On repentance

I have an issue that has been bothering me for a while, maybe you can help me. I will tell you about two cases that reflect the problem.
I have a friend who was lightly religious and eventually became completely secular, then at some point he decided to strengthen himself or repent – and there was a comeback. National religious. The thing is that he is very, very materialistic and in this world he has a lot of criticism of Torah followers (even national religious Torah followers) He lives in a national religious community that has a Heder yeshiva and most of the conversation revolves around the yeshiva and the Torah, and this bothers him, and he said It would be appropriate for him to live in a community of economists and lawyers because what is happening around him is exaggerated. His wife several times while I was at their house She complained and encouraged him to go to the rabbis for Torah lessons, etc., but he was a bit indifferent to it and once I was at his place, he made me a miracle coffee. And he offered a time-out package and said, "But this is the good life, this is how I like my life." A friend of Nasuf was secular and converted to Islam. And he married a strong religious woman. But he also has difficulty with Torah scholars and yeshiva students (religious nationalists and, to be sure, ultra-Orthodox ones). He still prefers to teach (he is a teacher) in secular schools because he feels safer there. He is critical of yeshiva students and religious rabbis who are not sufficiently connected to Hashem, reading the Gemara all day long, and who leave the yeshiva without knowing how to find the word Hashem. In their lives, etc. What I don't understand is that both of them repented. One left completely and decided to return. The other repented. In both cases, they have strong women who want to be douchebags (I know this from my own friends who tell me and from all sorts of situations I've witnessed) and on the other hand, they have an aversion to people who are connected to the Torah, and they are very strongly connected to the materialistic world. And it seems they have more grievances in their hearts about people with a Torah connection. If it was someone who was born religious, I would still What to think, but for someone who decided to make a change and get closer to Hashem again, I can't understand how he gets to this point. I would love to hear what you think.