Gay Choice

Question for Rabbi Michael
If we believe in free choice, then why assume that we can't do it? Of course, we can do it, at least theoretically, even if we fail time and time again.
And I don't think it's any harder for a gay man than for any other man who is asked to maintain contact, to save his sperm for nothing, and not to sleep with Gentiles and free women, and there's no end to the conversation, because everyone has difficult things, depending on their circumstances, etc. Therefore, it's not right to find a permit for gay men, like for an adolescent, we say don't watch pornographic content even though it's difficult for him, so we also tell gay men not to go with the male.
(I'm asking this following your response to a question)