Question

The topic has been done to death—but still.
So many things have changed and evolved in how we observe Jewish law; our Sabbath observance, for example, with Sabbath timers and hot plates and who knows what else.
Unlike earlier generations, a young man and woman do not meet through their parents, finalize the match, and off they go to a wedding. This is a long process, during which we already want to lean our heads on each other, hug, and we know how to set boundaries for ourselves.
Avoiding physical contact has become something young people resent, not because it is so difficult, but because they do not believe in the rightness of the path. (Like what the Rabbi says about prayer—that people read pamphlets not because it is hard to concentrate, but because they do not believe in its power.)
I’ll put it as a question: if I have someone I’m dating, and avoiding physical contact only distances us from each other and is very frustrating, isn’t that similar to the desert-coat parable the Rabbi likes? After all, avoiding physical contact is meant to strengthen and preserve the family unit, but in practice, in a serious relationship, not touching casts a real shadow over the relationship.
I’ll add in closing that the Torah was not given to angels, and if the reality of finding a match as it is practiced today had existed in the time of the Sages, in my opinion there is no chance—simply no chance—that they would have imposed such a prohibition. In practice, this really is a decree the community cannot abide by, as shown by the flood of questions asked on this topic unlike any other area of Jewish law.
P.S. Sorry if this feels like a venting post, but there really is a question here too, and thank you very much for the response.