Q&A: Assisting in a Transgression
Assisting in a Transgression
Question
Hello and blessings, Rabbi.
We want to go on a family vacation.
My question is this: my daughter has a boyfriend; they are not married. Am I allowed to book them a room in the hotel where we are staying?
On the one hand, perhaps this is assisting in a transgression; on the other hand, I don’t want her not to come at all. I know that if I don’t agree to her boyfriend coming, she won’t come on the family vacation and will be hurt by it.
What does the Rabbi suggest doing? Thank you.
Answer
In my opinion, it’s permissible. They conduct themselves as they do even without you, and they are the ones who are supposed to decide what they do. You just want them with you on the vacation.
Seemingly, you could book two separate rooms for them, but if they will stay together anyway, then you’re just throwing away money. Therefore, in my opinion, from the outset you may book only one room.
And what if she violates the Sabbath in the room you booked? That’s her decision.