Equality in the release of hostages

The discourse over the past decade has talked a lot about equality between women and men and advancing the status of women. That a woman can be a leader, a fighter, and join the fight.
In hostage deals, there is no equality and women are released before men. It may be that due to the sensitivity of the issue, they don't talk about it, but can you tell me what you think about it? Maybe they don't really think that? Why is it so clear that men are physically and mentally stronger and it's obvious to everyone that women should be released first, even though the entire daily discourse talks about equality between men and women, and there is none?