Q&A: Communal Customs and Marriage
Communal Customs and Marriage
Question
I am about to get married soon,
how should one rule regarding Jewish laws in which there are differences in custom between different communities, and which affect both of us, when both I and my fiancée want to continue following our previous customs?
In particular regarding the laws of the Sabbath, Passover, and marital relations.
Answer
Unfortunately, I overlooked this question.
In principle, each of you can remain with your own custom. Of course, there are shared areas where this is difficult, and then you have to decide on an agreed-upon custom.
The common practice in this matter is to follow the husband’s customs (that too is itself a custom), but there is no such obligation. However, if in practice you have already been following the customs of one of you, then annulment is required.