain sense I even blurred his image a little in order to deal with life itself, with the complicated life, which of course was mainly around the story of father, who passed away seventeen years later. That’s it for now, we’ll see later on.

[Speaker H] Anyone else from the Buchris family who wants to speak? A cousin, another brother, a nephew? Okay. We’ll move on to the Landau family. Is someone with us who wants to speak, can speak? Menachem, Dudu. Okay, I’m not getting a response right now, but if someone wants to or sends a message in the chat we’ll see and if so—wait. Okay. So with your permission I’ll say a few words about each of them and then we’ll continue. So let’s begin in alphabetical order with Rami Buchris, so we’ll begin with Rami. As Miki noted, when you arrive in ninth grade, about a hundred guys from all over the country, as Bina mentioned, sometimes there were two or three from the same place or who knew each other or had studied in the same school before, but most were really on their own. And immediately, after a short time, people stand out, each one with his own qualities one way or another. And Rami stood out very much in his seriousness, as Miki noted, or in his maturity. But he was also willing to take part in mischief sometimes, only he always drew the line: under no circumstances in things that were excessive. He said no, in that I’m not willing to take part. And in other things that he thought were reasonable, he joined in. As Uzi said, he helped everyone. Anyone who ever approached him on any subject where he knew he could help, whether in studies or socially, he would always help, always smiling, always happy and with a warm face. And for those who remember, maybe from the guys in his branch and his friends and our guys—Rami loved to play basketball, if you remember. He was also relatively tall compared to all of us, or among the taller ones at least. And he loved to play, and whoever remembers his layup and shooting to the basket—he had this special movement of Rami’s that not everyone could stop, and he also had this particular face he would make. I can’t imitate it, but all of you surely remember it. He was on the team, the class team. Whenever we played between classes or between year groups, he was always among the leaders of the team. And Uzi, you don’t remember, but many of us really did come to visit during the shivah, but of course that was a time when there were surely dozens and hundreds of people and you can’t absorb everything. But I remember that one of the things about Rami was that he always honored his father and mother, his parents, very much. Your father was an impressive man in any case, a truly outstanding person, but regardless of that, I remember Rami always saying: my parents need to come, or I need to do something for my father, I need to do this. I always remember the sensitivity and the respect and the desire to involve him in things that happened, or when they came to visit at events, or at what were called parents’ meetings and things of that sort. I always remember that he always spoke with us, the friends, pleasantly, took interest in each and every one of us—who he was, where he was from, his family, and so on. So it was always an experience to meet father, and also the few times we came to visit in Netzer Sereni before, God forbid, before the tragedy, there was very impressive hospitality in the house, both from father and from mother, toward the friends. We’ll move on to Hovav, under lamed. Hovav, as all of you knew too, was also a smiling, cheerful guy who loved helping everybody. The truth is that this was a common thread in Rami, Hovav, and Kobi Yaakov—everyone were people of giving, people of volunteering, people who even while studying in the fairly demanding eleventh and twelfth grades found time to volunteer in the community in Pardes Hanna, Or Akiva, Karkur, and the surrounding area. And also each one in his own place, at home or in his surroundings. And Hovav always—I mean, I hardly have any picture of him being serious. He was always with a smile on his face, always happy, wanting to help, always coming and asking where, what, where can I contribute here. And later too in military service, I had the privilege of being with him, and he too—as a soldier, with all the difficulties each of us experienced—would always lend a shoulder and so on. I didn’t serve with Rami because he enlisted half a year before me and I was a year later. And in fact the connection with the Landau family was also maintained all these years afterward. It happened that Dudu, his older brother, who runs many trips and events in the Land of Israel, so a connection was created and maintained over the years. And also with Fa’era and the children. Kobi—I’m moving to Kobi, Kobi Zimmerman. So Kobi too—I constantly have a picture of Kobi in the Midrashiyah, if anyone remembers, standing by the public phone in the classroom building there near the entrance to the administration and talking. At first he’d speak Hebrew and then suddenly switch to English. I didn’t understand why he was speaking English, at least in the first weeks. Only later did I understand that he was talking to his mother, and he preferred to speak with her in English even though Bina knows Hebrew well; he preferred, probably because she had taught him over the years so that he would have good English. And his speech too was always gentle and always in a pleasant voice, and you never saw Kobi angry or yelling at someone or anything like that. He too was always smiling and wanting to contribute and wanting to give of his time and wanting to help, in any matter, whether personal or academic. Sadly, when Kobi was injured and killed near Abraham—Beit Avraham Avinu there, at the Cave, not far from the Cave of Machpelah—a few weeks later my eldest daughter was born. And my wife, who gave birth, stayed in the hospital with some of the wounded from the attack, among them—you didn’t know him—but someone I knew as a child, a young man named Reuven Busokovsky, today called Yerahmiel Elyashiv, who stayed with us and told us some of the experiences he had after the attack. And to this day, when we meet and stay in touch, every time it comes up. He also knew Yaakov, and he told me about him as a yeshivah student in Kiryat Arba—how he was, again, always influencing the guys, always that way. So the memories from every place, whether from when we were together or from other places, were always pleasant and impressive, that people felt the loss very deeply. That’s what I had to say now. If someone else first of all from the Landau family joined and wants to say a few words? I don’t hear, Lenny, so maybe you’ll say a few words?

[Speaker T] I’m ready, my brothers.

[Speaker R] Okay, I’m Lenny Sapir from the class. First of all, we knew everybody. We all knew everybody. It’s just that this class—maybe all classes are like that—but we really knew everyone, everyone. There were circles and more circles and more circles, and we were constantly meeting in all those circles. Our class in general was a very, very active one, very volunteer-oriented. We volunteered in lots and lots of places, which wasn’t the case in the classes before us and also didn’t continue in the classes after us. We were at Akim, we were at Beit HaTaf, we were at Kibbutz Gilgal, at the branch in Karkur that Shai started with the guys, we were in Pardes Hanna, we traveled, we used to do Sabbaths in Dalton—Dalton, meaning those same active guys, and there were a lot of them—we were constantly there. You’ll ask when we studied; I don’t know, because I’m not one of those who studied a lot, but I don’t know, maybe there were some who also studied in between. I want to talk a little about Yaakov because even though with Hovav and also Rami we were very close, and everyone was close, as I said, I’m going to focus a bit on Yaakov, because I was very close, and still am, with the family. We’re very close. Yaakov came to the yeshiva high school, as Bina started to say, from the sheltered environment of Bnei Brak. He came to the yeshiva high school for the first time and landed among wild guys. Tough kids from development towns, Sephardim, Ashkenazim. Yaakov probably didn’t know—he didn’t—how could he? And Yaakov immediately connected very, very strongly with these friends, and really helped them a lot. I remember, he used to come to the rabbis, to the teachers, to the administration. Whenever there was a problem with some kid, and a kid caused trouble, or one of the guys in the class did something and was punished, he would always come to whoever had punished him, and I remember him saying, listen, he’s not—understand his background, you need to help him—always to help. Many times, if not most times, they would end up letting that student off. Yaakov really was that person, he really was. You remember, Yaakov went everywhere with a transistor radio. Back then that was a thing for us. At the yeshiva high school, between the classrooms, on trips, on the way to activities, coming back from activities, he was always with that transistor radio. Bina told me today, before we spoke earlier, that some uncle—because she came from the United States—bought it for him as a gift and he was very excited about it. Yaakov knew all the English songs, the Beatles, and he would sing and teach the guys in the class all the songs. I really—I mean, we were active everywhere, Akiva and all those places, but Yaakov and I and two other friends were at Beit HaTaf. Beit HaTaf was for broken families, and there were so many guys—I don’t want to mention names—but really all the guys passed through and helped in all sorts of places. And we were the counselors, Yaakov and I. And you had to see the love he had for those children too, children from broken homes he didn’t even know, and the love he gave them, helping with homework, and they would jump all over him. He was—Yaakov was a large man—and ten of them would jump on him and hug him and love him, and he really devoted himself to those children for a very, very long time. And it came at the expense of his studies and tests; the giving was just amazing, amazing. How a person who comes from a certain background just— and we know it wasn’t easy. I want to finish with the army. We continued, we got to basic training, all the guys met again, all of us in the hesder program met again in basic training. And we got to Nitzanim, most of us remember, we got to Nitzanim, and I was in his company even though I was in a different yeshiva. And we were in scout tents. Now Yaakov and I—they assigned each of us a partner, and naturally Yaakov and I were put together in a scout tent. It’s a shame, I have the picture here, but never mind—Yaakov and I, and he was about four times my size, roughly, and the two of us getting into a scout tent was something. So I said, fine, I’ll take a quarter and he’ll take three quarters, and I can manage in a quarter, no problem. Yaakov? No. Yaakov drew a line in the middle on the sand and said, up to here, I don’t cross, I stay on the line—and he really kept it. Yaakov comes to basic training—while all of us had sleeping bags, he takes out a mattress and a blanket and a sheet. That’s how the class knew Yaakov. Yaakov was always neat, always combed. Notice in the pictures from trips—I don’t know if Shai uploaded the pictures—you’ll always see all of us disheveled and everything, and he’s always neat, dressed properly; when you look at the pictures, you can tell who Yaakov is. And order mattered to him and everything. We’d come back from marches—Miki probably also would go straight to sleep without showering, because Miki and I were in the same room for many, many months. So there were people who would always just go in—he wouldn’t let me. We were exhausted. I said, leave it, Yaakov, let me go to sleep, leave it, I’ll shower tomorrow. No, you’re not coming into the tent. He literally turned the tent into a five-star hotel, and I remember he would make the effort to light a candle and wanted to read at night before going to sleep. He thought he was at home, I don’t know—basic training, after a full day, he lit a candle and we’d read.

[Speaker H] Does anyone else want to speak, tell something, share?

[Speaker W] Yes, since Lenny mentioned Yaakov’s orderliness and cleanliness, I want to tell one small episode. As remembered, Yaakov volunteered with various populations also in Pardes Hanna, and especially they mentioned Beit HaTaf. And one time, God forbid, he got lice. The children there were running around, and apparently that happened to him, and he was really shaken by the whole thing—that it could happen to him, with everything we’ve just described and Lenny described—how could it be? And I’m sure Bina knows this, that he simply—he was in a real crisis. And I don’t want to go into more detail, partly because of time, but he really took it to heart. And there was some conflict here between his devotion to those unfortunate children and the fact that it struck at what we called his order and cleanliness. But when I later came to visit Bina and Arieh and the sisters, I understood where it came from. Such a home, where everything there—that whole English thing—was so deeply rooted there. One of the things I take with me is really the fact that at the yeshiva high school there were study partnerships not just for Talmud, also for secular subjects, for math. And we studied—it worked out that we were study partners for the math exam. I got to visit that home more than once, and I have only good memories of the way I was treated there by the parents. I think Bina will probably confirm it too—I learned how to make rice with—I learned there at home some kind of menu item, some recipe like that. Those are things that stayed with me. And one more small thing, just briefly: I think I also had a part in Yaakov’s decision to continue on to Kiryat Arba. True, I went to Gush and he went to Kiryat Arba, and in the end I also didn’t stay there all that long. But I also remember that point very clearly as part of Yaakov’s life path, of blessed memory. And the sorrow and longing and memory continue throughout all the years, and especially every Memorial Day. Thank you.

[Speaker H] Thank you, Moti, and thank you for sharing. Does anyone else want to tell something, share?

[Speaker C] Yes, if I may say something brief—Golan here, Rami’s brother speaking. Can you hear me? Yes, sit. Me and talking—even though I work as a lawyer—me and talking are not something that connects so well, certainly not in a forum like this and certainly not in a group like this. But I thought maybe the time has come. On this subject, actually I’m not going to speak about my brother; I’m going to speak about bereavement, from that angle of bereavement. I always—it always, I don’t know why, but at these Memorial Day ceremonies I was always a little embarrassed. They even amused me a little. I never understood all the lofty words. It seemed forced to me, I don’t know, I always had a hard time with it, certainly once my nephews entered the picture and the Zionism really got going—still today, by the way—because sometimes this meeting at the cemetery creates funny situations with all that. But I always had trouble with this subject, hearing all the pathos and all the lofty talk, and it was something that was very hard for me on a personal level. And this was also at the beginning of the way—at the beginning, bereavement is also something that obligates you all the time. I remember—I’ll tell something humorous—but when I was a mess as a kid in the prep year of the yeshiva high school, and every time I did something bad, say they’d let it go and say, you’re a bereaved brother and all that. So when it was within the framework of the prep year and things like that, I said okay, fine. But when I’d be fighting with someone and God forbid it would get to other things, and he’d say to me, okay, fine, you’re a bereaved brother, they’ll let you off—I’d say right, and then I’d hit him again, because that situation really bothered me, really bothered me, that they put me in this category of bereaved brother. Now, for those who don’t know, I’m from home—I mean, I can’t describe the pressure, but I can say about myself that I’m a very sensitive person, to put it mildly, and this issue of bereavement, of my brother, is something that has run with me all these years of course, in one way or another, certainly in connection with our parents, because really you had to be careful and you had to protect their health, and it was a situation, as Uzi said, that Rami’s passing, his death, came at a very difficult time, and these are things that really, really, really shake you up. But of course with time, and a lot of help from all kinds of good people, you really settle into some kind of rhythm, into some kind of rhythm of life, and you put it all the time into some drawer that of course opens from time to time, things that keep opening from time to time. And that’s it, that’s what I have to say.

[Speaker H] Okay. By the way, I want to add to what you mentioned, and also to this—first of all, in a few days it will be forty years since Yaakov’s death, who was the first of our fallen among us. There was also Gabriel Kapach who drowned on one of our trips, but from our class—hopefully there won’t be any more. In any case, today we have the perspective of forty years. As Yael noted, there are two Kobis named after Yaakov, and at least one Kobi I know of—maybe both already—has children, so that’s—

[Speaker V] Both of them have children, both of them have children, thank God, they’re both already grown men.

[Speaker H] Yes. By the way, I know Michal because we were neighbors in the same neighborhood, in the same city, in Ma’ale Adumim, and Kobi was with my children, so these are things that, how shall I say, get tied and interwoven with one another over the years. Just as an aside, Arieh, his father, was a tenant with my father in Tel Aviv in Neve Sha’anan, so that already goes back several generations. But that probably happens here with others too, in all kinds of different situations, this web. And that’s why I say, I’ve been a few times at memorial services there, and really you see the children and the grandchildren and the family who come to the cemetery, little children sometimes five, six, seven, ten years old, not knowing what to do with themselves—really funny situations arise. On the one hand maybe it’s sad or not appropriate to the occasion, supposedly, but on the other hand you say this is really the continuation, whether it’s a direct descendant or a descendant through siblings, and in that way it preserves the memory, as was mentioned, that something remains. Thank God, not just something but a great deal, because each one of them succeeded and contributed to his family and to us, and everyone who remembers something really preserves something of that person. Is there anyone else who wants to add?

[Speaker K] I’ll say a few words after all. Eitan Cabel. I of course knew all three of them very closely, Hovav and Rami, but if I try to make an internal ranking, of course I knew Rami extremely well, he helped me not a little, but Yaakov and I were very, very close friends. Out of four years, I think, for three years we lived in the same room, and everything you say about him and more. He decided that, as you know, he was my big brother—and he was big, and I’m this little guy—and exactly the opposite of him except for orderliness, because I was organized and pedantic no less than he was, completely. I remember, one memory of him that is deeply engraved in me is the matter of—at some point he decided, I’m growing a beard now, that’s it, I have to remove the first little down of hair. And I say to him, give me a little more time, there’s barely anything there. No, it’s ugly. I remember the moment when he took it upon himself and shaved me with an electric razor. He was orderly. News time—speaking of what you said, Lenny, about the transistor radio he carried from place to place—and every hour on the hour, if you wanted to know what time it was, you knew, because it was news time and we all had to be quiet because he needed to listen to the news. Really, I was very connected within the class, and to this day I’m still in touch with quite a few people, but Yaakov really, if I have to define the five people I was very close to, there’s no doubt Yaakov is in that top five, he was part of my life. Completely, completely. At almost every stage in the yeshiva high school. I loved him very much. He loved me very much. We were very connected as friends. Truly, his loss is something that again, out of everything I’ve experienced in my life—I just finished a Zoom in another group for Ofer Shternberg, of blessed memory, who was a year below us and also a graduate of the yeshiva high school, and he too is part of the strong memory I have there in the paratroopers. And here, among all the bereavement I’ve experienced over all the years of my life, there’s no doubt that here too, sadly, Yaakov is in the top five of people I knew so closely, where it mattered to him to be in my life and it mattered to me to be in his life. And that’s true. He was easy for me; his pedantry and orderliness suited my character very, very well too. I admit his loss was great for me. Arieh, of blessed memory, his father—I got to reconnect with him at a certain stage when I came to the Ministry of Agriculture, and he worked not far from Arania Street in Kaplan, at the Farmers’ Association building, and we got to meet there many times. There’s more, much more. I don’t want to take up the time because I have another Zoom I unfortunately need to move on to. So you can, as you all know, spend a whole evening telling stories about these three, these three guys. May their memory be blessed.

[Speaker H] Thank you, Itai. I—

[Speaker S] I’ll add a word.

[Speaker H] Shai, please, Meir.

[Speaker S] I actually want to add something about Rami and what you said earlier. The quality of the yeshiva high school was that we also knew the families, their parents. And beyond the acquaintance I had with Rami in the yeshiva high school and later in the army, in Gush, and in the end in officers’ course together—after his death I stayed in touch. I also later taught in teacher training, and I went to get help from his father, who was a school principal, and I even invited him—his father—to be a witness at my wedding ceremony. His father is signed as a witness on my ketubah. So I want to note as well that beyond the memory I have of Rami, there is also that memory, and that’s part of us. That’s it.

[Speaker D] Thank you, Meir. May I say something? Please, Hillel. Hello. First of all, it’s great to see everyone. There are many stories, but I remember—I think it was in Petachim—Rami and I were together in the same room for two or three years, and after that also in Gush. We were study partners together in Gush, we were in officers’ course together with Meir and a few others. About the yeshiva high school, I maybe want to say one thing. Rami and I always—I think this was already under Arieh Igdal, and after that I don’t remember if it was Green too—we used to have to help all kinds of guys who maybe had a hard time socially. And then Weder arrived from Austria, if anyone remembers him. They put him in my and Rami’s room, and he arrived, and that was his home. He had no other home, our room. So Rami and I somehow helped him at the yeshiva high school, because he was a bit scattered and didn’t know the mentality, so we protected him a little and mediated reality for him a little. But I think the one who did something really important was Hovav, and I think maybe he was also in the room, but I’m not sure. Every free Sabbath, Hovav took him home and hosted him, and that was something I certainly very, very appreciated and valued, and that went on for a very long time. Hovav Landau’s home was his home on Sabbaths. It wasn’t something very well known, but I remember it. Maybe just one more sentence also in connection with Rami, who was always very prominent and a leader everywhere. We were together in the army too, as I said. Here he was always the student committee or the workers’ committee. We would arrive, and the first thing was Rami and someone else going up to the company commander for a conditions-alignment talk. When do we pray, when is there a break, when do we make arrangements so our matters will work out properly. And really Rami, especially I think during the officers’ preparatory course, mediated the whole environment for us so that we got along with everyone and there weren’t any problems, so we could get along well with all the broader public around us. We were a pretty exact minyan, pretty small, and he helped us arrange everything, and it was like that everywhere. As for Yaakov, as the stories said about him, I do remember Yaakov in one special anecdote—that we went together for a weekend in Alon Shevut. And the Alon Shevut of those days—it wasn’t an ordinary settlement, but we were yeshiva high school guys. But Yaakov was especially there with his elegant closed English coat, he had a neat umbrella, and he would walk like that like some Englishman in the middle of a street in London. And that was always a kind of pretty funny scene, that he and I walked together like that. I don’t remember exactly the order, but Yaakov was Yaakov. And later, when he was in Kiryat Arba, that too—he always stood out in the landscape, because Kiryat Arba was also a certain kind of Kiryat Arba. And truly we remember them all, and may we merit joyful occasions and good news.

[Speaker H] We have a few more minutes, at least according to what we set. We can stay a little longer for anyone who can, but does anyone else want to say a few words?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Maybe just a few more things, if not—unless someone else wants to. First, Ephraim, Rami’s father from the southern Golan, was mentioned here. I had already heard a lot about him at the yeshiva high school, also from Rami, and afterward he also always came with my father to the yeshiva high school, and sometimes they found Rami there; me, usually not. They would come there together. But my real connection with him, and when I understood the meaning of all the stories, was after Rami died, fell. When I kind of entered a little more into contact with the family, I have to say that he truly was an extraordinary figure in my life. Meaning, the connection I have with the family today is more thanks to Ephraim than thanks to Rami. He was a very central figure for me. I think there was a certain period when I had various thoughts about changing my path and changing direction, and the main figure standing before my eyes was Ephraim. Meaning, what would I say to Ephraim if I decided to change direction? And really, in a great many ways I got to know him after Rami died, and he truly was an amazing figure. Looking back now from a more mature perspective, I understand a little how Rami got to where he got. There was something, like I described earlier—and I have many more stories about that, but I don’t want to wear everyone out with all of it—there was something he got at home. I once met Buzaglo from the Masorti movement, from the Hebrew University, on a panel at the National Library. He was a student of Ephraim’s and also some kind of friend of Rami’s, roughly our age. When I met Buzaglo there on the panel, we talked a bit, and I told him I had been a friend of Rami’s and somewhat close to Ephraim, and he nearly fell on the floor from admiration. I mean for both of them, but mainly for Ephraim. Truly it was a very special home in my eyes, and the connection I managed to maintain with that home was entirely for me. I mean, it wasn’t at all because of some sentiment, some feeling of obligation or something like that. I feel it was almost, in certain senses—not in terms of time spent, but in the essential sense—almost a second home for me. And therefore I think Ephraim was mentioned here, and it’s hard to separate that from how Rami turned out, so it seems to me only proper to mention it too. And regarding Hovav, I really just remember, first of all, the eternal smile, which was already mentioned. Beyond that, he was some kind of Bnei Akiva type, an eternal counselor, who wasn’t even embarrassed to talk about those things. We usually died laughing cynically when people talked that way. We did some things, we were idealists like all little kids, but we didn’t talk about it. It wasn’t really something you could talk about. It felt a little pathetic, a little uncomfortable. But with Hovav, yes—Yoske Shapira was, I think, his uncle, something like that, I think. So somehow it was that kind of Bnei Akiva home, and Hovav really remains in my memory as that sort of figure, some counselor with those sandals, a classic Bnei Akiva counselor, who kept talking about the things we did and thought about and were a little embarrassed to talk about. And Yaakov, of course, has already been mentioned—that gentleman, and I had no idea what he was doing in our class. I said: what is someone like that doing in this class? How did he suddenly land there with all the guys from every direction? Because Itzik Binyamin, who was so connected to him, was really like his son, and the guys from Husam of course—no need to mention—it was all connected. He was simply flesh of their flesh. If I’d had to bet in advance what this Jew would do there, I’d have said this guy would be spit out after three days. What was he even looking for there, that gentleman with the umbrella and the transistor radio? But no. And I was also at his home; we had some idea with Sadan toward twelfth grade, so I went once to his house too and got to know things a little, but not really the home in depth. Truly unique figures. We could remember many more things, but maybe someone else wants to say something.

[Speaker U] May I ask a question? Please. I saw a name there, Alan. Is that the same Alan who was abroad with him, with Yaakov? Alan from where? This Alan?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Ala, Ala.

[Speaker H] Ala? Ala Yitzkovitch? Yitzkovitch from Belgium, from Brussels.

[Speaker U] English? There was one English one.

[Speaker H] There was also an English one. Alan Schneider.

[Speaker U] Alan Schneider from Britain, Schneider—Malchai.

[Speaker F] And there was also Grahmani.

[Speaker K] Yes, but Alan—I, Alan, yes, that’s Alan Schneider. He’s very active publicly and very Zionist.

[Speaker H] Yes, he lives in Jerusalem, he’s a lawyer.

[Speaker K] Yes, yes, I’m in touch with him.

[Speaker H] Yes, he’s in Motza. Originally I think he’s from Netanya, if I remember correctly. Thank you.

[Speaker R] That Alan—he’s a story in himself. He used to play, he drove us crazy. Do you remember what he played? That Alan played the violin. He drove the whole dorm crazy with that violin. Anyway, it doesn’t belong to the evening, but that was the big picture.

[Speaker X] Okay, I want to say something about Yaakov. First of all, every year on the Sabbath of Chayei Sarah I have the privilege of being hosted in Hebron, and most of the prayers we do, of course, in the Cave of the Patriarchs. Tzachi, we can’t hear you well. Can you hear me better now? A little. On Sabbath afternoon, on the Sabbath of Chayei Sarah, the afternoon prayer is fixed at the Beit Hadassah synagogue, in front of the curtain that Yaakov commemorated. And it always reminds me דווקא of two stories from after the yeshiva high school. One story is that Meni and I came to visit during basic training. We were still before our own basic training; we enlisted a month later, and we came to visit during basic training. And for me it was kind of a shock to see that this wasn’t exactly a Bnei Akiva camp; here they were abusing the guys. And we went in with them to eat dinner, and they had to stand first before they started eating—it was pretty rough treatment. It was amazing to see how Yaakov, in his own way, in his special quietness, simply really did not belong to the whole atmosphere of the basic training there. And the other thing that is very, very engraved in my mind is that the day after the murder, it was Friday night, and on Sunday morning I arrived at the squadron. I was then two months before the end of flight course, and I got to the squadron, went into the changing room to put on my flight suit, and in the changing room there was Yosef Ziv, from the squadron that carried out the evacuation of the wounded on Friday night. And he happened to be in the changing room too, and he said, “You know, I was scrambled on the Sabbath, and it was guys like you, religious guys like you.” That phrase, “guys like you, religious guys like you,” was etched in my head, and really then I understood that Yaakov was among them. Later I got the phone call saying Yaakov was among them, and Rami and Hanoch—they were really Yaakov’s friends—I was also in the room in Petachim, and they spoke a lot about how he was a model of order and cleanliness. Regarding Hovav, I wasn’t aware of it at the time; it only connected for me later. He fell on the night between Thursday and Friday in the first week of the Lebanon War. And on Friday I flew already—Friday at a relatively late hour, toward the Sabbath. I was scrambled to bring supplies. He fell in the Sultan Yaakov area, a little northeast of Lake Qaraoun, and I was scrambled to bring supplies to an area a bit more west of there, but north, really very close already to the Beirut-Damascus road, to a force that was there. I don’t think it was exactly Hovav’s force. Then we brought them supplies, and on the way back we took five dead soldiers in the belly of the aircraft. I don’t think—in retrospect, I don’t think Yaakov was among them; that was an earlier period. When I got with those dead soldiers to Machanaim, it was already close to the start of the Sabbath, and we also had to refuel and wanted to bring supplies. They told us, “If you can still make it before last light to bring supplies to the force in the area of Lake Qaraoun, then fine, but if you’re already entering full darkness then no,” because they were worried about missiles. And we wanted to use the few minutes we had before it became completely dark, and in that time we needed both to refuel and unload the five dead who were in the belly. The refueling truck was already waiting for us at the strip in Machanaim, and we refueled immediately, but the rabbinate team didn’t come to unload the dead. By the time they arrived, it already caused us some delay, and I was very angry with them because they thought—they didn’t digest that this was war, and that in war it isn’t more important to unload the dead than to preserve the Sabbath. But those are my memories connected with Hovav, so that’s how the connection to Hovav came together for me, even though Hovav wasn’t among them. That’s all.

[Speaker H] Okay, anyone else? We’ve already gone over time, but it’s interesting and fascinating and also moving to see everyone and hear everyone.

[Speaker N] Is anyone here from the Landau family? Is anyone from the Landau family with us and speaking?

[Speaker H] There’s some nephew, but they can’t really—they speak less.

[Speaker Q] About Rami I wanted to say one thing, a very interesting point. The family, after all, is a Djerban family. Can you hear me? We hear you, we hear you. It’s a Djerban family, and Rami—with everything Miki said, that he was a very, very intelligent man—he also had this point of simple faith, and his connection to Djerban Judaism and Djerban tradition was very strong in him. And when he got to know Rabbi Mazuz, he came and told me about Rabbi Mazuz from Bnei Brak, how the method and the Djerban way of learning were very, very deeply instilled in him. And by the way, Ephraim too, very much—I was very connected there, I spent a great deal of time at his house, we were there a lot, and he was also my school principal. There was also the—what?

[Speaker H] You were neighbors, as they say, yes.

[Speaker Q] Right, literally neighbors. And Djerban learning was very important to them. He said that in their home the Chayei Adam would arrive there, and the Maharsha would arrive there. They were very analytical in their learning. And for Rami that point was very, very important. It mattered a lot to him to restore and revive that Djerban tradition. He didn’t merit more than that, but it’s a very interesting point. And his simple faith, with all his powerful intellect—his faith was very simple and very connected, very rooted. That’s something I remember very strongly from all the many things we talked and discussed about. Yes. I met Uzi a few years ago in the military cemetery—it’s in the cemetery in Haifa—but it’s interesting to see Golan, really interesting to see Golan; we haven’t met in a long time. But with Uzi I met in the military cemetery when I came to my father’s grave, and that’s where we met.

[Speaker H] Anyone else? Miki, is this being recorded?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Yes, I’ll send the recording at the end, no problem.

[Speaker H] And we’ll send it both to the family and to the class group. Very good.

[Speaker U] Hello, thank you for inviting me.

[Speaker H] With pleasure, a pleasure if one can say that. Thank you, thank you, I listened. Thank you to the family, to everyone. Thank you very much to everyone who—

[Speaker Y] Goodbye. Thank you.

[Speaker H] May we meet at happy occasions.

[Speaker Y] Only at happy occasions, amen. Thank you, thank you.

[Speaker H] Happy Independence Day to everyone.

[Speaker F] Uzi, thank you very much, thank you very much, all the best.

[Speaker Y] Good tidings to everyone.

[Speaker H] Dani, how are you, Dani? We can’t hear you, unmute.

[Speaker Z] Thank God, I’m perfectly fine, yes. I had something to say, but I’m too emotional, so I can’t speak because of that today. But I enjoyed listening to you, and thank you very much for this gathering.

[Speaker F] Shlomo, Shlomo, how are you?

[Speaker H] Sitting quietly.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] We can’t hear you, you’re muted. Mute. I opened it for you.

[Speaker 27] There, now you can hear me. Yes, can hear, can hear. Of course, this is Shlomo Dafna. I also had a lot to say, especially since I spent many nights at Rami Bukhris’s house and also at Yaakov Zimmerman’s, but you know, with the whole event and everything, it’s not easy to speak. What you said about Rami’s father—blessed are you. Rami—he was an unbelievable personality, no doubt, no one like him. More power to you too, Miki, for the lessons on Ein Ayah.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Thank you. May we merit only—

[Speaker 27] to meet at happy occasions too.

[Speaker 28] With God’s help. Inshallah. It can also be not only at happy occasions.

[Speaker 29] Hi.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Rachel, hello, right, we can’t see you. Where are you?

[Speaker 29] Hi.

[Speaker 30] All this time I can see you, Dafna. How are you? Fine. Really, we should meet, we don’t need to wait for happy occasions. Exactly.

[Speaker 29] If only the State of Israel would let us move around, then gladly.

[Speaker 30] Exactly.

[Speaker 27] Shai said he allows you to Zoom, not to move. Yes. Miki and Shai, more power to you for all the organizing. Today it’s all so simple, a few mouse clicks and it works, you know. Yes, but to think of it and all that—very nice.

[Speaker H] Okay.

[Speaker N] Shlomo, where do you live today?

[Speaker H] Beit Shemesh.

[Speaker N] Beit Shemesh? Oh, nice.

[Speaker H] Just so you know, Shlomo’s son finished high school with my grandson. Well, not the oldest son, one of the younger ones, but still. Yes, yes.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] I’m about to finish with your great-grandson soon.

[Speaker H] My great-grandson not yet, but maybe you’ll get your professorship with him, we’ll see.

[Speaker 31] Rachel, I think one of your daughters participated in one of Miki’s Zoom lessons, right?

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] Yes, there was.

[Speaker 30] No, it was Shlomo who participated, he helped him.

[Rabbi Michael Abraham] We were also at your gathering. Yes, thank you very much, right. Okay. Okay. Haggai, how are you, Haggai? I’m closing the meeting, and may you all have a happy Independence Day.

[Speaker 29] Amen, amen.

[Speaker L] Thank you, Miki.

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