Q&A: How Do Women Merit?
How Do Women Merit?
Question
Assuming that Torah study is a supreme value for me, what is my role in that as a woman? Should it be expressed (also) by looking for a husband who is a Torah scholar and intends to learn full-time, and by giving up both his salary and his education (since apparently there is no practical way both to devote the day only to Torah and also to acquire a significant academic education)?
Answer
Hello,
This can be realized in several ways. First of all, by you yourself studying Torah seriously. In column 479 (see also the references there) I argued that women are obligated in Torah study just like men (aside from the formal commandment, which one fulfills through reciting Shema morning and evening).
Of course, this can also be realized by choosing a spouse who is a Torah scholar, whom you enable to learn and grow in Torah. I would only add that, in my opinion, academic education does not interfere; it actually helps one become a Torah scholar. Other occupations can indeed interfere. To some extent I would say the opposite: without an academic education, it is hard to be a serious Torah scholar. At least a Torah scholar in the full and up-to-date sense. Of course, anything is possible, and one can acquire education and breadth of mind independently as well (you do not have to study at a university), but without a broad education, in my opinion this is a deficient and flawed Torah scholar.
But all of these options are up to your decision. It is not necessary and there is no obligation. The parameters of the commandment of Torah study are flexible, and each person should study as his or her heart moves them and as much as they are able.
Discussion on Answer
“Without an academic education, it is hard to be a serious Torah scholar. At least a Torah scholar in the full and up-to-date sense. Of course, anything is possible, and one can acquire education and breadth of mind independently as well (you do not have to study at a university), but without a broad education, in my opinion this is a deficient and flawed Torah scholar.” Could you explain why? That is, what is so important about broad education for Torah study? And does it matter what one studies at university?
See The Processes Between the Stands, last chapter.
Without general education, you have a narrow perspective and difficulty analyzing complex situations and topics. Talmudic learning technique is not enough to create a Torah scholar. You do not have to study at a university, and what one studies depends on one’s inclinations and abilities. It is worthwhile to have curiosity and interest in many fields.
And my question??
I answered yesterday, and for some reason it apparently did not go up. There are no miracles. When you invest time in another occupation, it comes at the expense of Torah study and Torah and general knowledge.
There is no general algorithm for the proper combination. Even regarding the parameters of Torah study, the obligation is to study as much as you can, alongside work and other pursuits.
What do you mean by “other occupations can indeed interfere”? In your opinion, how can one create a full and proper balance that would make it possible both to work (bring in a salary) and also to become a complete Torah scholar?