Q&A: My son: what should I encourage him to invest in?
My son: what should I encourage him to invest in?
Question
By God’s grace, I have been blessed with an exceptionally gifted son.
His academic achievements (and social ones) are, thank God, excellent.
In Jewish law, in sports, in the Hebrew Bible, in science, in English, in history, in mathematics, and in every field studied in the Talmud Torah and beyond.
On Sabbaths I learn Talmud, Tosafot, and commentaries with him, and I truly rejoice in the gift that the Holy One, blessed be He, has given me.
- But every Sabbath I find myself in doubt and don’t know how to decide.
His rabbi (a highly respected Torah scholar, in a community with many yeshiva heads, rabbinical judges, and senior yeshiva lecturers) praises him in truly extravagant terms and claims that based on his talents, sharpness, and diligence, he may become one of the next generation’s great Torah leaders.
But I look around me and see many Torah scholars, some of them truly impressive in their knowledge of Torah and more, and almost all of them, in my understanding, are bringing actual destruction upon the nation.
They really are those thugs from the end of the Second Temple period.
They support a man charged with bribery, fraud, and breach of trust.
Their eyes are plastered over so they cannot see the destruction and division he is bringing upon the nation; they can’t see a meter ahead, trapped in strange conceptions about the facts, etc.
The Torah scholars who are not like this are a minority.
Statistically, if I encourage him and steer him toward Torah excellence, he will probably become unhinged in matters of the world and the nation, like most Torah scholars.
I assume that if he is directed to invest in other tracks, statistically he will turn out healthy, upright, and normal.
Should I give up on his Torah future?
(Assuming reasonably that one can have both, but at home an emphasis has to be chosen.)
I am asking with a heavy but sincere heart.
I would be happy for a detailed answer if possible, and I assume I am not the only one at this crossroads regarding Torah investment—whether it does, or whether in light of the results and character traits it would be better to turn to other avenues.
Answer
Heaven forbid. Direct him to study Torah, and try to influence him to hold normal outlooks. Preventing him from learning would be throwing out the baby with the bathwater. It would be judging him based on what he might become in the end.