Question

Hello, Rabbi,
A question regarding honoring one’s father: I have a father with whom I never got along—and I’m also very hurt by him, because he did not treat me with the love that was called for. In short, he didn’t really respect me, and he did not stand by me in all the times I remember.
My question has two sides: the moral side and the religious side.
From the religious side, the question is: what am I obligated to do in honoring him? For example, am I obligated to visit him? I should note that I have avoided meeting with him for years.
I would be glad to know what, according to Jewish law, should be done in situations like this—are there “limits” to honoring one’s father and mother in a case like mine?
From the moral side, do you think there is an obligation to honor a father who did not honor his son?
Of course, I am sure that in order to answer such a question you need the full story—but I am only trying to check whether I am even generally on the right track, because at the moment the situation is that I do not speak with him at all, a complete break. And I also admit that even if the conclusion is that halakhically and morally I should visit him, it would be hard for him too if not unbearable.
I’ll just add that I also do not hurt him or do anything bad to him—right now I’m simply doing neither good nor bad for him…
 
 
Thank you in advance