Question

Hello Rabbi,
I wanted to consult with the Rabbi about something, and from that also ask a more fundamental question related to deliberations in general. From a quick impression of questions asked on the site about this topic, it seems that the Rabbi does not really deal much with or advise on questions like these, but I nevertheless thought that if I tried to present the question in a more personal and precise way, you might be able to help me. I should add that your opinion is important to me, and I gain a great deal from the Rabbi's books and the answers on the site, so this is also an opportunity to say thank you.
Although I assume you prefer that people ask you questions on the site, I thought this question is a bit more personal, and I would prefer to ask it only to the Rabbi. I hope that is okay.
I am a yeshiva student (22), and following several times recently when marriage matches were suggested to me (and I declined), the question came up for me whether it would be worthwhile for me to get married. Let me explain. It seems to me that in such a question the central point is the very desire to get married. On that issue, I feel somewhere in the middle: on the one hand, it does not seem irrelevant to me anymore (as it would have if I had thought about it a year ago, for example), but on the other hand, I do not feel that it is burning urgently within me.
As for the other considerations, this is what occurred to me: A. At the moment, thank God, I am learning well, and I intend to continue in yeshiva. My impression is that learning as a single yeshiva student is better (much more time and immersion in learning). Even though presumably in some amount of time (about a year) I will start meeting at the latest anyway (that is how it seems to me), it could be that I am losing a period of better learning. B. On the other hand, I thought that the fact that I am not especially pressured to get married may not necessarily mean much, because from what I know of myself, it does not seem likely that even much later I will feel especially pressured to get married either (thank God, I am doing well where I am). C. There is also an argument that it is better to go through the process of building a home in a thoughtful way and not out of pressure, although I imagine there are intermediate stages where on the one hand I would feel more desire, but on the other hand still not feel pressure. D. There is another point I thought of: maybe it would be worthwhile to try, in order to clarify for myself how I feel, to go on some dates and see whether it is relevant or not.
So I wanted to ask the Rabbi what he thinks in light of these points: to what extent should the decision to get married depend on a serious desire, and how much weight should be given to the learning of a single yeshiva student as opposed to that of a married man (if at all). Of course I would be glad if the Rabbi has other significant considerations that I have not thought of and that might shed light. Likewise, I thought it could be that I am simply making too much of this with all the thinking about every possible angle, and maybe this is not such a fateful decision as it feels to me (especially together with what I wrote in point D).
From here I wanted to turn to a question that bothers me more on the fundamental level, and is connected to deliberations in general. Many times, when I am deliberating over big things (it may be that here this is not really a big decision, but for some reason it feels significant to me, perhaps because it is connected to marriage, which is certainly a significant event), I feel helpless in my ability to choose. I examine the different sides and raise considerations this way and that, but in the end I always feel that from the start I am already leaning in some direction (even before the intellectual justification), and that determines the result in a fairly lasting way.
The question is whether, in the Rabbi's opinion, it could be that in considerations like these, which are apparently based on many prior factors, a person really chooses less at the moment of action itself? And more generally (also in less fateful decisions), in decisions that are not between something positive and something negative, but between positive things, and are based on prior values.
Whether that is so or not, I feel difficulty deciding in big matters, and usually I feel that I am dragged along by my initial intuitions (and I also usually validate that with all kinds of arguments). Does the Rabbi have any advice on this?
Thank you very much, and forgive me if this is long and burdensome. I tried to give as accurate a picture as possible of the situation.