Q&A: Between Him and Her
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Between Him and Her
Question
Is an intensive relationship that also includes deep emotional conversation, between a young man and a young woman who are not aiming for marriage (or for whom getting married soon is not practical), legitimate?
Both from a halakhic standpoint and from the standpoint of modesty/propriety (even if those are not necessarily strictly halakhic).
Answer
It does not seem to me that there is any halakhic or other problem with it, as long as it does not lead to sinful thoughts or actions.
Discussion on Answer
Or perhaps the young people may דווקא merit thoughts of a commandment — of the wedding canopy and betrothal according to the law of Moses and Israel.
Actions can be avoided.
Sinful thoughts? Um, it doesn't seem all that realistic to avoid that.