Question

The Rabbi often attacks the Haredi sector and its problematic approach: the arbitrary restrictions, the hiding of the truth, the rigidity, and so on. I strongly identify with some of these points, but one issue always bothers me: all things considered, doesn’t their approach work better? As a rule, aren’t the rates of people leaving religion dramatically lower than in the Religious Zionist public?
Wouldn’t you presumably argue that herd-like education is fundamentally wrong and that it is preferable to give a person choice, etc.? But I think the root of the matter lies in one’s general view of human beings.
That is, your perspective is that everyone is more or less like you—or at least that is how they ought to be: rational, analyzing claims, definitions, and so on in a cold, dry way, and on that basis forming their views and choices.

But the Haredi approach starts from the assumption that we live in a world in which people are drawn to temptations, and in many cases they “dress up” their opinions to fit the situation they are in. The fewer fences you place around them, the more they will naturally be drawn to things that, in many cases, even they themselves do not truly agree with deep down. What you might call an opinion shaped by one’s position.

If a person is raised in a brothel, he will presumably have a hard time keeping Torah and commandments… The starting conditions for observance are supposed to include certain boundaries, and in some cases they even require hiding facts and distancing people from the outside world. These are things that, on the face of it, sound detached and fanatical in themselves—but taken as a whole, they work better.
And when I say “work better,” I mean despite the lack of choice and the supposed hiding of the truth. And that is because of two things:
A. The purpose of my life and of my children’s lives is to keep Torah and commandments. So even if this borders on some degree of lack of choice, the main thing overrides the secondary.
B. It is not really a lack of choice, as mentioned. A lack of choice is putting a person in a temptation-saturated situation that he will find difficult to withstand, and thereby he will justify his views and choices accordingly. Even if he chose that way, in many cases that is the choice of laziness and not a choice made by reason. It is not really his view. (At least that is how I understand the Haredi narrative.)
I would be glad to hear your opinion on the subject. Thank you.