Q&A: Is Hiding Information from My Wife a Breach of Fidelity? (I’m Not Talking About Its Effect on the Marital Relationship)
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Is Hiding Information from My Wife a Breach of Fidelity? (I’m Not Talking About Its Effect on the Marital Relationship)
Question
From the standpoint of values and moral norms, is there any deficiency in not telling my wife certain details about me—for example, sharing information that others told me and do not want anyone else to know, including my wife? In short: hiding information from one’s spouse, when it is unrelated to the marital relationship—does that violate the fidelity that is required?
Answer
No. If someone asks you not to tell, it may be that there is no actual prohibition against telling, since the person speaking should take that into account. But it is appropriate to ask him about it. And if, as you wrote, the person does not want it to reach your wife, then it seems obvious to me that you should not tell her.