Question

Hello and blessings.
According to my understanding, the above problem begins with the fact that I feel a sense of failure precisely after the act that I regret, since the definition of failure is that I tried to do X and did not succeed in doing X. And then the dilemma pops up: either it was under compulsion, or I chose it—but in any case I did not fail.
But if from the outset we give up defining the feeling as failure, the problem does not begin. I am not denying the feeling/emotion that comes after the act; I am only trying perhaps to say that this is not a feeling of failure in the simple sense as defined above, but rather some other feeling of sadness/disappointment/regret, etc.
I would be happy to hear the Rabbi’s opinion on this direction as a solution to the problem.