Marriage

Shalom Rabbi Michi
First, I would like to point out that I am a longtime student of yours, but this is the first time I am asking/consulting – you/with you.
And hence to the subject that is close to my heart
I have been happily married for several years.
But sometimes the question arises in me to what extent I am obligated to consider my wife's opinion on matters.
that are not directly related to her, although she tries to influence my decisions, such as: place of work, social circle, leisure activities, etc. (for example: I sometimes meet with friends to drink Yisrael or smoke a little weed (in a way that by all accounts does not harm my health) which is not to her liking)
When she reacts with regret to my decision, do I have a duty to invest effort in pleasing her or more?
To reach a negotiation and compromise, or is this not the man's duty to his wife from a moral (and ethical) perspective?
I will state that I love her very much and am devoted to her and my family with all my heart and soul.
 
Thanks in advance.
Ariel