Q&A: Mixed Couple
Mixed Couple
Question
According to your approach, an atheist does not belong to the realm of the commandments—so is there any possibility for a mixed religious-secular couple to exist? After all, even if she is willing to observe family purity, her immersions have no commandment-value.
Answer
It does not have the value of a commandment for her, but the immersion is still effective for her and she is not impure. Something similar applies to betrothal, which takes effect even if the couple are atheists. They make an agreement according to the law of Moses and Israel even though they do not believe that this is religiously binding. They do not have a commandment, but the betrothal takes effect.
Immersion for terumah and sacrificial holy foods requires intent, and there certainly an atheist’s immersion would not be effective.
Discussion on Answer
If anything, it makes more sense that she is not impure to begin with, like a gentile woman. According to many halakhic decisors, she too is considered like a gentile as an apostate.
With God’s help, Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan 5780
To Aleph — greetings,
There is no halakhic decisor who exempts an apostate from the commandments. With regard to obligations that Jews must perform for “your brother” or “your fellow,” there is room to say that one is not obligated toward an apostate, but the apostate is not exempted from his own obligations. Thus, it is permitted to lend to an apostate with interest, but forbidden to borrow from him with interest, since he is bound by the prohibition of lending with interest just like any full Jew.
In any case, nowadays even someone who declares that he is an “atheist” is generally someone who never studied and never tasted the flavor of genuine faith, or who experienced severe crises that caused him to lose his faith, and he is considered inadvertent or coerced. Perhaps his commandment-act does not take effect because he lacks intent, and “one who is coerced is not regarded as one who acted,” but one who sins inadvertently is not considered an apostate.
With blessings, S.Tz.
An atheist is considered an apostate and is treated like a gentile in almost every respect. I don’t understand rabbis who go and marry such people off. According to Jewish law, one should lower him into a pit and not raise him out.