The degree of patience

Hello Rabbi,
In recent years I have been exposed to your writings and have learned quite a bit.
I'm still much less smart and talented than you and much less philosophically skilled (maybe when I get to your age I'll surpass you 🙂 ), and in debates/discussions with friends I notice that I get annoyed really quickly by arguments that I think are weak or that people don't understand what I'm saying and are condescending to me (I seem to represent the theistic position for the most part or your weak religious position or at least the parts where I was convinced). And I notice that you are turbo patient with questions and still answer the same answers to the same questions here on the site for years with amazing patience most of the time. How do you do it? How do you not get annoyed, for example, in a debate with Prof. Eilam Gross that I literally panted as if I had run a marathon when I heard what I said sounded like great arrogance on his part and with many examples with other people. (And even stranger is that I myself held such opinions not many years ago, so who am I to not be patient with them) What's the secret????